Wait does this mean the jokes on me?
I like sex, but does that make me a sex maniac or something?
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Wait does this mean the jokes on me?You know... the fact that there are so many instances where women with desireable sex drives are paired up with men who would ask an atrocious question like, "Is sex all you think about" PROVES to me that God has a wicked sense of humour.
Nah... the joke isn't really on anyone. But I think that God offers a lot of interesting variety on Earth so that the angels in Heaven watching Reality TV have something to chuckle about.Wait does this mean the jokes on me?
I like sex, but does that make me a sex maniac or something?
Mike, I think you are a fair thinker and nice, but in my heart I don't think "I" should look at porn as a christian.You're supposed to like sex. You're okay. Then again, I'm one of the (apparently rare) people who wouldn't much mind if my spouse was viewing porn, so maybe what I say shouldn't count.
So, are you talking about your wife viewing guy/girl intercourse stuff? Or are you talking about your wife getting herself off from watching a guy with ripped abs and pecks giving himself a soapy shower?You're supposed to like sex. You're okay. Then again, I'm one of the (apparently rare) people who wouldn't much mind if my spouse was viewing porn, so maybe what I say shouldn't count.
Mike, I think you are a fair thinker and nice, but in my heart I don't think "I" should look at porn as a christian. Even if I did do it, I know it was wrong.
So, are you talking about your wife viewing guy/girl intercourse stuff?
I think I used to think that I was okay with the idea as well... but then I ran the latter scenario in my mind and realized that I'd probably feel insecure and hurt, especially since my six-pack disappeared when I turned 28.
Well, it may be stressFUL for your husband. This was a bit of an issue for my husband and I because while I am find sex rejuvenating, my husband finds it draining. I think this is part because physical touch is MY love language but not his. I really had to learn to love him in a way that rejuvenated him (in his case, LOTS of affirmation and talking) so that he would in turn have the energy to fulfill my needs.SEX spells stress relief to me, why doesn't my husband see it that way?
Yes we have read it. I'm physical touch and he's words of affirmation/time. It's frustrating and even upsetting to me without the physical. I do tell him how much I appreciate and admire him. We spend quality time as much as we can when we are not working. He is very happy and content. I have alot to be thankful for and he is a really great husband in so many other ways. Why do I feel hurt?Well, it may be stressFUL for your husband. This was a bit of an issue for my husband and I because while I am find sex rejuvenating, my husband finds it draining. I think this is part because physical touch is MY love language but not his. I really had to learn to love him in a way that rejuvenated him (in his case, LOTS of affirmation and talking) so that he would in turn have the energy to fulfill my needs.
Have you read The Five Love Languages?
I feel terrible and so disappointed in myself.
For some reason and for the life of me I don't know what or why, but I looked at porn on the internet.
Erotic stories was my first temptation and then next thing I know I am looking at full porn. I have looked at it before a year ago, but nothing at all since.
Why, why did I do this, because this is not how I want to live. So, I have failed God, myself and my husband.
I feel sick and I don't even want to tell my husband though I feel I should. I looked at it and I know it was wrong. I feel like I could throw up, sorry to say that.
Any advice?
Quickies? I'm very happy to have quickies.Quickies? I was wondering if part of his hesitation is that sex means a long time and effort consuming event. That is part of my hesitency. Quickies would be just fine.
Wow the forum restrictions on what we can say and how we can say it.
What about a 68 or something similar?
A quick pause that refrershes, mouth and fingers etc.. . Just an idea that would sure work for me.
We clearly know each others love languages and my husband tells me he is very happy and filled in our marriage. He tells me he feels I meet his needs and he is content the way things are for us. No change needed. I like the way things are in many ways too, but not the amount of sex we have or lack of sex. It's very hard for me to hear my husband say to me that I think of sex too much and that I amI think the only times I ever turned down sex are when I was in the Army and worked like 20 hours straight or something. Other than that, I've always been good to go. I hope that when I get old, I'm not a guy who measures his frequency of sex in how many times a month. I would die. I love nakedness and showers too much.
I am shocked and appalled at the number of women on here paired up with guys with low libidos. Sometimes I wonder if ya'll are lying because that can't possibly be true. Society stresses that all men are horn dogs.
I just had to let that out.
Anyway do you think that you guys could rub each others backs? Try an experiment or something... do what you can to satisfy his love language completely for one week, and the next see if he can satisfy yours for one week... and then the next week, both at the same time! (how original) or heck, maybe do his language one day, yours the next and both of yours the following.
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