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How to remove the remnants of resentment

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As I entered my 20s, my mental health took a downward dive that left me in a rut. Although I wanted to climb upward and onward, I could not seem to loosen myself from its hold. During this undoubtedly challenging time, my parents’ methods of support unfortunately did not work well for me.

I finally made significant leaps in reclaiming my mental health when I changed environments, and by my mid-20s, I had received a PhD (I was the first in my family to do so), met the love of my life, and had traveled and lived abroad. My parents were proud of me.

I moved forward with my life and put the experiences from my early 20s behind me. However, nearly a decade later, something still felt off; I was still carrying some of the emotional baggage I thought I had let go of long ago. I pinpointed the issue as lingering feelings of resentment toward my parents back from during the mental health challenges of my early 20s. (I am using the term resentment here to refer to the feeling of bitterness toward those who you perceive have wronged you in some way, big or small). Once I was able to identify and acknowledge the feeling for what it was, I was ashamed for still feeling such sentiments, so I set out to free myself from this emotion.

Here are three tips that helped me along the journey of clearing my heart from lingering feelings of resentment, no matter how big or how small.

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