How many wives do not like getting flowers at work?

[Ache For Heaven]

My wife has told me not to send her flowers at work for Valentines Day. She told me that she does not like it when I send flowers to her work.
I sent flowers for her birhday, and she called and got onto me for sending flowers and letting everyone know it was her birthday. (Everyone at her job already knew it was her birthday, they remember everyones birthday). I didn't even get a sincere thank you.
She says that she told me that she didn't want flowers sent to her at work, but I ignored her wishes and sent them anyway. (I do not remember this).

I guess I would really like to know how many women would actually get mad at their husband for sending them flowers at work. Even if you told him not to.

 

[~Mrs. A2J~]

I would love flowers given at any time, any place and for any reason.

Is it the gift at work she doesn't like or the gift of flowers?

 

[Ache For Heaven]

I would love flowers given at any time, any place and for any reason.

Is it the gift at work she doesn't like or the gift of flowers?

I am not exactly sure what she doesn't like about it.
Maybe it draws attention to her, I don't think she likes that.
I guess I thought every woman loved getting flowers

 

[Redguard]

She shouldn't have drilled into you like that. Sorry you had to go through that.

Even if she doesn't like flowers or the attention of her birthday at work, she should've at least shown you a bit of appreciation for the sentiment.

 

[Oblivious]

I agree with the OP's wife. I do not care to receive flowers at work. It just draws unnecessary attention to me - which I don't want or need.

 

[c1ners]

Flowers are always nice. Expecially when sent to you at work.

 

[HeatherJay]

I am not exactly sure what she doesn't like about it.
Maybe it draws attention to her, I don't think she likes that.
I guess I thought every woman loved getting flowers

It's not the flowers that she doesn't like, though...it's getting them at work. I understand you being hurt that she didn't receive the flowers with the spirit in which you sent them, but some people feel really uncomfortable with the spotlight on them like that. Why not respect her wishes and give her the flowers at home when it's just the two of you?

Also, I have had the uncomfortable experience myself of receiving a public display of flowers when the guy's only intention was to make a scene. So, a few things to consider...

Some guys think that all girls like being fussed over, and the bigger the fuss the better. Categorically untrue. Women like sincerity and gestures that really show your heart to them...and often times, flowers at work tends to be more of a profession of your love for her to everyone else around her rather than a special moment between just the two of you.

Also, flowers at work sometimes is seen as an act of marking one's territory...like dogs peeing on trees.

You sound like you had the best of intentions...but instead of taking offense, why not just respect your wife's wishes and give her the flowers in a more intimate and comfortable setting? And she'll have all the privacy she needs to say thank you. Sounds like a win/win situation to me.

 

[Amélie Unbound]

I'm a stay-at-home wife, but when I was working I would have loved to receive flowers at work! But I think you've got to know your own spouse and respect her wishes. I personally think having flowers sent to someone's place of work is a very sweet and loving thing to do, but if your wife doesn't like it, and you do it anyway, I can see how it might be perceived as a hostile act.

 

[mrsperez]

With all do respect, is she crazy? I think that flowers at work are a sign to the world that you love your wife. I want my husband to shout it from the rooftops!

 

[Mrs. Enigma]

Your wife was being rather rude to you. Sorry you got bashed by her for trying to be nice.
I think I might feel embarrassed if it made me stand out at work, but it would be a good/ok kind of embarrassing.

 

[Chosen One]

My wife didn't appreciate it when I sent her flowers at work-- come to find out she was having an affairs at work- be warned.

 

[ChristyLover]

My wife loves to get flowers at work.

 

[HeatherJay]

I see our resident ray of sunshine has chimed in.

 

[mrsperez]

My wife didn't appreciate it when I sent her flowers at work-- come to find out she was having an affairs at work- be warned.

That's kind of what I really wanted to say, but chickened out!

 

[Oblivious]

I wanted to add to my original post. While I do agree with the OP's wife on the flowers at work subject, I don't agree with her attitude towards him about it. If she doesn't want them, then she should kindly accept the flowers and politely remind you of her wishes on no longer receiving them. I just wanted to make that clear.

With all do respect, is she crazy? I think that flowers at work are a sign to the world that you love your wife. I want my husband to shout it from the rooftops!

Call me crazy then I guess. I don't need flowers and a spectacle made of myself to let coworkers know how much my husband loves me. To each their own I guess....

 

[Godisgr8r]

I would have thanked my husband for the thought and kindly told him that it made me feel uncomfortable to have everyone watching me get the flowers. I would not have gotten angry, the thought was very sweet.

 

[HeyHomie]

[Voice of Nature Documentary Narrator]

The women of the tribe determine their social status by comparing the gifts they receive from their husbands.

[/Narrator]

 

[Redguard]

I'm trying to think about what kind of job she has that would lead her to feel embarassed about receiving flowers.

Not only that... but receiving them on Valentine's Day (ooohhh, big shock!)

Maybe she had just finished telling all the ladies in the office how she's got one of those husbands who do nothing for her on Valentine's Day and then, all of a sudden,

"Special delivery for Mrs. Ache For Heaven"

And all her co-workers say, "Hey! She lied to us! Her husband ain't such a bad guy after all!"

So that's the root cause of her embarassment.

 

[Amélie Unbound]

I just thought of one possible reason she might not like receiving flowers at work. Sometimes people get envious when they see other people getting that kind of attention. And working with envious coworkers can be an unpleasant experience.

Those of us in happy marriages sometimes feel like we have to downplay our happiness so that others who aren't as happy don't feel that we're "rubbing their noses in it".

 

[MerryCHRISTmas]

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