How to tell My Husband?

stonek2 said:

Quickies? I'm very happy to have quickies.
I think our biggest problem is different sex drives. I would like to have it everyday and my husband wants it way, way less than that. He enjoys it alot when we do have it, believe me and I do too.
With that said, he would be happy to have sex couple times a month and I am very unhappy to have it that little. Right now I talk him into it as much as possible. This is an area we will need to keep working on in our marriage.

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Increased testosterone level can be achieved by a man doing deep knee bends.
Also the increase in the hormone DHEA increases sex drive. Makes people feel better too.

IrvRiv said:

I think the only times I ever turned down sex are when I was in the Army and worked like 20 hours straight or something. Other than that, I've always been good to go. I hope that when I get old, I'm not a guy who measures his frequency of sex in how many times a month. I would die. I love nakedness and showers too much.

I am shocked and appalled at the number of women on here paired up with guys with low libidos. Sometimes I wonder if ya'll are lying because that can't possibly be true. Society stresses that all men are horn dogs.

I just had to let that out.

Anyway do you think that you guys could rub each others backs? Try an experiment or something... do what you can to satisfy his love language completely for one week, and the next see if he can satisfy yours for one week... and then the next week, both at the same time! (how original) or heck, maybe do his language one day, yours the next and both of yours the following.

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There are men out there who do NOT want sex as much as their wives...I know it's hard to believe..It was hard for ME to swallow when my marriage turned out that way..My husband is was very happy and content with once a month..even longer...You'd be suprised at how many men actually dont care so much about it. <frowns>

stonek2 said:

We clearly know each others love languages and my husband tells me he is very happy and filled in our marriage. He tells me he feels I meet his needs and he is content the way things are for us. No change needed. I like the way things are in many ways too, but not the amount of sex we have or lack of sex. It's very hard for me to hear my husband say to me that I think of sex too much and that I am
a over-sexed thinker. Now that is painful.

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Ahhh I remember those days..They say when your not having sex, it becomes the most needed thing..the most important..and when you are having sex it becomes not so important..does that make sense?
I have a husband..(currently seperated about 6 months) who struggles with intimacy..sex only once a month..maybe longer..I couldnt get my needs met..He even told me once that he was stressed out to come to bed becuase he feard i would want to have sex with him..<ouch that hurt so much> I used to buy books for us to read..he refused..i asked him to go to counselling with me..he refused..things got progressivly worse over time (married 16 years) I found he was viewing porn again..<sighs> He's done that off and on for 10 yeras or more..anyways..I know how you feel..its hard to want to be able to express yourself to your husband..and that is the best way for us women..we love closeness and touch and just love..this issue can hurt your relationship..I would suggest maybe counselling to just see what could be underlying there..if not..maybe your husband can go see the doctor adn explain whats happening with his lack of desire..maybe a doctor can help..
anyways..bottom line..I hope your pryaing about it too..God knows what your desires are and he wants to give them to you..keep praying for God to help your husband have the desire to be with you more often..
God bless you

dayknee said:

There are men out there who do NOT want sex as much as their wives...I know it's hard to believe..It was hard for ME to swallow when my marriage turned out that way..My husband is was very happy and content with once a month..even longer...You'd be suprised at how many men actually dont care so much about it. <frowns>

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Hehe, I still don't get it. I have one glass of wine and I'm ready to go. Speaking of which... anyone know the health benefits of sex? I heard it gives you clearer skin or something somewhere. As well as burning calories... I like that on days I don't work out.

dayknee said:

Ahhh I remember those days..They say when your not having sex, it becomes the most needed thing..the most important..and when you are having sex it becomes not so important..does that make sense?

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Yeah, I heard that first on an episode of Dr. Phil!! Not that I watch Dr. Phil or anything.. it just happened to be on... Seems to be quite true though.

choosen4life said:

I think everything is going to be ok. I think satin can really temp us on certian things like porn. But in your case i'm thinking it could be more of curiosity then temptation. Dont beat yourself on this Just know that God forgives us and move forward.

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I find cotton more tempting than satin.