How many on here chose to be single?

[Niels]

My singleness is partly by choice, and partly because I don't meet many interesting women. I'm already somewhat of a loner, I work in tech where women are rare, my expectations are high because I grew up around good ones, and I'm not getting any younger.

I also have trouble summoning the mental energy to contort myself into the pretzel of a man that so many women seem to want these days.

Sure, I might quickly find someone if I lowered my standards, but that's not me. If I die alone, it'll be because I remained true to myself. At least I can have peace of mind this way, and live an otherwise full life.

 

[Rigatoni]

true Christian marriage is under siege from all sides. Some accomplish it, though.

It certainly is. A Christ-centered marriage is a powerful force - not only in terms of sanctification, but also in a spiritual sense. The devil knows this and hates it, which is probably why we are seeing this relentless attack on traditional, Christian marriages nowadays.

 

[KarlKarlingIII]

I chose it for the wrong reasons. It was more from hurt and self hatred than it was devotion to God. God favors what's in the heart more than the act itself.

That is fair, you and God know yourself best. There are no marriageable women in my church or in my area really, especially since I haven't much money.

 

[klutedavid]

I chose to be single in the name of Jesus. I want a life in Jesus not detract by the partnership of a wife of husband in this life. Is this true for you?

Some people need to be married as they need that companionship that marriage offers.

I have met a few of those type of people who are completely lost without a soul mate, they are almost dysfunctional without a partner.

There are some people who should never marry as they are not suited to relationships, period.

There are also those destined by God to be celibate.

Personally I am undecided on the issue of celibacy but have been celibate for thirty five years. The older I get the less likely I will be of getting married and that does not bother me.

 

[Blessed Life]

I have been celibate since I guess 18.

 

[Blessed Life]

That is fair, you and God know yourself best. There are no marriageable women in my church or in my area really, especially since I haven't much money.

I second that.

 

[bèlla]

Greetings,

I’ve been focused on my purpose and spiritual assignments for several years. I’m finally at a point where I have the time and energy to consider companionship.

I don’t think this is something I should entertain alone. Having Christian friends and loved ones come alongside in prayer is very important. I believe healthy unions are maintained with godly support. Going it alone is really hard.

Every age has its challenges. I’m not daunted by the difficulties we face. Love is the glue that binds committed hearts as one. If we maintain love in the midst of our hurts and disappointments we have a greater chance of weathering the storms that come.

God has whittled away my wants over the years. And He’s demonstrated that best doesn’t always arrive in the guise we prefer or expect. The deepest bond I’ve experienced is through an imperfect friend whose capacity for love blows me away.

I might have missed an amazing connection if her brokenness put me off. I wouldn’t have the satisfaction of seeing her whole and witnessing the woman she’s become. Ticking boxes would have cost me the abiding love we share.

What I desire most is someone who loves like that. Fearlessly without reserve. Unapologetically without shame. Eternally, from this life unto the next.

Bound by love and a promise.

~Bella

 

[blackribbon]

I am single because of cancer. I am too tired being a single parent to have time to do anything about it. I am not single for any other reason. However, after having been in a good marriage for as long as I was, I would be very particular about who I married and being single is preferable to being married to the wrong person.

 

[bekkilyn]

I have been single by choice for the past few years because I do not wish to go through the horrors of another marriage and betrayal. I don't know that I could ever have that sort of trust with another human being (barring Jesus) again.

 

[HisGraceAbounds]

I 'chose' to be single in that I realized I am far too emotionally damaged to have any kind of normal, proper relationship with a woman. I 'chose' to be single in that being single is the most peaceful way I can live my life.

These are both nice ways of saying I gave up. I quit.

 

[ReesePiece23]

Choice initially - I really DID have a lot of work to do, things I wanted to achieve and a world I wanted to see. I did all of that, and then in typical ReesePiece fashion I reinvented myself this year and started all over again with new goals, new dreams and a fresh outlook.

I think the goal now is to meet a woman as driven as me and do a sort of 'collaboration on life' like two musicians would, rather than find someone to 'complete me'. Yeah.. y'know, I kind of like that idea actually.

I did have a very nice date of sorts a few weeks ago when I blew through Europe briefly (this is a woman who knows me through my beer blog), but really, we're two people who REALLY like beer. I reckon we'd both become a pair of raving alcoholics if we took it seriously, and I'm trying to tighten up on that wild life now. I'm finding new interests in art/etc.

 

[VMaeLove]

There is so much pressure being single. Friends trying to 'hook you up', parents asking questions, tv and movies make flings and sex like super important... I do not feel that way.
I have been on a few dates with men years before now and they only cared about sex in the end. I would not give it up and they found some one else who would.
Before I am a christian I dated women and I did not found a good relationship because I could not let go of my ambitions or because I wanted space or what ever.

I am choosing to remain single to focus on my self and my life and my career and because dating is annoying and dogs make wonderful companions any way.

 

[bèlla]

Before I am a christian I dated women and I did not found a good relationship because I could not let go of my ambitions or because I wanted space or what ever.

Was the transition easy once you came to faith or were you always attracted to men?

I am choosing to remain single to focus on my self and my life and my career and because dating is annoying and dogs make wonderful companions any way.

There are stresses with the opposite sex that are not an issue when you’re single. Especially, when you’re focused on other things.

~Bella

 

[KarlKarlingIII]

Having a family and raising children with the law of Christ on their hearts is perhaps one of the holiest and most counterrevolutionary acts. The first revolutionary was the devil who was defeated by God's angels.
This subjugation of our own will, the humbling of the ego to the will of God is a most holy task. God blesses this holy endeavor.
There is no need for Christians to hide children from the modern world, but rather show them the world and tell them: "that is how it, now pray for them".

 

[VMaeLove]

Was the transition easy once you came to faith or were you always attracted to men?



There are stresses with the opposite sex that are not an issue when you’re single. Especially, when you’re focused on other things.

~Bella

It is a easy choice being single when the alternative is eternal hell. And both are prefered to intimacy with the opposite sex.lol

I am blessed with a few great friendships, most are men. That is fine for me I am never super needy. God provide me with peace and love, and I have a lot other things to focus on you are right.

 

[Sir Robbins]

I 'chose' to be single in that I realized I am far too emotionally damaged to have any kind of normal, proper relationship with a woman. I 'chose' to be single in that being single is the most peaceful way I can live my life.

These are both nice ways of saying I gave up. I quit.

I am in the same boat. I never started though. I went through high school and later fighting unknown medical issues (nothing visible to the human eye) and though I'm grateful I know what it is, I have gone far too long alone and every year I like it more for the peace and balance it brings. I do get lonely a lot but I'll take that over dealing with another person.

I am single by choice but also by circumstance I suppose in a way too and I'm 30. I threw away many dreams relating to relationships, like weddings, having a wife and family. Those are no longer things I really want and much of my depression and battle with MS has a role in it. I still live a full life, I just do it alone.

 

[ReesePiece23]

Personally, I don't think anyone, even long time single Christian men, that have obtained from this behavior. Any red-blooded human being has to get it out of their system eventually. Esp. after years of obtaining from actual human intercourse.
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The two aren't even comparable anyway. One takes care of a bodily function, the other is yeah, actual love making.

Sorry, I kind of know the difference through experience. You don't get to 29 and not know the difference.

 

[ThisIsMe123]

The two aren't even comparable anyway. One takes care of a bodily function, the other is yeah, actual love making.

Sorry, I kind of know the difference through experience. You don't get to 29 and not know the difference.

I'm not talking about knowing the difference. I was talking about, if some Christian man hasn't gotten sex from a woman in years, and just prefers to rub one out on occasion. It's a sin either way, but at least it's lesser of the two evil. There's no consequences to masturbation, ie...pregnancy and disease.

 

[Sir Robbins]

The two aren't even comparable anyway. One takes care of a bodily function, the other is yeah, actual love making.

Sorry, I kind of know the difference through experience. You don't get to 29 and not know the difference.

plenty of sex out there that doesn't involve "love" and isn't far off from doing it alone. I can't speak on the differences as my MS makes things almost impossible in that area anyways

 

[ReesePiece23]

plenty of sex out there that doesn't involve "love" and isn't far off from doing it alone. I can't speak on the differences as my MS makes things almost impossible in that area anyways

Unfortunately true. I'm guilty of being self absorbed sometimes so I don't tend to think about people who partake in "casual love" - I don't know why anyone would want to, it's not my style.

Takes all sorts I suppose.

P.S you're not missing much. Both are the most overrated thing ever.