How To Attract Men and Keep Them Interested

[memoriesbymichelle]

"Yourself" is an ever changing thing. Don't pretend, but CHANGE yourself. Remove the bad qualities that are not getting you any farther in life, and replace them with good qualities.

I don't agree that you have to CHANGE yourself. Not everyone is single because there is something "wrong" with them. I was married for 25 years. I am single because he died. I don't appreciate being told I have to CHANGE to attract someone. If God wants me to be with someone, HE will bring them into my life. That's the way it happened with my husband too. And I DO think you need to BE YOURSELF. Too many people try to get someone interested by being someone that they are not.

 

[IseekTheTruth]

This is going to sound shallow... but I think a huge way to keep a man interested is to take care of your body and stay healthy. I don't mean you have to have 5% bodyfat and plastic surgery to make your breasts perfect and train 4 days a week hardcore and eat only salad and soy beans...

I'm just talking about staying healthy! Jog... Lift some weights! I think a girl should be able to do a few pullups, y'know?

I strive for physical health myself, and I hope my future wife makes it a priority as well.

 

[Beautiful Fireball]

I don't agree that you have to CHANGE yourself. Not everyone is single because there is something "wrong" with them. I was married for 25 years. I am single because he died. I don't appreciate being told I have to CHANGE to attract someone. If God wants me to be with someone, HE will bring them into my life. That's the way it happened with my husband too. And I DO think you need to BE YOURSELF. Too many people try to get someone interested by being someone that they are not.

IP was not saying that at all. Of course don't change who you are as a person. But everyone needs improvement in some areas and he is saying that maybe making steps to change what needs improving is a good start. It would be totally unwise to change who you fundamentally are as a person and that is not what IP is saying.

 

[DarkGreenMind]

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Goal 6: Keep informed. Know what is happening in your local area and around the world. Read newspapers or watch the News on TV or listen to it on radio. Cultivate a running database of policitians and what they stand for. Ditto sports "headlines". Don't bother getting too carried away following sports news, just the basics would do.

Goal 7: Be a bit unpredictable.

Gaol 21: Be bubbly, laugh a lot. If I could give just ONE quality that men tend to say they find attractive about a woman's personality, it is that she has a good sense of humour. This does not mean that they are looking for clowns or comedians, but just someone who can laugh at them (& their silly jokes) as well as laugh at themselves...people who don't take life TOO seriously, who see the funny side of things...even when they are crying! lol. Be lighthearted, laugh as innocently as a child without a care in the world. If you slip up, use homour, laugh at yourself. If HE slips up, use humour and laugh at the situation (not AT him). Just be known for always having a cheerful disposition (*my claim to fame in real life...lol).

I agree with most of your points, but not with these tree hints. Of course, I don't claim that my view represents the opinion of the majority of men, but it what I have learned in life.

6. Politics and sports are usually considered "masculine" things. I know from my personal experience that talking with a girl about sports is among the most boring things in the world.

7. Unpredictable ? Many women (especially young women) are naturally unpredictable, but this is one of women's characteristics that make many men (including me) very, very nervous.

21. Laughing a lot is recommendable for flirting with superficial guys who prefer shallow girls, but not for dealing with an intelligent and spiritual man. I don't like girls who make the impression that their main goal in life is to be entertained and have fun.

 

[ImperialPhantom]

I don't agree that you have to CHANGE yourself. Not everyone is single because there is something "wrong" with them. I was married for 25 years. I am single because he died. I don't appreciate being told I have to CHANGE to attract someone. If God wants me to be with someone, HE will bring them into my life. That's the way it happened with my husband too. And I DO think you need to BE YOURSELF. Too many people try to get someone interested by being someone that they are not.

I didn't say you HAD to. But you should always be finding ways to improve yourself. There are always ways, until the day we die. I maybe in a very happy relationship right now, but I'm still constantly improving areas that I feel need improvement.

 

[CoachR64]

Change is a good thing, as long as it is self motived. I firmly believe we should change to better ourselves, not to make others happy.

Coach

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

I didn't say you HAD to. But you should always be finding ways to improve yourself. There are always ways, until the day we die. I maybe in a very happy relationship right now, but I'm still constantly improving areas that I feel need improvement.

I agree we are all on a journey here, and the goal is to prepare ourselves for eternity. That involves change of course. I am always trying to better myself and grow in the Lord. I just don't have to change to "get or keep a guy". And since I was happily married for 25 years, I guess I'm not all that bad to be with. Circumstances put me here. But IF and WHEN I am interested in a guy, or he in me, I shouldn't have to "change" in that respect to "get or keep him" THAT is all I am saying. So I'm really not in disagreement with you if your saying we should always be changing and growing. Changing to try to "get or keep a guy" ......whole different story, which doesn't sound like you meant.

memoriesbymichelle

 

[sampa]

"Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires ofyour heart" Ps 37:4

 

[yeshuaslavejeff]

I don't agree that you have to CHANGE yourself. Not everyone is single because there is something "wrong" with them. I was married for 25 years. I am single because he died. I don't appreciate being told I have to CHANGE to attract someone. If God wants me to be with someone, HE will bring them into my life. That's the way it happened with my husband too. And I DO think you need to BE YOURSELF. Too many people try to get someone interested by being someone that they are not.

Good for you, refreshing.
Jesus said those who seek approval of man/men cannot belong to Jesus.
Those who want to belong to Jesus, Jesus said, are here to seek Truth, not approval.
It may be very difficult, but the difference is for eternity.
(the whole world may tell you otherwise - they'll say 'you've got to be this, or you've got to do that';;; don't listen to the world, it will only get you in trouble)

 

[CoachR64]

Change is not a bad thing. If it wasn't for change, we couldn't leave our lives of sin and follow Christ. We all change, every day. Whether it be minor or major, change is inevitable. The key is look at your motivations to change. If you are changing to impress others, then you need to check your motivations. Change must come from within. Change can be a great thing, or change can destroy us. It all boils down to our heart and our motivation for change.

Coach

 

[sampa]

I agree we are all on a journey here, and the goal is to prepare ourselves for eternity. That involves change of course. I am always trying to better myself and grow in the Lord. .........

memoriesbymichelle, I hope these verses encourage you.
Rom 12:2
"Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will."

Col 3:16
"Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom, and as you sing psalms, hymns and spiritual songs with gratitude in your hearts to God."

Matt 22:37 "Jesus replied: " 'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind."

God bless you and Peace in Christ.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

memoriesbymichelle, I hope these verses encourage you.
Rom 12:2
"Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will."

Col 3:16
"Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom, and as you sing psalms, hymns and spiritual songs with gratitude in your hearts to God."

Matt 22:37 "Jesus replied: " 'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind."

God bless you and Peace in Christ.

Thank you! I don't know why you are encouraging me only. I only said we shouldn't change TO please others. So I agree with all the verses posted. It was someone else that said you should change to get or keep a guy interested.

 

[CoachR64]

Show up in a football jersey, smelling like steak, and carrying a plate of nachos. Works every time.

Coach

 

[Gardener101]

Wow, looking at this now, it reminds me of my nicer days on CF, before the witch hunt and trigger-happy reporters started reporting almost every single thing I posted as being 'off topic', leading to me tearing strips off the mods who played favourites on this board, who thankfully no longer work here. For the record, way back I made a promise to myself not to 'retaliate' and start reporting people who reported me, or anyone I did not agree with for that matter. And I did not report them, no matter what or how far they pushed my trigger buttons, I did not report them. And I am pleased to read comments from people like Coach in another thread encouraging people to not be so 'report-happy' and to address issues by PMs if needed.

Heck, I was a very sick girl back then but I tried to do my best to help people, yet the no-gooders, jealous people with spite and vengeance wanted me out. They thought I was here to find a boyfriend or something, which is completely incorrect, cus I was I would have filled out my profile properly, complete my pictures, and responded favourably to the guys who used to PM me.

Anyway, I came to check up on my old mate and thought I should check out this board and some of my old posts.

And for any of the 'old-timers' who remember me (there are only a handful who still post here it seems), this is to let you know that I am...all glory to God....in remarkable health. Thank you for all your kind words and prayers. And please forgive me during the times I did not reply to your emails...I was barely reading my emails.

x

 

[Beautiful Fireball]

Wow, looking at this now, it reminds me of my nicer days on CF, before the witch hunt and trigger-happy reporters started reporting almost every single thing I reported as being 'off topic', leading to me tearing strips off the mods who played favourites on this board, who thankfully no longer work here.

Heck, I was a very sick girl back then but I tried to do my best to help people, yet the no-gooders, jealous people with spite and vengeance wanted me out. They thought I was here to find a boyfriend or something, which is completely incorrect, cus I was I would have filled out my profile properly, complete my pictures, and responded favourably to the guys who used to PM me.

Anyway, I came to check up on my old mate and thought I should check out this board and some of my old posts.

And for any of the 'old-timers' who remember me (there are only a handful who still post here it seems), this is to let you know that I am...all glory to God....in remarkable health. Thank you for all your kind words and prayers. And please forgive me during the times I did not reply to your emails...I was barely reading my emails.

x

YAY!! You're back

 

[Gardener101]

YAY!! You're back

Hello love, how are you?

Can you believe I was off for about 2 months YET my post count and posting frequency from the past kept my health bar at 100%? Mad eh?

 

[Beautiful Fireball]

Hello love, how are you?

Can you believe I was off for about 2 months YET my post count and posting frequency from the past kept my health bar at 100%? Mad eh?

Im doing really good. Was taking a break from here for a bit because people were getting nasty, but oh well.

Can I PM you?

 

[Gardener101]

Im doing really good. Was taking a break from here for a bit because people were getting nasty, but oh well.

Can I PM you?

Yes, I have now enabled PMs again.

 

[Blank123]

hello old thread.

 

[Boondock_Saint]

hello old thread.

Nothing like a good old resurrection. Little Tigress, I had no idea you were French. I should pay better attention.