How often?

[Stan53]

I do hope this is not considered cross posting. I guess the mods will fix it if I am.
Over in the parenting section I have posted a poll.
We are having some access problems with the grandparents just now. And really need some input as to what would be considered normal access with the grandparents. Ours live interstate and we have distance to contend with. I am in full time employment and our children are aged 6 and 3. The six year old is in school.
Let me just make one thing really clear, we are not denying access, quite the opposite in fact. We think it is important that our children know their heritage on both side of the family, Christian or not.
I would be grateful for any opinions at all, except obviously not for gossip.
If this is considered cross posting, I apologise in advance and the mods can fix it.
Thank you all for your input.

 

[davedajobauk]

Hi Stan

Welcome to Golden Eagles

So, if, I read your question correctly [?]

Your children have grandparents whom, INSIST on visitation-rights
and these visits, are difficult to 'schedule' conveniently [?]
so that you can take your children to see them [The Grandparents]
and as your home is some distance from the grandparents
their visits to your home are in the same vein, awkward /untimely [a task]

What, is there that remains to be said ?
You remain WILLING and ENCOURAGING for such visits to take place
but, for one reason and another [we havent mentioned financial expense]
These trips /visits are impractical on a regular basis, can cause hardship
stress to both couples ... parents and grandparents alike

I have grandchildren down in Bristol [4] 182 miles from my present address
I left Bristol in July 2007 to make my home here in Manchester
and didnt see them at all until last September when I visited Bristol
to attend a family wedding

Hey Bro' ... Life happens....!! and that... is how the cookie crumbles!!
There are.. other ways of keeping in touch....keeping folks updated ???

If, they [grandparents] lived JUST AROUND THE BLOCK ? but they dont...right?
Try to make a special 'effort' during holidays and weekend breaks
that... is probably the very best you can manage...
for a while... and maybe for the foreseeable future

So keep the photos flowing.... use a webcam [Windows Messenger]
use mobile phone images /video clips
iow: 'close the gap' whenever you can and... in whatever way you can
to prevent /reduce feelings of estrangement

Phone calls a couple of times a week...
during which, you pass-on your children's progress [to date]
can also, aid to prevent feelings of isolation being nurtured
within the grandparents

I guess... you could commit yourselves to a certain number of visits [per year]
and OFFER... to add to these visits, whenever additional opportunity should arise

Another view, would be... that had you emigrated
they might never see their grandkids again...
but, this is not the case... and they will see them... whenever you are able ???

Some people never have grandkids to admire.... from near or, far !



dave