How to react if a girl flirts with you?

[r035198x]

Thank yall for your advice/replies...

Don't listen to them. Keep your hands out of sight.

"Flirt back", they say. So that you look like a complete idiot when she suddenly switches off and starts freaking out at your reaction.

 

[Rhye]

Don't listen to them. Keep your hands out of sight.

"Flirt back", they say. So that you look like a complete idiot when she suddenly switches off and starts freaking out at your reaction.

You should not say that completely.

You can flirt back if you sense she is interested of course. Just because someone flirts with you, it doesn't mean you have the jump in head first and feel as though you are going start dating or being in a relationship with them.
Build confidence. That's all! And take some time. Don't rush!

 

[r035198x]

You should not say that completely.

You can flirt back if you sense she is interested of course. Just because someone flirts with you, it doesn't mean you have the jump in head first and feel as though you are going start dating or being in a relationship with them.
Build confidence. That's all! And take some time. Don't rush!

So then, there are rules and limits. Instead of the pie chart you have to be making a time series plot every night and carry a thermometer and barometer around to gauge exactly how much you can flirt.

 

[StartedAtEly]

I must admit I don't even notice when a girl is flirting. I am not very good at detecting subtle signs

 

[Tamara224]

Thank yall for your advice/replies...

One of my other significant problems is that I'm very nervous around girls, it's hard and almost impossible for me to get to talk to them unless I know them really well. Is there a way to overcome that?

Yes, there is, and it's quite simple really. Start thinking of girls as human beings, not ETs.

Seriously, most guys who are nervous around girls are nervous because they think we're foreign and weird and unfathomable. The truth is that you have more in common with the females of your species than you don't have in common.

Next time you start to feel nervous around a girl, remind yourself she's a person, just like you are. She has insecurities, pride, quirks, confidences, complexities, etc, just like you do. You may never understand every little thing about her - but you don't understand every little thing about any of the guy friends you have either and that rarely seems to bother men.

I've observed how men interact with one another, and the way they joke around and rib one another isn't that much different than flirting, IMHO.

 

[Rhye]

So then, there are rules and limits. Instead of the pie chart you have to be making a time series plot every night and carry a thermometer and barometer around to gauge exactly how much you can flirt.

Though that does sound enticing to do.

 

[mattybartholomew]

One of my other significant problems is that I'm very nervous around girls, it's hard and almost impossible for me to get to talk to them unless I know them really well. Is there a way to overcome that?

To get over the nervousness, you just need to get out there and talk to as many girls as you can. Google Search "Cold Approaches" and "Pickup Artist Tips"....this will help you talking to women so you lose most of your nervousness.

 

[MacFall]

"Cold Approaches" and "Pickup Artist Tips"

That stuff is for guys who just want to get women into bed. For guys who actually care about getting to know a woman and having an actual relationship, there are other ways, like just not making such a big freaking deal about it.

 

[mattybartholomew]

That stuff is for guys who just want to get women into bed. For guys who actually care about getting to know a woman and having an actual relationship, there are other ways, like just not making such a big freaking deal about it.

That's not true at all.

Granted all of these sites are secular, you won't find a christian pickup guru...<staff edit>....

But what it does it help get women off this pedastal that we have them on.

Some guys need help getting off their butts and talking to girls, getting over the fear and these sites will help.

Don't forget, dating is sales....and in sales when you a green and new...you are afraid to cold call a list of prospects....so you have to have a script and some lines to use to get things flowing until your game is so tight your running on auto pilot...

 

[Dent]

I think it is great. The more flirting that goes on the merrier!

 

[Tehchad]

you won't find a christian pickup guru....because christian men are chumps for the most part.....feminized and emasculated....

I agree that you won't find a Christian PUA, but not bc they are emasculated. You will not find one bc a PUA is really good at the first few hours or day of a relationship. They are not good at taking the flame inside of a woman and inspiring her to become a better woman. They can't do that much less than inspire her to become more Godly.
A Christian, in theory, focuses on becoming more Godly and helping those around them do the same. Life isn't about flirting. Its a nice few minutes, but then its over. What next? What happens 5 years down the road? What happens 35 years down the road?
Life is bigger than that. I'm 27 and God is still opening my eyes to things. Actually, I don't know if that's true. I think He's revealing things to me. It's not that my eyes are being opened. ... I digress.

Life is more than flirting.

 

[BRISH]

Dude, my best advice is just to be yourself, and don't over-think what other people tell you to do or not do. If there's a spark between you and a girl, you'll KNOW it, without having to go home and analyze and ponder and make a pie graph. Just enjoy your life!

^ this

 

[mattybartholomew]

I agree that you won't find a Christian PUA, but not bc they are emasculated.

Christian Men as a whole are an emasculated group.


How the Church has Emasculated Men | No Apologies

How the church has emasculated men


http://community.artofmanliness.com...oes-current-church-culture?xg_source=activity


And "Pick Up" is not about just flirting, it's about attraction. It's kind of like a salesman that could "Open" someone really well, but they suck at leading them through the decision making process and can't close the sale.

Pick Up is also about social dynamics. About getting inside the minds of women and understanding them from that point of view.

 

[Tehchad]

Christian Men as a whole are an emasculated group.


How the Church has Emasculated Men | No Apologies

How the church has emasculated men


Does Current Church Culture Emasculate Men? - Art of Manliness


And "Pick Up" is not about just flirting, it's about attraction. It's kind of like a salesman that could "Open" someone really well, but they suck at leading them through the decision making process and can't close the sale.

Pick Up is also about social dynamics. About getting inside the minds of women and understanding them from that point of view.

Dude. ease up. srsly. Each one of the facts that you stated, I agree with.
1 - you don't find Christian PUAs
2 - Most Christian men are emasculated.
I did not disagree with either.

I DID disagree that 2 ergo 1. 1 is not because of 2.

 

[yam]

Most times girls are just being nice, they are not flriting with you .

 

[TanteBelle]

The example that Techad posted before puts me in real danger of flirting with a lot of blokes ............ oldies too ............. crikey, even girls!!!!!!!! I'm naturally a real lively talker when I meet folks. But hey, I've never been interested in anyone.

 

[Tamara224]

Christian Men as a whole are an emasculated group.

How the Church has Emasculated Men | No Apologies

How the church has emasculated men

These two are the same article. And it just assumes that men are, in fact, emasculated, without any reference to examples or proof of any sort.

Does Current Church Culture Emasculate Men? - Art of Manliness

And this one is a Mormon message board, which actually explains a lot about your posts.

 

[broken_one]

I'd definitely say from my experience in churches that men are being emasculated. He isn't exactly alone in thinking this stuff, IMO.

 

[Paulie079]

The only thing that gets me really apprehensive about flirting with random people is that there's not really a point to it. If it's a girlfriend or a potential girlfriend, that's one thing but just random people in public is a lot different. I think the best advice is just to honor God and the women around you in the way you treat them. Be yourself.

 

[Paulie079]

Oh and I do agree about the whole emasculating thing but it's not entirely the church's fault. A lot of it is that men just aren't challenged to step up and be men, but then when they are challenged, they aren't mature enough to step up to it.

But I also think that you have to know what your definition of Biblical masculinity is before you can really pinpoint the areas where men are being emasculated. It's not like every man in the church isn't a strong man of God or that the church is to be avoided because of the issue. The church really just needs strong men to lead the other men and for other men to respect those that have gone before them and that are leading them. Just a quick thought on that is that in our culture nowadays, the younger generations are the ones being held in higher regard while the elders are seen as being lesser in a way simply because they're older. The wisdom in the elders is not held with much regard anymore even though it really should be. That's a HUGE difference between western and eastern culture right there...