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How to make the evil of others not destroy us?

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Hi everyone, i need help. How do you make the evil of others not destroy your self-esteem? For example at work, with people who mistreat you every day? A boss, co-workers. "Justice, justice will persecute so that you can live and inherit the Earth" (Deuteronomy 16.20) (?). I'd appreciate your answers.
 
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Hi everyone, i need help. How do you make the evil of others not destroy your self-esteem? For example at work, with people who mistreat you every day? A boss, co-workers. I'd appreciate your answers.
Pray for them.

"And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from the evil one." ~ Matthew 6:13
 
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Hi everyone, i need help. How do you make the evil of others not destroy your self-esteem? For example at work, with people who mistreat you every day? A boss, co-workers. "Justice, justice will persecute so that you can live and inherit the Earth" (Deuteronomy 16.20) (?). I'd appreciate your answers.

Beyond what others have said (I only read one, do not wish to be biased), find another job. Pray to God for mercy to find a better job.

Humans can be tyrants. God is no tyrant, but the exact opposite. Just as the anti-christ is called The Tyrant...
 
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I agree with finding another job.

But also, if you must endure for a while (while looking for that other job), I'd say it's also about how you build yourself up in the truth. If your boss is telling you that you're worthless, meditate on Scriptures which talk about your value to God, that sort of thing.
 
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Hello Carolina16
We are all members of the family in the house of God
When one member of the family errors the others will have to suffer likewise
When all members of the family behave in conformance to God's plan will the others benefit as well
This extends all the way from the microcosm to the macrocosm, and you can think of your own atypical family unit as the starting point and extend this all the way up to our entire human family, and the huge universal family as well
There can be perceived deliberating time related injustice in our world in the short-run
But you should have faith in the fairness of our universe from a larger perspective and the unchanging nature of God's divine plan
In the long-run sooner or later will you attain the fairness which you deserve and you will be held accountable for each and every of your actions to God

Jesus made no error when he said "love your neighbor as you love yourself"
We are after all part of the larger human family, we will undergo the same pain and sufferings together and we will enjoy the joy and bliss of happy days together as well
 
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Hi everyone, i need help. How do you make the evil of others not destroy your self-esteem? For example at work, with people who mistreat you every day? A boss, co-workers. "Justice, justice will persecute so that you can live and inherit the Earth" (Deuteronomy 16.20) (?). I'd appreciate your answers.
I tend to pray for them.
Praying lowers your fight or flight mode
Also, you as a believer should know that their actions are the result of sin and their world. Put another way, you know what causes those to rise up, get angry, jealous, fits of rage, etc etc.
You also know that you have the power to overcome and not take offense in the name of Jesus. Easier said than done I know, but try catch it the next time something arises. Then go away and pray for them. You will be surprised how your attitude changes. It goes from feeling mad at them to feeling sorry for them. Their lost in their world of sin and darkness
 
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Hi everyone, i need help. How do you make the evil of others not destroy your self-esteem? For example at work, with people who mistreat you every day? A boss, co-workers. "Justice, justice will persecute so that you can live and inherit the Earth" (Deuteronomy 16.20) (?). I'd appreciate your answers.
I think we need to expect that people will hurt us because all human beings are sinners and sin against others.

I think if we expect that there will be problems they don't catch us by surprise as much
 
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Definitely read the bible and pray! Like some have said pray for them and pray that god gives you calm and to see the evil for what it really is...

Ephesians 6:12:
For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.
 
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Hi everyone, i need help. How do you make the evil of others not destroy your self-esteem? For example at work, with people who mistreat you every day? A boss, co-workers. "Justice, justice will persecute so that you can live and inherit the Earth" (Deuteronomy 16.20) (?). I'd appreciate your answers.

You don't you love your neighbor and pray for those who persecute you quote from matthew.
 
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Try to remember also that their own evil and sin brings consequences to themselves.

If you focus on ‘what they did to you’ it is hard to forgive, but focusing on the negative things their actions bring upon themselves puts a whole new perspective on it.

God tells us we reap what we sow. So they will reap all the bad that comes from their actions.

Just see it as God sees it.
 
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