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There are times when being single isn't a situation that I like being in. In those times I usually try and think of one of my friends who's been though a rough divorce, or the times that I see or hear married people fighting and complaining about how the other one drives them crazy. Being single doesn't seem so bad then.
peacechild,
That is a great place to be in: not having to work and being able to be there for your children. I don't have a negative attitude with having a life on the web. I find it can be very meaningful, educational, etc. Yet I do think it would add to your life if you start to move out into "real world" as your children continue to mature and start their own life. The trick is to figure out what your nich(sp?) will be in that move.
dayhiker
Ya, that can be pretty tricky to figure out ones nich. But I think its related to our interests, our abilities. Might have to develop one. Its tied in with knowing ourself.
I assume you know that pretty well by now. The trick I think then is to find out how to apply that locally to a need in your part of the country.
dayhiker
How do I cope with being single? I try not to think about it, and just live my life the best I can with what I've got. You know from our previous posts that I did not choose to be single, but unfortunately my husband died. The times it bothers me is when I see my girlfriend and her husband all lovey dovey, or hear another friend talk about how much their spouse does for them or vise versa. The other day, my ex son in law came over with his girlfriend to replace my garbage disposal. And the girlfriend says to me, (we're friends so it's OK) "you need to get out and start dating" and I was like, really? who? where? And I ended up explaining that no one has come in my radar that was interested in me, or vise versa, so.....???And I am done with trying to "help" God find someone for me or "help" God do anything in my life cuz that just never works well (ask Abraham). Do I get lonely? Heck yeah. Do I think about being with someone? yeah. But the way I figure it, God has the best plan so until he brings someone into my life I will be single. That and also the fact that I would have to get over the question "what if this guy that's interested in me is a serial killer?" And I stick to the words of my Pastor, "Live, don't look" and keep my focus on my kids and my relationship with God.
And I am done with trying to "help" God find someone for me or "help" God do anything in my life cuz that just never works well (ask Abraham).
MbM .. why is it a wrong motive to join a group with the hopes of meeting someone?
seeing as for many years I prayed for my husband to know GOD and we have peace.. the more I prayed the worse it got..
I agree MbM ... no reason to meet people that have a completely different interest than you do. So I'm saying to find a group that you are interested in or want to learn about.
Maybe God answered your prayer as best he could, by releasing you from a man that would not use his God given free will to go the right way, even with God speaking to him. Maybe your best days on this earth are ahead of you, and you just don't know it.
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