• Welcome to Christian Forums
  1. Welcome to Christian Forums, a forum to discuss Christianity in a friendly surrounding.

    Your voice is missing! You will need to register to be able to join in fellowship with Christians all over the world.

    We hope to see you as a part of our community soon and God Bless!

  2. The General Mental Health Forum is now a Read Only Forum. As we had two large areas making it difficult for many to find, we decided to combine the Mental Health & the Recovery sections of the forum into Mental Health & Recovery as a whole. Physical Health still remains as it's own area within the entire Recovery area.

    If you are having struggles, need support in a particular area that you aren't finding a specific recovery area forum, you may find the General Struggles forum a great place to post. Any any that is related to emotions, self-esteem, insomnia, anger, relationship dynamics due to mental health and recovery and other issues that don't fit better in another forum would be examples of topics that might go there.

    If you have spiritual issues related to a mental health and recovery issue, please use the Recovery Related Spiritual Advice forum. This forum is designed to be like Christian Advice, only for recovery type of issues. Recovery being like a family in many ways, allows us to support one another together. May you be blessed today and each day.

    Kristen.NewCreation and FreeinChrist

  3. The forums in the Christian Congregations category are now open only to Christian members. Please review our current Faith Groups list for information on which faith groups are considered to be Christian faiths. Christian members please remember to read the Statement of Purpose threads for each forum within Christian Congregations before posting in the forum.
  4. Please note there is a new rule regarding the posting of videos. It reads, "Post a summary of the videos you post . An exception can be made for music videos.". Unless you are simply sharing music, please post a summary, or the gist, of the video you wish to share.
  5. There have been some changes in the Life Stages section involving the following forums: Roaring 20s, Terrific Thirties, Fabulous Forties, and Golden Eagles. They are changed to Gen Z, Millennials, Gen X, and Golden Eagles will have a slight change.
  6. CF Staff, Angels and Ambassadors; ask that you join us in praying for the world in this difficult time, asking our Holy Father to stop the spread of the virus, and for healing of all affected.
  7. We are no longer allowing posts or threads that deny the existence of Covid-19. Members have lost loved ones to this virus and are grieving. As a Christian site, we do not need to add to the pain of the loss by allowing posts that deny the existence of the virus that killed their loved one. Future post denying the Covid-19 existence, calling it a hoax, will be addressed via the warning system.

How to get back to reality; how to learn concentration

Discussion in 'Anxiety, Panic & Agoraphobia' started by wonderous, Mar 1, 2008.

Thread Status:
Not open for further replies.
  1. wonderous

    wonderous Member

    236
    +4
    Anglican
    Single
    I had some personal problems that I have overly worried about. One of it is a social problem, and it all started one day when I saw someone staring at me, whether the person intentionally did it or not doesn't matter, and whether the person realised my hurt (the person gives me an unnatural stare everytime i faced him). I know it might be my fault because I responded to it by staring back and not asking him what's the matter. But to cut the long story short I became more and more self-conscious, and I feel extremely uneasy when people are around me. I feel there is demonic influence because around the same time, I began to have sleep paralysis, and a panic attack at the same time, on an average of 3 times a night, for the past 1.5 years. When these things started at night I began to develop a fear of spirits at night and I feared the dark (before this I dont). It caused extreme worry to me and every night I would be frightened to even go to bed, and I curl up in bed frightened too.

    And this began my worried lifestyle, I began to worry what people were thinking of me in the day, all day long, and before I sleep and during my sleep I would be worried of the evil spirits that come to me at night, giving me nightmares, and my whole life revolves around fear and I feel like I was a totally different person before this because this fear has taken over my mind, my grades fell from As to Fs and I began to have difficulty concentrating in class or during lectures because of my self-consciousness! And at night I would not have good rest and this is just an endless cycle! Now worry has become so ingrained in me I feel worried all the time in every place and I just can't stop worrying about how I look and just before I go to bed! And I have lost the ability to concentrate. 2 Tim 1:7 says God gave us a sound mind, what does it mean to have a sound mind? I wish to have a sound mind! But I just cannot remain calm and at peace anymore with such excessive worry! Please someone tell me how to develop concentration and stop my worrying habit! Thanks!
     
    We teamed up with Faith Counseling. Can they help you today?
  2. wonderous

    wonderous Member

    236
    +4
    Anglican
    Single
    okay I think I have to get out of derealisation first, because my eyes are extremely sensitive to bright light I'm always frowning and everything feels cold and numb and I feel no emotion although I know that thing is happening. When I try to concentrate it just becomes worse, and I've lost the ability to concentrate plz someone advise and help me because I know as solomon says, it's wise to take advice!

    And I know God will help and I will not blame him, only satan because only illnesses come from satan and not God.
     
  3. Inkachu

    Inkachu Bursting with fruit flavor!

    +3,724
    Christian
    Married
    US-Others
    Hi Wonderous,

    Do you have a pastor or Christian counselor who can talk with you and pray with you? It sounds to me like you have gotten to the point where you need to seek help outside of yourself. Your life shouldn't be ruled by fear and panic, and it sounds like you're getting to the point where you're almost paralyzed with fear and your life is going downhill fast. If you have a church that you attend, and you know and trust someone there, please call them. If not, please find a counselor you can speak with, and see what they recommend for you. You don't have to live like this - there IS help!!

    God bless you...keep reading your Bible and praying and trusting Him, no matter how you feel. Keep your chin up! PM me anytime.
     
  4. wonderous

    wonderous Member

    236
    +4
    Anglican
    Single
    I have already gone to several counselling sessions, but I just dont feel they are of help to me. If my family members do not understand my feelings, then what more other people who do not know me? And yes, you're right because I'm totally paralysed by fear, and that's why I need help! I dont want to continue living like this!

    I keep reading the Bible and meditating on verses hoping I can keep my mind away from negative thoughts, it helps for a short while but the harder I try to fight derealisation, the stronger the feeling of derealisation. It's just so weird I can't explain the feeling, I just feel stuck with derealisation
     
  5. Amhacajo

    Amhacajo Turn worry into wonder...

    +632
    Christian
    Married
    That feeling of not being able to focus and concentrate is just the pits and it feels just so lonely because it seems like no one understands what you are feeling or going through. :hug:

    When my anxiety peaked and life was sliding down that hill I actually decided that I had to do something. I actually went and saw a psychologist (not even a Christian) and as much as it seemed at first it didn't seem to help she actually helped me to break down some of my issues that were causing the anxiety and panic attacks and gave me some techniques to help deal with it all. Importantly she helped me to realise that I am not a freak, unique maybe :), but not a freak and there is nothing wrong with that.

    I can't be shifted on my stand with God and the relationship I have with Him, so seeing a non Christian wasn't an issue for me. If anything there were some things that she said that actually reminded me of some of God's promises, probably without her even realising she had.

    There are times when outside help is probably the best option. I still go through times where I am alone and no one else understands (even my husband) but without the help I had I doubt I'd be where I am today.

    I'm praying that you can make some clear decisions on what you want to do. I know it can feel like you can't focus but He will never forsake you. Come here and vent if you need to. Sometimes just talking with others who understand how you're feeling can be a real help. :hug:
     
  6. Inkachu

    Inkachu Bursting with fruit flavor!

    +3,724
    Christian
    Married
    US-Others
    I agree...please don't give up altogether on therapy. A few sessions here and there isn't enough to really give it a chance to work. Sometimes it takes a while to break down walls and discover the underlying issues.

    God bless you and I pray He delivers you from your fears, as I pray He will for all of us in this group.
     
  7. wonderous

    wonderous Member

    236
    +4
    Anglican
    Single
    Well I actually dont feel the need for theraphy. I believe what i need is inner healing and deliverance. I believe God can do things greater than the therapist. And I will talk to my family members or relatives about this. They have prayed for me last night and today I feel much better. I hope as time passes my derealisation will disappear. Right now I still feel derealised, but it's getting better everyday. :)
     
  8. NorrinRadd

    NorrinRadd Xian, Biblicist, Fideist, Pneumatic, Antinomian

    +526
    Charismatic
    Single
    US-Republican
    :wave: Hi there!

    I also have history of anxiety/panic overlapping with "derealization."

    Yes, light-sensitivity can be an issue. For some people with DR, it can be a sort of trigger.

    I had several significant episodes of anxiety and DR (and/or DP -- depersonalization) before I jacked up my B-complex intake. Check out Diagnose-Me, LEF, and this page.
     
  9. gracechick

    gracechick Senior Veteran

    +219
    Christian
    Married
    US-Others
    I would pray & seek God about finding a therapist that will work with both. I know someone who does deliverance & teaches coping mechanisms. He's a great guy.

    If you are having issues with taking in too much light, sound ect you might want to check out my thread on sensory integration problems.

    Please find someone to share this confusion & pain with. & you are not a failure. If you hang on to your faith through these problems I consider you quite strong:)
     
  10. wonderous

    wonderous Member

    236
    +4
    Anglican
    Single
    thanks! I still hang on to God, he's the only one who gives hope :D I dont wish to see a therapist, I believe that my derealisation will soon disappear when I come to my senses; when i finally understand why my problems are happening. Then my dissociated memories would be repaired, and I my derealisation will go. I read from a website which said that the harder you try to concentrate, the worse the derealisation gets. I touch objects, knowing it's real, but it doesn't feel real. This happens almost everyday even today. I have very poor memory of my college days, why is it so? Everything feels like a dream! When I get scolded, or get into an argument, I felt it was a dream, that i 'subconsciously' sinned. Just too much to handle, too many problems.....
     
Thread Status:
Not open for further replies.
Loading...