How to stop sinning

[Anguspure]

And women should be wary of us, knowing that we Christians are marrying them to have someone "to put it in." Or to avoid touching themselves. They should mean more to us than that.

We don't find wives to relieve sexual frustration.....that is the job of a harlot.....not a wife.

While I agree with your sentiment about @Daniel C s comment, (it was not I who made that particular comment), as Christian men we are not allowed harlots and they are not a whole lot of use as partners in life.
The addiction that is attached to sex (that many of us have so much trouble with) is supposed to work to bind a marriage. But when men express the truth about that it becomes something for women to be disgusted about.
The truth seems to be that if we ever wish to find a partner we need to be as cunning as the snake in the garden.

 

[PeterJames0510]

It's called a penis, and it is used in sexual intercourse.

Perhaps the reason why so many people in the Church are completely confused about sex is that we're talking about sex like we're all eight years old and are afraid the grownups are going to find us giggling about genitals.

-CryptoLutheran

Really, words like p*nis and v*gina should be reserved for husbands and wives who talk to each other privately or to healthcare concerns.

The problem with this society today is we are too loose with words and morals and people too easily have license to do or say anything they want with each other. I was taught especially when other women are around, males do not shake their hands unless she extends first ... you don't talk about sexual matters in mixed companies ... when a woman stands up on the stage (really, a stage used to be a pulpit, but not the ambo is being called the pulpit), you stand to your feet to give deference until she leaves the platform.

 

[Theodore_Harris]

We don't find wives to relieve sexual frustration.....that is the job of a harlot.....not a wife.

Not according to St Paul...

 

[fwGod]

Hi I realy want to stop sinning the only sin where I'm struggling whit is mastrubation... I want to stop sinning to come closer to God.
But if I try to stop whit mastrubation I stop for 2 days or sometimes 1 and then I fail over and over... Everytime I say to my self this time I realy gonna stop but I fail again.. Someone have tips to stop sinning?

God is for you, not against you. Don't let your sin keep you from God. You need to be close to God in spite of your weakness.

Get forgiveness and cleansing from unrighteous deeds. Just say "I repent for yielding to that weakness of my flesh. And I receive cleansing.
Thank you Lord that you are working in me to will and do of Your good pleasure. Thank You Lord that You love me. Thank You Lord that You help me with this."

When Jesus was tempted, what did he do? He didn't say "I will overcome this.." No, he said "It is written.."

So it's not your own ability that you rely on but God's strength. However, relying is an action word. There is no quick fix that doesn't require self-discipline.

It's similar to studying school books in order to pass the test. So, I suggest that you look for what's written in God's word to be your means of overcoming temptations.

There are many scriptures that talk about having strength to overcome. Another topic is concerning God's love for you. So build yourself up on your most holy faith and keep yourself in the love of God.

Find scriptures to use in fighting the battles against the flesh. James said that a man can train a horse by putting a bit in it's mouth, and a ship is turned by a small rudder. By that he was saying that one who controls his own tongue can control his whole body.

The important thing is to have an abundance. Like the apostle Paul said "Allow the Word of God to richly dwell in you." And like Jesus said "Out of the abundance in the heart the mouth speaks."

So put them on deposit in your heart so that they become your first reaction in time of temptation. Make your confessions of faith without wavering. Persistence wins and God's love never fails.

 

[PeterJames0510]

Not according to St Paul...

Did Paul mean just find any old woman whom you can marry so you don't fornicate with others? Was there never any consideration about love or intimacy?

I'll have to look at the passage again, but I don't believe Paul was discounting the love of Christ in a marriage.

 

[RaymondG]

Not according to St Paul...

Not according to your interpretation of Pauls......Whose saying are hard to be understood....yet many believe they understand them after reading it the first time and pondering them in their carnal minds.

 

[RaymondG]

While I agree with your sentiment about @Daniel C s comment, (it was not I who made that particular comment), as Christian men we are not allowed harlots and they are not a whole lot of use as partners in life.
The addiction that is attached to sex (that many of us have so much trouble with) is supposed to work to bind a marriage. But when men express the truth about that it becomes something for women to be disgusted about.
The truth seems to be that if we ever wish to find a partner we need to be as cunning as the snake in the garden.

I know it was not you who made the comment.......I only try to reason with the reasonable....and ignore the unreasonable.

I believe sex is a compliment in marriage and not a reason to get married, stay married, or get divorced.

If any man has a problem with sexual addictions....this should be worked out before bringing another soul into their life.

One must be in full control of their own house before starting a family with another.

If we use sex as a reason to get married....we must also allow the lack of sex to be a valid religious reason to get out of the marriage.

What God puts together, no man can draw asunder.... He is the glue....the bind......not sex.......in my opinion.

 

[Daniel C]

Not much humility in this conversation from a few people. It's not good to take self so serious or high. Pride will inevitably follow.

 

[PeterJames0510]

Not much humility in this conversation from a few people. It's not good to take self so serious or high. Pride will inevitably follow.

And you are the expert on humility?

 

[RaymondG]

And you are the expert on humility?

Humility does not look for and point out pride. Only pride can notice pride.

 

[Anguspure]

I know it was not you who made the comment.......I only try to reason with the reasonable....and ignore the unreasonable.

I believe sex is a compliment in marriage and not a reason to get married, stay married, or get divorced.

If any man has a problem with sexual addictions....this should be worked out before bringing another soul into their life.

One must be in full control of their own house before starting a family with another.

If we use sex as a reason to get married....we must also allow the lack of sex to be a valid religious reason to get out of the marriage.

What God puts together, no man can draw asunder.... He is the glue....the bind......not sex.......in my opinion.

So why then do you think that God made sex as addictive (to men) as any drug invented by mankind?

I can accept the fact that I must not be a user of drugs, but what does a person do when their wife has been stripped from them? Quite apart from the loneliness and isolation, as well as the general religious ostracization, the sexual deprivation is insufferable.

Clearly God has stated that what He has put together, let no man break apart, and clearly it is for this reason. It is well known that the loss of a spouse is second only to the loss of a child in terms of suffering and grief, and this is why adultery was punishable by death in the Law, it was recognised as being that serious...and yet in our culture we are expected to be hard hearted and composed about it all and act as if it's a normal part of life.

The Church believes that close personal relationship can and should be formed between Adam and Steve, that the only difference between that relationship and that between Adam and Eve is sex, and so offers that as a substitute because sex is unacceptable.

But I can tell you that after most of my life in the company of men I would not be disappointed if I never saw another one, all they have ever done is guided me in lonely and isolated ways. Yet I long for the companionship and physical intimacy with my wife, and sex was a very big part of that.

 

[Daniel C]

And you are the expert on humility?

There's only one expert on that and it's not me.

 

[Leet]

Daniel C stop using your straw man babble about homosexuality (which is a sin, duh) to try and justify being an absolute male chauvinist pig.

 

[ViaCrucis]

Really, words like p*nis and v*gina should be reserved for husbands and wives who talk to each other privately or to healthcare concerns.

Most of us don't live in a bizzaro world of repression.

-CryptoLutheran

 

[1213]

um how do i repent and return to God?

Repent means that one understands he has done wrongly, regrets and don’t want to do the wrong things anymore. So, I would say, if you have done something wrong, ask forgiveness and don’t continue to do the wrong things.

 

[PeterJames0510]

Most of us don't live in a bizzaro world of repression.

-CryptoLutheran

And that would be the reason why today:

#1) You have an increase in porn use
#2) You have a constant attempt to separate pleasure from procreation
#3) And we're losing the culture wars.

 

[ViaCrucis]

And we're losing the culture wars.

The "culture wars" is manufactured garbage employed by false religionists who are more interested in power than the Gospel of Jesus Christ.

-CryptoLutheran

 

[PeterJames0510]

The "culture wars" is manufactured garbage employed by false religionists who are more interested in power than the Gospel of Jesus Christ.

-CryptoLutheran

Right ... that couldn't possibly be the reason why we see a pandemic of suicides in this country, empty wells everywhere.

 

[ViaCrucis]

Right ... that couldn't possibly be the reason why we see a pandemic of suicides in this country, empty wells everywhere.

I mean...no. The "culture wars" have nothing to do with suicide.

-CryptoLutheran

 

[PeterJames0510]

I mean...no. The "culture wars" have nothing to do with suicide.

-CryptoLutheran

Really? No connection between the culture of life and death that constantly wages war on our soul, leading to constant despair because we've told Christians - ahh. Wear whatever you want to church; lust all you want; the society is too repressed, so be easy.

There is a connection more than you think.