Best Friend Problems

[GodDoesListen55]

My best friend is currently staying with my ex in order to help him out with his children. Sweet gesture, right? Wrong! He still blames me for the past. He was the abuser mentally, emotionally, verbally, physically, sexually, and even spiritually. We have not been together since 2015. He still talks about me. This is what she texts me. John said this about you. John said that about you. It is tiring, to say the least. I am not going to go into detail because I do not want to trigger anyone else. But I honestly do not know what to do at this point. Do I stay friends with her? Do I distance myself? Do I do nothing or just let it go? Do I remain there for her even though it hurts me? I feel so lost right now, and it is truly breaking my heart! Well, thank you all for listening.

 

[Maria Billingsley]

My best friend is currently staying with my ex in order to help him out with his children. Sweet gesture, right? Wrong! He still blames me for the past. He was the abuser mentally, emotionally, verbally, physically, sexually, and even spiritually. We have not been together since 2015. He still talks about me. This is what she texts me. John said this about you. John said that about you. It is tiring, to say the least. I am not going to go into detail because I do not want to trigger anyone else. But I honestly do not know what to do at this point. Do I stay friends with her? Do I distance myself? Do I do nothing or just let it go? Do I remain there for her even though it hurts me? I feel so lost right now, and it is truly breaking my heart! Well, thank you all for listening.

Very odd situation! I gather this is an X boyfriend and his kids not yours. Did you ask your friend why she has this connection with him? Are they actually in a relationship? A best friend would not do this. Time to cut ties for your mental health.
Blessings.

 

[Larniavc]

My best friend is currently staying with my ex in order to help him out with his children. Sweet gesture, right? Wrong! He still blames me for the past. He was the abuser mentally, emotionally, verbally, physically, sexually, and even spiritually. We have not been together since 2015. He still talks about me. This is what she texts me. John said this about you. John said that about you. It is tiring, to say the least. I am not going to go into detail because I do not want to trigger anyone else. But I honestly do not know what to do at this point. Do I stay friends with her? Do I distance myself? Do I do nothing or just let it go? Do I remain there for her even though it hurts me? I feel so lost right now, and it is truly breaking my heart! Well, thank you all for listening.

Have you tried asking her to stop texting you with that sort of detail?

 

[GodDoesListen55]

No, I have not discussed cutting all ties with her. We have been through a lot together over the years. I am not sure I am ready for that just yet. Thank you for your replies!