How many on here chose to be single?

[ReesePiece23]

I'm not talking about knowing the difference. I was talking about, if some Christian man hasn't gotten sex from a woman in years, and just prefers to rub one out on occasion. It's a sin either way, but at least it's lesser of the two evil. There's no consequences to masturbation, ie...pregnancy and disease.

I wasn't having a pop at you, I was just apologising to the forum for having a previous life (you know how it is.) I worded my post badly.

 

[bèlla]

I am blessed with a few great friendships, most are men. That is fine for me I am never super needy. God provide me with peace and love, and I have a lot other things to focus on you are right.

I’m not super needy either and my life is full. Joy and peace are my norm and I’m content. Intimacy with the opposite sex has its challenges and demands. I’ll accept that for the right person but not all the time. It becomes wearing after a while.

~Bella

 

[ReesePiece23]

I’m not super needy either and my life is full. Joy and peace are my norm and I’m content. Intimacy with the opposite sex has its challenges and demands. I’ll accept that for the right person but not all the time. It becomes wearing after a while.

~Bella

It's just as satisfying brewing a nice cup of tea and sitting down with a shortbread biscuit.

Yes, I'm a Londoner. It's literally our answer to everything.

 

[bèlla]

It's just as satisfying brewing a nice cup of tea and sitting down with a shortbread biscuit.

Yes, I'm a Londoner. It's literally our answer to everything.

Good tea and biscuits are hard to resist. I grew up having tea parties that became afternoon tea and comfy moments like the one you shared.

~Bella

 

[VMaeLove]

I’m not super needy either and my life is full. Joy and peace are my norm and I’m content. Intimacy with the opposite sex has its challenges and demands. I’ll accept that for the right person but not all the time. It becomes wearing after a while.

~Bella

I believe real intimacy is deeper than physical but is a connection of the soul. Some thing I have not experienced with a man and may never experience.

My Papa raised me saying all of a time ,,Kümmere Dich nicht um ungelegte Eier'' like saying do not worry about a egg that is not laid.
Do not focus on what I do not have or what is not guaranteed. Focus on what I can do with what I have and what life gives me.

If a day happens that a man can see and understand my soul and I can see and understand his soul. we will see.

If that never happens my small life will not be less important and beautiful. I will not stop loving His creation and I will not stop trying to be the best I can be.
That is my purpose.

 

[bèlla]

I believe real intimacy is deeper than physical but is a connection of the soul. Some thing I have not experienced with a man and may never experience.

I agree and I’ve never allowed that depth of relating with the opposite sex. I’ve withheld a lot. This keeps my heart in good repair and alleviates bitterness, jadedness, and regrets later on.

Do not focus on what I do not have or what is not guaranteed. Focus on what I can do with what I have and what life gives me.

That’s great advice. It keeps you level-headed and gracious. And you’re less likely to bemoan your lot or be discontented.

If a day happens that a man can see and understand my soul and I can see and understand his soul. we will see.

Soul connections are rare but precious. It’s a beautiful feeling when you encounter another who testifies to your essence. I’ve never had that with a man. But I found my feminine soul mate 17 years ago. I think my heart would burst with joy from both.

If that never happens my small life will not be less important and beautiful. I will not stop loving His creation and I will not stop trying to be the best I can be.
That is my purpose.

That’s beautifully stated. I like your perspective on matters of the heart. Its refreshingly grounded.

~Bella

 

[JAM2b]

I'm choosing to wait on pursuing a new relationship at this time.

I'm currently divorced and raising the last of my two kids - a priority. I've had an on/off relationship with my best friend for a lot of years. Right now it's off, and not likely to switch back on. But we are still close friends, and I wouldn't be willing to give up a close friendship with this man if a romantic interest wanted me to.

I'm not certain if I want to remain single for the rest of my life or not. I think I could be very content either way.

The trick to being single and emotionally healthy is to never undervalue friendships.

 

[sea5763]

nvm

 

[.Mikha'el.]

Choosing to be that way? I can't say so, but I think that's the way my life will unfold. It's really lonely, but I don't know how much it can be helped.

 

[S.O.J.I.A.]

I have accepted my fate.

I am at peace.

 

[( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)]

I have accepted my fate.

I am at peace.

Does this mean that you are confident that God has called you to singleness. Or are you saying that you are just going to let life make your lemonade for you and give up altogether?

 

[S.O.J.I.A.]

Does this mean that you are confident that God has called you to singleness. Or are you saying that you are just going to let life make your lemonade for you and give up altogether?

singleness is a circumstance. you can either change that circumstance or make peace with it.

 

[bekkilyn]

When you think of singleness as a "fate" (negative connotation), the message is that it's not a calling from God, but a current circumstance to which one is resigned. When one is living within God's calling, there is not just peace but also joy that matches one's hearts desire, despite circumstances that may be difficult or painful (i.e. Paul's prison experiences).

 

[blackribbon]

I agree. My state of singleness is my fate, at least at this time. It is not a calling. I was completely called to marriage and miss it (as well as him) tremendously. I still feel as if I was made to be a helpmate within marriage, but it has to be the right person and accept that it might not be in God's plan...

 

[Albertine Retrouvee]

I'm single, but did I "choose to be single?" I had a few offers, but I didn't feel like marrying those men, so I didn't. When I was 35 I did the San Francisco Marathon. I was in training and wore shorts every day. An older man (age 67) started asking me to marry him. He had a lot going for him: two degrees from the Yale School of Music, fluent in numerous languages, nice-looking. But I didn't feel like marrying him, so I didn't. Looking back, I do get lonely, but I never regret saying "No" to his offer of marriage. I love being free, in case I meet someone new!

 

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I'm single, but did I "choose to be single?" I had a few offers, but I didn't feel like marrying those men, so I didn't. When I was 35 I did the San Francisco Marathon. I was in training and wore shorts every day. An older man (age 67) started asking me to marry him. He had a lot going for him: two degrees from the Yale School of Music, fluent in numerous languages, nice-looking. But I didn't feel like marrying him, so I didn't. Looking back, I do get lonely, but I never regret saying "No" to his offer of marriage. I love being free, in case I meet someone new!

All endearing qualities for sure. But nothing about him loving the Lord or any other positive spiritual characteristics? Not to say he was or wasn't a believer. But it's interesting to note nonetheless.

 

[Niels]

When you think of singleness as a "fate" (negative connotation), the message is that it's not a calling from God, but a current circumstance to which one is resigned. When one is living within God's calling, there is not just peace but also joy that matches one's hearts desire, despite circumstances that may be difficult or painful (i.e. Paul's prison experiences).

Singleness isn't my calling, but it isn't my fate either.

I'm single, but did I "choose to be single?" I had a few offers, but I didn't feel like marrying those men, so I didn't. When I was 35 I did the San Francisco Marathon. I was in training and wore shorts every day. An older man (age 67) started asking me to marry him. He had a lot going for him: two degrees from the Yale School of Music, fluent in numerous languages, nice-looking. But I didn't feel like marrying him, so I didn't. Looking back, I do get lonely, but I never regret saying "No" to his offer of marriage. I love being free, in case I meet someone new!

Did the two of you date for a while, or did he ask you to marry him out of the blue?

I like being free for now, because it means I'll be available when the right woman comes along. It's possible that she never will, which would be unfortunate, but I've weighed the pros and the cons.

 

[Albertine Retrouvee]

The 67-year-old man and I met in an Italian class. He was a platonic friend. And as for his faith, he was what is called a lapsed Catholic. He has since had a stroke and has not come to faith even now. Don’t these people know God tries to ‘’get their attention’’ with events like strokes?...

 

[( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)]

The 67-year-old man and I met in an Italian class. He was a platonic friend. And as for his faith, he was what is called a lapsed Catholic. He has since had a stroke and has not come to faith even now. Don’t these people know God tries to ‘’get their attention’’ with events like strokes?...

All the reason why I see you had every opportunity to turn his marriage proposal down. Who in the world asks someone to marry them without any prior involvement together anyway? Oh, a lost person. That's who. Nevermind

 

[ThisIsMe123]

Choosing to be that way? I can't say so, but I think that's the way my life will unfold. It's really lonely, but I don't know how much it can be helped.

I am with you, Mikha'el. I Don't choose to be that way.

But, I don't have a desire to be single, and honestly I wonder (elephant in the room moment here) if the poster like the OP who had been declaring this on here multiple times may actually just be saying that to make themselves feel better about not being attached? I could be wrong.