How to avoid sexual sin when aroused all day

[FT89]

How do I avoid sexual sin when I experience arousal for hours at a time all day long? Prayer doesnt rid me of it. Im not in a position to get married and that'd take mulitple years regardless to get to the point I can have sex with out sinning.

It can happen for a few hours many times a day, on and off all day, or for days straight.

I was thinking of work but losing medical insurance to work minmum wage gives me fear. Im on disability atm. It would probably make going to college really difficult. I have a 7 year employment gap on my resume due to me doing bad things with my time and being not well. Will make finding a job hard potentially, and one that gives medical insurance harder.

But, work is 8 hours a day for some jobs or less. And Im not sure i can handle doing nothing but work all day to distract myself. I don't really know what the best option is. My pastor suggested a video game, and that works at times but i cant force myself to do video games for 12 hours a day usually. And those are 20x as fun as work.

 

[RDKirk]

What do you mean by "arousal?" How?

 

[FT89]

What do you mean by "arousal?" How?

Being turned on but not always erect if that makes sense. Desire sexual release all day. Thoughts of sex in my head all day. I can usually resist for a day or two, sometimes a week but i cave always. Sometimes very soon.

 

[Sam91]

Filling your time.

Online learning? Reading the Bible? Fasting and prayer? Memorising chunks of scripture? Learning biblical languages? Volunteering? Taking up a hobby like gardening? Jigsaw puzzles? Learning an instrument?

Cognitive Behaviour therapy. I just remembered a clip of a lady in a drama series. Everytime she had a thought she didn't like she twanged herself with an elastic band on the wrist. Cumulatively that would have to smart. Maybe that would distract.

 

[RDKirk]

I'm surprised your pastor could suggest nothing but video games. I don't understand what your physical limitations are (or what you mean, in that case, by "caving,") but there are many roles to be filled in the Body of Christ, and there must be something you could fill your time with.

Running the church's social media program, for instance.

Working all day is a thing people do. As the old folk used to say, "Idle hands are the devil's workshop."

 

[thecolorsblend]

Welcome to being a guy. This is our burden <staff edit>. I'll be getting married in the relatively near future so hopefully this burden will either go away or at least be severely reduced.

As to dealing with it, what has worked for me (a Catholic) is my Marian devotion: Hail Mary, Alma Redemptoris Mater, Hail Holy Queen, etc.

 

[NBB]

Cry out for help to God, seek him and ask him to free you until he does that. And in the way you are going to get closer to Him.

 

[Valetic]

Think about all that Jesus endured when he was in the desert for 40 days and 40 nights being tempted by Satan. So what kind of sexual sin are you trying to avoid? Prostitution? Masturbation? Porn? You have to take control over the flesh. This is how you can glorify God and be more Christ like and best of all be totally free from the yoke of bondage. These are not our bodies. Does not the Christ live within us? What right then do we have to not be a living sacrifice to the Lord?

 

[Kevin Snow]

I wrote this encouragement to guys who are struggling the way you do.

Declaration of Encouragement

In short you are going to need to back off from carousing your desires in your mind. You can't justify your actions anymore just because you've made yourself weaker by keeping those thoughts going in your mind. You have to stop yourself in your mind, not the body. The body will follow the mind, so stop trying to win this in the wrong way. The flesh is to no avail and we are expected to keep ourselves under control.

that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, ~1 Thessalonians 4:4

 

[RDKirk]

This OP is of the same kind with the same basis as the other current thread by the man who simply will not become aroused by his wife.

In both cases the same thing applies:

Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. 2 Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. -- Romans 12

Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ; -- 2 Corinthians 10

Every Christian can take control over his flesh by conforming his mind to Christ's.

 

[Kristen.NewCreation]

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