That's awesome!! I get so excited when Christian's are so serious about being righteous
It's SO fantastic that you guys are refraining from kissing, it's awesome. Keep it up!
I've been in a courtship for a while now and one thing I have had a lot of trouble with is my thoughts, which kind of triggers everything else... it really, really helps when we can get our thoughts under control!
I learned to have the same boundaries in my mind as I do physically. So pretty much, we've decided there will be no kissing = I'm not going to imagine kissing him. You may already do this, but if not, it's so helpful to get that in our heads when we're young and courting! (Let your girl know that one too because us girls need to be careful with our romantic imaginations!)
Now, the ONLY way 'I've' found it possible to refrain from kissing him in my thoughts (or out of them) is purely though the help of the Holy Spirit, because I CAN'T do it on my own. Personally, I prayed this prayer "Lord, please put my sexual desires back to sleep, they are not suppose to have awaken yet" ... and he turned off my sexual desires. It was AMAZING! God is amazing!
But the thing I have to be really careful of is that it awakens again if I overstep my boundaries ('too much' hugging etc.) or start getting slack with not watching 'romantic' scenes in movies - that's a killer, always shut your eyes and block your ears - and I have to repent AGAIN which is not good. So I'm learning not to go there.
Yeah so that might help with the sex drive too, really seek God to put it to sleep until you get married. And don't be worried it wont come back, like I was (silly me), I'm pretty sure it will awaken again easy on your wedding night!
Keep it up!! Don't know if that helped at all but hey, I gotta give it a try!