How to find a good spouse?

JohnTh · Jan 27, 2020

How to find a good spouse?
A gathering of sayings from elders and holy fathers upon this very important topic.

Enjoy!

ChristianGirl_96 · Jan 27, 2020

Funny!

com7fy8 · Jan 27, 2020

The article, it appears to me, says to get the help of the Holy Mother in order to get with the right husband.

But they way > this talks only about how to find the right man.

Another thing > possibly Mary had an arranged marriage. So, if this is true, what might she advise you to do? Are ones going to advise to get her advice, but not advise us to follow her example of what worked for her??

com7fy8 · Jan 27, 2020

The article says something like this, I think > make sure a man helps you to grow and be encouraged in your walk with Jesus. And yes he will need you to help him, also.

So, yes I would say check if a person is obviously helping you to submit to how God our Father guides you and cares for you, and make sure he is helping you find out how to love any and all people like Jesus wants. And make sure you are helping him, like this, too.

And if you are capable of being personally guided by God, simply prayerfully test how our Father guides you in relating with each man >

Make sure with God who knows

JohnTh · Jan 29, 2020

ChristianGirl_96 said:
Funny!

???
Why?

S.O.J.I.A. · Feb 1, 2020

be a good spouse..

ReesePiece23 · Feb 3, 2020

It's best to just go solely on intuition. People WILL change over time, both for better and worse. I've seen the most dedicated Christians (one a deacon) nosedive into a life of atheism and literally disappear off the face of the earth.

Others have started ropey with flawed theology, and would later go on to host sermons and spread the world in amazing ways, verbally, visually and otherwise.

I'm somewhere in the middle. I'd never be an atheist, but I sometimes wonder if we all have the power to be our own God, and that Jesus is the ultimate master or "tenth dan" if you will.

Would I be a good spouse for a die hard Catholic woman? NO lol. But I tighten up the loose bolts of my theology more everyday, so I'm not a complete write off. Progress not perfection n' all that jazz...

Niels · Feb 3, 2020

Agreed. Those seem wise to me. Common sense that is unfortunately uncommon these days.

Although they're helpful when choosing a good spouse, however, they don't provide much information on how to actually find one.

HisGraceAbounds · Feb 3, 2020

For me, it would all have to start with friendship. Very few people get to be a part of my little world, and good friends are few and far between. A woman I'm interested in romantically would have to be my friend, completely platonically, first...and this very well might take years. Only then, once trust and respect have been earned by both sides, might I consider exploring a new depth to the relationship.

As you can well imagine, this would require a woman possessing the virtue of patience, which is a virtue I seldom see cultivated in anyone. So, my solitude and celibacy continues.

( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) · Feb 3, 2020

the spouse store

Lost4words · Feb 3, 2020

I had a terrible knightmare last month! I dreamt i was married to the pooch next door! Yikes!

Sam91 · Feb 3, 2020

( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) said:
the spouse store

Now I thought you would have said the park but I guess the store makes more sense.

( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) · Feb 3, 2020

Sam91 said:
Now I thought you would have said the park but I guess the store makes more sense.

I was thinking of a line from Seinfeld where George Costanza said that the jerk store had called and their running out of someone.

timewerx · Feb 5, 2020

JohnTh said:
How to find a good spouse?
A gathering of sayings from elders and holy fathers upon this very important topic.
Enjoy!

Wow, I perfectly fit all those qualities, spot on! Including not being attractive enough!!

And I'm still single!!

JohnTh · Feb 6, 2020

Miles said:
Although they're helpful when choosing a good spouse, however, they don't provide much information on how to actually find one.

Ultimately it depends on yourself to go out and have courage to talk.

Niels · Feb 6, 2020

JohnTh said:
Ultimately it depends on yourself to go out and have courage to talk.

That's important, assuming there are single women around to talk to. My problem isn't talking to women; it's finding the right kind of women to talk to. Most are already married, old enough to be my mother, young enough to be my daughter, or otherwise clearly incompatible in some way. Although I'm friendly with most of the women in my life, none are potential romantic interests. That's one of the downsides to working in a male-dominated industry, and having stereotypically male hobbies. I don't meet many women who would be appropriate for me.

JohnTh · Feb 8, 2020

Miles said:
I don't meet many women who would be appropriate for me.

Yeah, I definitely understand what you're saying but, besides of the possibility (which always exists) that we can be a litte bit too exigent sometimes, I think that the best place to find them is Church and not so much at the workplace - and this is because of important factors mentioned in the OP.

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