How many wives do not like getting flowers at work?

[GodsGirl]

I don't mind it my hubby used to do it and even now that I work from home he did it last year and had them delivered. I definatly enjoyed them alot more at home than I ever would of at work. (Though he knows which ones are ok for me.)

My friend called me one day cause her boy, sent her flowers at work forgetting that she is ALLERGIC to flowers. Not no small slight sneezing either. She put them on the other side of the office and took a pic and put it on her website and desk . She understood he was trying to be sweet, but he forgot and made her sick instead.

Being an asthmtic myself I can understand how flowers in the work place can be harmful. Tiger Lilies set me off in no time.

I also remember women who would be just nasty to others cause the person received flowers. They were single and the person who receieve them were not. I agree, I have a great marriage, and I don't want to rub it in someones face like "its valentines day, I have a great hubby you don't." I wont be saying it but who knows if they wont take it that way.

 

[JulySheMustFly]

It's not that I don't like the intention behind sending flowers to work. My husband did this on our aniversary a few years ago. It is just that I embarass easily, so everyone at work was asking lots of questions.

 

[newyorknewyork]

I loooove DH giving me flowers - anytime, any place~!!!! If my husband sent me flowers at my work, I would love it! It would probably be even more special than recieving them at home!

Maybe write your wife a note (or just tell her face to face) that you feel hurt with her lack of appreciation at your efforts for Valentines Day.. .explain that you do not understand why she doesn't want flowers sent to her work?!?? Ask her to explain to you the reasons behind this. Make sure she understands you feel hurt, otherwise you might grow a little resentful. It's best you just tell her, I think.

Best wishes!

 

[newyorknewyork]

Im such a little kid, so I would love the attention

 

[LynnMcG]

I'm with tsuriyel... I love the attention so I never complained about that when I worked out of the house.

 

[Missing]

I work from home now, but when I worked outside the home I would have loved to get flowers at work! My husband sent flowers to my work one time and they were beautiful and really made me feel extra special that day. Yes I got some attention but it wasn't negative attention so I guess I don't see the big negative about getting flowers at work. The only reason I could see it being an issue is the jealousy one that came up earlier if you work with people who will take their jealousy out on you in the workplace.

Regardless, it is horrible that your wife reacted that way because she had to have known that you sent her flowers as an act of love, not irritation. Furthermore, I don't think anyone would be that shocked over getting flowers on such a special day, it really makes me scratch my head and think there is more behind this than what she is saying.

 

[Ache For Heaven]

Thanks for all of your opinions ladies. My wife works in a busy law office.

I certainly hope it is not an affair. I know she is struggling with depression, but refuses to go to a doctor.

I didn't send her flowers yesterday, but I did buy her a single red rose and put it on her dresser. She thanked me and gave me a kiss.

 

[Pudlmom]

I'm sorry she was upset and unappreciative. Ask her to tell you why she is upset by it.

Personally, I am thrilled to get flowers anywhere. I received them yesterday at work from DH.

 

[BlondieLashes]

I am with the ladies that love the sentiment and the attention! What a sweet, romantic gesture! When my hubby sends me flowers at work I love it. Way back many years before we were married I had a boyfriend that sent me flowers at work several times a week and called several times a day. That was embarassing as it was so obvious that he was trying to mark his territory! But, flowers from your husband on your birthday is very sweet!!!!

 

[GodsGirl]

Awe you are so sweet! I will be praying for her depression.

I am glad she apperciated the rose on the dresser . She is surely blessed to have you as a hubby.

Thanks for all of your opinions ladies. My wife works in a busy law office.

I certainly hope it is not an affair. I know she is struggling with depression, but refuses to go to a doctor.

I didn't send her flowers yesterday, but I did buy her a single red rose and put it on her dresser. She thanked me and gave me a kiss.

 

[AveMaria]

I hope no one minds if I chime in, even though I'm not married . . .

I'm another one of the women who loathes getting flowers at work, so I thought my input might be useful.

I like to keep my personal/home life and my professional life seperate. And getting flowers at work can open up a lot of personal questions from coworkers. It feels quite unprofessional. I'm also sure my current boss would probably find it unprofessional, and a big distraction to the entire office, if a florist made a delivery. (Keeping my personal/professional life seperate is my primary reason. There's a few others, like awareness of coworkers with allergies, but this is the biggie).

I'm also not big on flowers, in general. They're pretty, they smell nice, but they cost too much and they die. I'd much rather have something that will last, like a piece of jewelry (doesn't have to be expensive), a nice book or leather bound journal, a scarf, etc.

(Edited for clarity)

 

[newyorknewyork]

so has the OP discovered the reason why his wife didn't like recieving flowers at work???