That's heartbreaking. I'm sorry you have not been treated better by your brothers and sisters in Christ.
That you even call me a brother in Christ is completely different from what I have experienced, and itself, healing
Back in the 80s, pre-internet, and after receiving tongues at 18, heard Leviticus misquoted so many times, that God hated me, and already feeling shame, thought God wanted me dead. That's what people hear when that is quoted repeatedly, but imagine for a minute, the God you grew up with, singing Jesus loved Me, and They Will Know that We Are Christians By Our Love, telling you that you are an abomination to God, and the level of devastation one feels.
From step one, I got tired of the question.
Me: You aren't saved through works. Itis more of...like fruit off a tree, being your faith and love. The works aren't an obligation for payment, but rather, your nature.
Other poster: How can you be gay and Christian???
Me: (sigh)
So having studied Buddhism, and reading Buddhist Mind, Christ heart, just changed to Buddhist on my avatar.
A Christian woman pleaded with me to leave homosexuality. (Not being Christian didn't seema concern, however.) So I explained I was Christan, had prayed about it incessantly since 13 or 14, and me and God are good,and of the 7 passages, they don't say what people think they do. But I agreed to go to God again, and ask again. She made me promise, but I had to pray specifically to God the Judeo Christian Father, Jesus Christ his only begotten son, and the Holy Spirit.
I promised, and asked if she would also pray and ask to be corrected if in error. She said, "Why should I?" I told her it is a win-win - either she will receive a clearer understanding where she had been in error, or a confirmation. it's good either way, and which of us is right shouldn't matter, but what is right with God. She flat out refused, saying she knew she was right. To this day, I pray, Father, I know I have asked you a number of times about my orientation over the years, and you have answered, and it's not that I don't have faith in you. I lack the faith in me. So again, if I have disobeyed you or strayed from you, please show me, and forgive me.
Well, I still kept my promise. I prayed. Felt silky addressing the Father/Son/HS so formerly, but I did.
And God literally spoke. Usually the reply is more telepathic, a thought that you know is not your own. This was a voice.
God said, I have known you since your infancy, but you must have the courage to wear the title of My Child.
Then I was shown that for the first 40 or so years of my life, while I loved God, he had been holding out his arms, pleading for me to just accept his love. But I had been lied to, told that God saw me with disgust, disappointment, hatred even, that in believing the lie, didn't allow myself to accept God's love, believing myself unworthy, unlovable.
He showed me that we do good, and God loves us. We sin, make mistakes, and God loves us, hopefully learn from them. But God loves us simply because we exist. You don't earn God's love, so you cannot lose it, ever. He loves us first, not so that we sit and adore him all day. What kind of parent would a father or mother be that has a child so someone adores them?? He loves us first in the hope that we will in turn love others first, not because they deserve it, but because they exist, and are children of God. And in accepting his love and the knowledge of his love being unconditional, I wanted to focus on treating others in love and kindness as a way to thank him, and I no longer had to carry around this fear if walking on eggshells, and losing salvation and God's love by our imperfections, and could then forgive those who sinned against me. I felt...free. I was really excited and deeply loved by what he revealed.
So, excited to share this amazing revelation, I wrote a long letter to my mom, explaining that I was still the same person she knows as a child. I went on Christian Forums, and changed my icon to Christian.
Almost immediately, a Christian came at me, saying, "How can you be gay and Christian?"
I said I am.
He said it is impossible.
I said that maybe it is a miracle.
He got more and more irate, demanding that I denounce Christ. I told him God just spoke to me, and the HS moves my tongue. I could't deny Christ if I wanted to, but...
What Christian does that? Demands you to deny Christ himself??
So, thank you for your empathy, but I see it as blessing, like going to bootcamp at a gym, and know having faith of steel. A person says I'm not Christian? They can believe whatever they want. It doesn't affect me or the truth.
A person tells me I'm going to hell? They can believe what they wish, but I have more faith in Christ than they do.
But may I ask this of you? I aporeciate your empathy, but it is more needed by GLBTQ youth often bullied, often victims of violence, and sometimes kicked out of their homes.
Lend it to LGBTQ Christians, simply wanting to worship God, come to communion, without feeling like they are on trial, condemned, or constant told they alone must change, and told it's a choice, like deciding what to have for dinner, by sone well-meaning, some mean-spirited, Christians, who refuse to read studies, or other interpretations.
Please offer it to those of us, now in my 50s, still being asked to justify my existence, hearing calling my married friends who married to not be loving but just full of lust, and not really married anyway,
or those who, after searching and searching, found someone that..it's just magic, so one pops the question, the other accepts, and then...
"I have to choose between my job of making wedding cakes, or my religion!! Come quickly, Lord Jesus...."
And the baker getting all the empathy. And Ernie and Bert saying, "Now listen up, girl. You have to decide between discrimination, and loving your neighbor as yourself . And why you are giving that a good think, and crying crocodile tears for the camera and raising 75Ok, a bit over the 25k GoFundMe request, all at our expense....
We are going to go across the street, and giving them our money instead. And if you can't make a cake because it violates your religion, I won't even buy a donut hole hear because I don't want to support discrimination."
But, I do appreciate it. It gives me hope for humanity, and shows me there is some Christ in sone forms of Christianity