How would you handle this?

[Far Side Of the Moon]

Man.. What would u do in my situation... I have bad anxiety and I kind of avoided my friends,,,these are friends I made online but I gave them my number( known them for 3 years...they're totally cool, they're really good and understanding they also have some form of anxiety)

However, I distance my self because my anxiety gets worse and I don't want to be a burden on them...but mainly because we all started out depressed and anxious and they somehow made it out, they graduated and are moving on with their lives. I'm the only one frozen in time...and I get so jealous hearing how well their lives are going. I love them..

I just wish I could progress like them, I try but bc of some obstacles I get no where and it sucks...its sucks to hear how well their lives are going and how [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] mine is..honestly it gives me a panic attack because it shows me that life is passing me by.

Theyrr great friends.. But I get jealoue, and I don't want them to see my sh*t show of a life.,, what would u do.? Dodge them or... What?

Also, when I am bymyself, I feel more at peace because there's no constant comparison,...

I just feel bad because one friend called out of the blue an hour ago,,,and I just felt like I couldn't text back.,..I didn't want to .. I don't know.

Please help.

 

[Maria.V.H]

Man.. What would u do in my situation... I have bad anxiety and I kind of avoided my friends,,,these are friends I made online but I gave them my number( known them for 3 years...they're totally cool, they're really good and understanding they also have some form of anxiety)

However, I distance my self because my anxiety gets worse and I don't want to be a burden on them...but mainly because we all started out depressed and anxious and they somehow made it out, they graduated and are moving on with their lives. I'm the only one frozen in time...and I get so jealous hearing how well their lives are going. I love them..

I just wish I could progress like them, I try but bc of some obstacles I get no where and it sucks...its sucks to hear how well their lives are going and how [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] mine is..honestly it gives me a panic attack because it shows me that life is passing me by.

Theyrr great friends.. But I get jealoue, and I don't want them to see my sh*t show of a life.,, what would u do.? Dodge them or... What?

Also, when I am bymyself, I feel more at peace because there's no constant comparison,...

I just feel bad because one friend called out of the blue an hour ago,,,and I just felt like I couldn't text back.,..I didn't want to .. I don't know.

Please help.

I have never read anything i could relate to more! Thank you dear for writting so honest.

It´s so annoying feeling left outside when all the others are inside, and i totally understand your feelings. I think you feel jealous because you wish you were with them, on their level, but you are not. This is the tricky thing, because i feel it´s mixed emotions, on one hand i think that you are happy for them but on the other you wish it was you so you could all be alike, it´s very normal to feel like that.

I can not guide you, the only thing i can tell you, because i have been in your shoes, and rejected people is how it turned out. It was a quick fix. You know like finding friends that look exactly like you so you don´t stand out, but what do we learn from that??? I´m very lonely today because of that.

In reality if you turn it around, if your friends liked you for you, they would understand that you are not there on their level and support you, you are not less because you are not there where they are, in fact it is only a way for them to love you more, and maybe your friend called you because of concern for you, did you ever think about that??? Maybe they truly care for you based on your personality not based on how many problems you have.Friendship is about support and love, not being on the same level, because no one is and it should not be the thing that holds us together.

If you keep contact with your friends i think it will teach you to accept your situation compared to people who does not have the same problems as you, but that takes a lot from your friends as well because they need to remember what it felt like to feel bad and sometimes those two can´t connect because people so easily forget. The easiest thing would be to close the door, and just do you, but i would really wish i had not closed the door if i think about it today, because it´s a way of never getting out of anxietys claws.

Thank you for sharing!

 

[S.O.J.I.A.]

More proof that the majority of people don't actually have any friends. They only have acquaintances and activity partners.

 

[Dally]

Yes, I can relate as well. I have a friend who is just awesome to be around. I struggle sometimes because he has a career going for him and, I'm trying to get back into college because I'm suspended for not meeting the academic level.
God says, somewhere in the Bible, that a good friend will stick around like family.
Friends are there through thick and thin.

 

[dayofgrace]

Man.. What would u do in my situation... I have bad anxiety and I kind of avoided my friends,,,these are friends I made online but I gave them my number( known them for 3 years...they're totally cool, they're really good and understanding they also have some form of anxiety)

However, I distance my self because my anxiety gets worse and I don't want to be a burden on them...but mainly because we all started out depressed and anxious and they somehow made it out, they graduated and are moving on with their lives. I'm the only one frozen in time...and I get so jealous hearing how well their lives are going. I love them..

I just wish I could progress like them, I try but bc of some obstacles I get no where and it sucks...its sucks to hear how well their lives are going and how [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] mine is..honestly it gives me a panic attack because it shows me that life is passing me by.

Theyrr great friends.. But I get jealoue, and I don't want them to see my sh*t show of a life.,, what would u do.? Dodge them or... What?

Also, when I am bymyself, I feel more at peace because there's no constant comparison,...

I just feel bad because one friend called out of the blue an hour ago,,,and I just felt like I couldn't text back.,..I didn't want to .. I don't know.

Please help.

You seem to have unrealistic expectations on yourself, did you know that.

Ask our father who is in heaven to remove this obstacle that is keeping you from seeing your situation properly.

Amen.

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

I have never read anything i could relate to more! Thank you dear for writting so honest.

It´s so annoying feeling left outside when all the others are inside, and i totally understand your feelings. I think you feel jealous because you wish you were with them, on their level, but you are not. This is the tricky thing, because i feel it´s mixed emotions, on one hand i think that you are happy for them but on the other you wish it was you so you could all be alike, it´s very normal to feel like that.

I can not guide you, the only thing i can tell you, because i have been in your shoes, and rejected people is how it turned out. It was a quick fix. You know like finding friends that look exactly like you so you don´t stand out, but what do we learn from that??? I´m very lonely today because of that.

In reality if you turn it around, if your friends liked you for you, they would understand that you are not there on their level and support you, you are not less because you are not there where they are, in fact it is only a way for them to love you more, and maybe your friend called you because of concern for you, did you ever think about that??? Maybe they truly care for you based on your personality not based on how many problems you have.Friendship is about support and love, not being on the same level, because no one is and it should not be the thing that holds us together.

If you keep contact with your friends i think it will teach you to accept your situation compared to people who does not have the same problems as you, but that takes a lot from your friends as well because they need to remember what it felt like to feel bad and sometimes those two can´t connect because people so easily forget. The easiest thing would be to close the door, and just do you, but i would really wish i had not closed the door if i think about it today, because it´s a way of never getting out of anxietys claws.

Thank you for sharing!

Yes that's totally it, I do wish I was on their level..and after talking to someone he helped me to mellow out... He said , maybe they're in your life for a reason.,.and these friends are so kind and understanding its crazy... Its crazy that I found people..,like me,,, so I feel like I shouldn't throw them away because it took a while to find them and if be lonely without them.... After that talk it made me realize ..life is short and all about taking risks,., so I can't let the fear of them eventually leaving me make me cut them off, it is what it is.., I just want to be a good of friend to them as they were to me... And just be there for them throughout it all. It will be tough...but I owe them that because they accepted me flaws and all..

And you're right about them helping me to accept my own situation... All I can be is me.,, you either love it or hate it...and if they're okay with it...I should be too.,, its gonna be hard but I'm willing to do it.

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

You seem to have unrealistic expectations on yourself, did you know that.

Ask our father who is in heaven to remove this obstacle that is keeping you from seeing your situation properly.

Amen.

You're probably right,

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

Yes, I can relate as well. I have a friend who is just awesome to be around. I struggle sometimes because he has a career going for him and, I'm trying to get back into college because I'm suspended for not meeting the academic level.
God says, somewhere in the Bible, that a good friend will stick around like family.
Friends are there through thick and thin.

Yes this is me, 2 already graduated...one is still in school and I also got suspended and because of financial issues it set me back farther then them...but You're right these are good people, I can talk to them like family and people like this are hard to find.

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

More proof that the majority of people don't actually have any friends. They only have acquaintances and activity partners.

Huh? U mean me? I don't think I'm a good standard to be measured up against...because I'm not like my peers..in a bit socially awkward and behind them.

 

[Maria.V.H]

Yes that's totally it, I do wish I was on their level..and after talking to someone he helped me to mellow out... He said , maybe they're in your life for a reason.,.and these friends are so kind and understanding its crazy... Its crazy that I found people..,like me,,, so I feel like I shouldn't throw them away because it took a while to find them and if be lonely without them.... After that talk it made me realize ..life is short and all about taking risks,., so I can't let the fear of them eventually leaving me make me cut them off, it is what it is.., I just want to be a good of friend to them as they were to me... And just be there for them throughout it all. It will be tough...but I owe them that because they accepted me flaws and all..

And you're right about them helping me to accept my own situation... All I can be is me.,, you either love it or hate it...and if they're okay with it...I should be too.,, its gonna be hard but I'm willing to do it.

I´m proud of you dear!!!!!!! You will get there, don´t loose hope, just take baby steps, it is so hard changing what we feel about ourselves especially when we have anxiety, people think it´s so easy, but it´s not!!!

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

I´m proud of you dear!!!!!!! You will get there, don´t loose hope, just take baby steps, it is so hard changing what we feel about ourselves especially when we have anxiety, people think it´s so easy, but it´s not!!!

Right .....it isn't easy but these friends are worth having.

 

[S.O.J.I.A.]

Huh? U mean me? I don't think I'm a good standard to be measured up against...because I'm not like my peers..in a bit socially awkward and behind them.

it's everyone, and if these people were truly your friends your "social awkwardness" and "being behind them" wouldn't matter.

as believers, it a sin for us to despise the poor and disenfranchised(james 2:1-9).

you don't want to pick up the phone and talk to these people because you know this. if they find out who you truly are, they will reject you, which means they never were your friends to begin with and the connection you had with them was based on a shared social predicament you were all in at one time.

I'm not going to tell you to find new friends, i'm gonna tell you to find some friends and that's gonna be hard in a world that runs on shallowness and superficiality.

i'll say it again, acquaintances and associates are a dime a dozen but a friend is rare and very few people have one.

 

[Jeshu]

Man.. What would u do in my situation... I have bad anxiety and I kind of avoided my friends,,,these are friends I made online but I gave them my number( known them for 3 years...they're totally cool, they're really good and understanding they also have some form of anxiety)

However, I distance my self because my anxiety gets worse and I don't want to be a burden on them...but mainly because we all started out depressed and anxious and they somehow made it out, they graduated and are moving on with their lives. I'm the only one frozen in time...and I get so jealous hearing how well their lives are going. I love them..

I just wish I could progress like them, I try but bc of some obstacles I get no where and it sucks...its sucks to hear how well their lives are going and how [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] mine is..honestly it gives me a panic attack because it shows me that life is passing me by.

Theyrr great friends.. But I get jealoue, and I don't want them to see my sh*t show of a life.,, what would u do.? Dodge them or... What?

Also, when I am bymyself, I feel more at peace because there's no constant comparison,...

I just feel bad because one friend called out of the blue an hour ago,,,and I just felt like I couldn't text back.,..I didn't want to .. I don't know.

Please help.

See here is where the lessons of love come handy sis. Love does not envy, it rejoices in good, it always trusts right.

Follow this route! I wouldn't hide away from my friends because they are doing good - this is envy in you not wanting to face his failure to ever get any success - rather follow Christ and copy Him. He loves unconditionally - He accepts unconditionally and completely! So dump envy and how it makes you feel and keep doing that and strive to love and rejoice in the good fortune of others, while you bleed for those who suffer hardships. That is how love's nature goes within us the Spirit seeks His love to rule our hearts and minds and set us free from feeling and thinking unhealthy thoughts.

In this world we need to constant feed our egos, I really fell for that trap too, this feeds envy far side as you can see, also hatred, dissatisfaction, greed, arrogance, dishonesty and finally fear. However with Jesus life doesn't go like that! With Jesus then in our egoistical tendencies/self we see our anti-Christ likeness and humble ourselves and put ourselves at the end of the line and put love for God and neighbour upfront instead.

Honest far side at the end of the line is far better with Jesus in tow than being upfront all the time as satan wants us to be like all those others in this world. Bloody satan favours some but hates most people, especially good people. In the mean time building strong egos causes us to become desolate each day a bit more for we give all our good life to that tyrant dominating our feelings through our ego and through our fearful selves.

1 Peter 2:1-3
Therefore, rid yourselves of all malice and all deceit, hypocrisy, envy, and slander of every kind. Like newborn babies, crave pure spiritual milk, so that by it you may grow up in your salvation, now that you have tasted that the Lord is good.