How often do you....

[hugnluvable]

have sex? Bit of a personal one I know but I'm just wondering whether its a bad thing not tending to my husband after an awful day at work!

Thanks
Erica
xxx

 

[seamonster]

usually just once a day

 

[Oblivious]

Usually once or twice a week.

 

[Lena75]

Whenever we feels like it.

 

[andiesmama]

depends on how we're feeling....altho if I'm "thinking" I'm tired or had a bad day, usually once we get "started" I find myself getting into it....so I try not to use that as an excuse most times, but sometimes you can't help it...

 

[cubbyandmel]

I agree with andiesmama. My husband is pretty persistent and can usually coax me no matter how tired I am at first. We have 5 kids and we homeschool so I am tired a lot - but he is a good coaxer, and I hate to tell him no. He works so hard and he is such a good family leader. So we enjoy eachother a few times a week - sometimes more, sometimes less. And it is ALWAYS worth it!

 

[Hope_0004]

Is it ever the other way around - like as in, the wife wants it more than the husband?

 

[cubbyandmel]

It is for me in my second trimester of pregnancy. But that is the only time. I think that is why we have so many kids. He LOVES that second trimester!

 

[Hope_0004]

That's funny. How many?

 

[Athene]

It is for me in my second trimester of pregnancy. But that is the only time. I think that is why we have so many kids. He LOVES that second trimester!

I'm in my second trimester too and I'm the same, I want sex all the time, but dh is often tired in the evening, he gets up at 4:30 so by the time it gets to 9 in the evening he's shattered.

As for the OP, I don't know, sometimes once or twice a week, sometimes nearly every day.

 

[Mom to 5]

Is it ever the other way around - like as in, the wife wants it more than the husband?

YES! That is the way it is in our marriage now. We try to have sex every other day, although I would prefer it everyday! Even though my dh is not always in the mood to initiate, he enjoys it very much and admits that when he goes without he starts to think about things he should not. . .

 

[JulySheMustFly]

On average 5 times a week. It would probably be more if he got home before 11pm everynight. I'm asleep before he gets home and waking me does not go well.

 

[VHOLLOWAY]

well we haev may bunnies around here....lol.... we are just now getting back to about 3 times a week. i for the last year or so have had some female poblems and we are working out way up to where as long as my body can handle it

 

[cubbyandmel]

That's funny. How many?

we have 5 and we pray God will bless us with more. As my husband says "we just need more practice!"

 

[NavyWife40]

Once a day is about the regular for us, but sometimes it is more depending on what we have going that week...

 

[Sign Of The Fish Burger]

It really depends. Sometimes once a day, sometimes a couple of times a week.

 

[RedTulipMom]

it varys over time depending on what is happening in our lives.. anywhere from once a week to everyday..i guess over all we average 3 times a week or so

 

[Beth1231]

Twice a week, on average. Sometimes more, sometimes less. I try to keep a mental tally of how often I turn him down. Also, every single time I turn him down (which I try to keep to a minimum), I always set up a day that would be better. Sometimes I just need an hour or so to mentally prepare and he springs the idea on me and I have been thinking "sleep" for the last hour! I think it's much easier on him if he has another day to look forward to. One last thing (since you two are so new at this), communication is vital to a good sex life. While it might not be terribly romantic to plan ahead, it makes it easier for both in the long run (and your mind is preoccupied all day which is also fun).

 

[HDoggie19]

This is terrible, but only once every other month. We have only been married 3 years. At first, we started out two or three times a week. The first year was great. But we had a lot of trust issues (not adultery related) and we even separated for a time. But I would like to get "re-aquainted" with dh, but he seems uninterested.

 

[RedTulipMom]

This is terrible, but only once every other month. We have only been married 3 years. At first, we started out two or three times a week. The first year was great. But we had a lot of trust issues (not adultery related) and we even separated for a time. But I would like to get "re-aquainted" with dh, but he seems uninterested.

Talk to him bluntly. Tell him you want to improve your sex life! you might be surprised what he says. Ask him if he wants to atleast once a week and take it from there. Its something you really need to work on, its important in marriage and helps bring you closer together. no matter how busy things get or how grumpy one of us is..once a week is a minimum! Sometimes when your not having sex very often your sex drives weakens. But as soon as you start having it more regularly the sex drive should go back up.