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How to tell if girl friend is the one? Advice

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GF and i broke up while ago... we were together almost 2 years... how do i know if these feelings i have are just feelings of lonelyness and me just wanting her back or if they are signs then me and her are ment to be... please help...

Feelings are feelings. They aren't to be ignored, but they aren't the only indicator of things, and generally they can be a poor indicator of reality. Feelings are changed by your perceptions, your thoughts, things you hear or see, and last night's 5-alarm chili rolling inverted iron maidens through your digestive system.

The point is that your feelings after a break-up are often fickle and based on superficial things. That doesn't mean your heartache is insignificant, but here's my advice:

Get involved in living life. Don't wallow in your grief. Depression will drag you down, but you can fight it by staying active. I'm not sure if your ex-girlfriend is "the one"; forums on the Internet with complete strangers are rarely good places for that kind of advice.

What I can tell you is that you should make every effort to involve yourself in making yourself a better person. Make a list of your goals as a single person, and start trying to achieve them. You don't want to look back at this point in your life as wasted time because you were caught in depression, self-pity, and indecision.
 
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