Question for you guys. How many kids did you/would you like to have? If you have a odd number of kids do they get along or does one feel left out? How has the number of kids affected their friendships with each other? Just a few questions
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How many kids?
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We are trying to get pregnant with our first, I don't know how many kids we will want. I am going to see how I handle being pregnant.
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I have one baby, and I would like to have 4 children by the end. However, finances might make it 2 or 3 children. I know many would say that you should just have the kids and make ends meet, but I would really like to be able to give my kids extras I couldn't have like piano lessons, sports teams like little league, etc. So I will hopefully have no more than I can afford to give those things to, and pay for them ourself. I don't really want to have assistance for those things either.
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MyLittleWonders
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We consider ourselves quiverful and will take as many as God gives to us. 
We have two boys right now (and a miscarried one waiting for us in the next life) ages 4 and 1 1/2. I just got my cycle back and am hoping to get pregnant again soon. As well, we are planning on adopting one or two girls from China (at least that has always been what I feel God has laid upon my heart). Our house can fit comfortably (well, sharing rooms, but none-the-less) 6 children ... I'd love a big family. What's really interesting is before the miscarriage (which was inbetween our two boys), we used birth control, and figured we have between 2 and 4 kids (I wanted 4, my husband 2). Then, we miscarried and realized that we had absolutely no control in the issue. It was at that time that we gave it over to God. We stopped using birth control (didn't like what I was learning about it anyways) and told God that He was now in control ... of our desires for each other, of my cycle, of my womb ... of our family. Right now I am strongly desiring to be pregnant again - about 3 months ago, I still wasn't quite there. I feel it is about time, yet each day I pray that God take control over my body and that the next one come in His time.
Phew ... sorry that was a little involved. It's just a subject that has become very near and dear to my heart.
ETA: I'm not sure what the exact reasons are (we homeschool so our older son doesn't go to preschool ... he's home all day with his brother ... and also hasn't learned the whole "baby brothers/sisters are pains" from others in a school setting), but our boys (28 months apart to be exact) are really good playmates. They have their days (don't we all), but overall, they love to play with each other. They get along well and can spend much time together.
We have two boys right now (and a miscarried one waiting for us in the next life) ages 4 and 1 1/2. I just got my cycle back and am hoping to get pregnant again soon. As well, we are planning on adopting one or two girls from China (at least that has always been what I feel God has laid upon my heart). Our house can fit comfortably (well, sharing rooms, but none-the-less) 6 children ... I'd love a big family. What's really interesting is before the miscarriage (which was inbetween our two boys), we used birth control, and figured we have between 2 and 4 kids (I wanted 4, my husband 2). Then, we miscarried and realized that we had absolutely no control in the issue. It was at that time that we gave it over to God. We stopped using birth control (didn't like what I was learning about it anyways) and told God that He was now in control ... of our desires for each other, of my cycle, of my womb ... of our family. Right now I am strongly desiring to be pregnant again - about 3 months ago, I still wasn't quite there. I feel it is about time, yet each day I pray that God take control over my body and that the next one come in His time. Phew ... sorry that was a little involved.
It's just a subject that has become very near and dear to my heart. ETA: I'm not sure what the exact reasons are (we homeschool so our older son doesn't go to preschool ... he's home all day with his brother ... and also hasn't learned the whole "baby brothers/sisters are pains" from others in a school setting), but our boys (28 months apart to be exact) are really good playmates. They have their days (don't we all), but overall, they love to play with each other. They get along well and can spend much time together.
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Princessperky
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As many as God gives me (current total, 2.5), but I do hope DS is wrong when he talks about 15. That is pretty high (no offense to anyone with that many, just don't think I could do it, though I guess if God gave them to me, he would help me figure out how)
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I have only "birthed" one child (a daughter, age 23). I would have loved to have had at least 2 children about 2 yrs apart, but things just didn't work out that way. However, when our first daughter was 17 years old, we "inherited" two more (husbands nephew at age 3-1/2 and his great-niece at age 2). What a blessing they have been to us!
We have adopted our nephew and have legal guardianship of our g-niece (unfortunately we couldn't adopt her because of our state laws and she now lives with her birth mother during school times---too long of a story for here, but the hardest thing I've ever had to do). They have been with us for six years now.
The 2 younger ones get along about as well as any brother and sister, sometimes good, sometimes not. And they call each other "brother" and "sister" even though they know they're actually uncle and niece. And of course our older one just doted on them. They really are so cute!
I once heard Bill Cosby say that if you only had one child, you really didn't know what parenting is. And boy, was he right---in my case, anyway!
For example, I never had to raise my voice to my first child, but with these 2 little ones I find myself having to yell just to be heard over their noise. I always thought it was terrible to see parents yelling at their kids all the time, but now I know why!
We have adopted our nephew and have legal guardianship of our g-niece (unfortunately we couldn't adopt her because of our state laws and she now lives with her birth mother during school times---too long of a story for here, but the hardest thing I've ever had to do). They have been with us for six years now.
The 2 younger ones get along about as well as any brother and sister, sometimes good, sometimes not. And they call each other "brother" and "sister" even though they know they're actually uncle and niece. And of course our older one just doted on them. They really are so cute!
I once heard Bill Cosby say that if you only had one child, you really didn't know what parenting is. And boy, was he right---in my case, anyway!
For example, I never had to raise my voice to my first child, but with these 2 little ones I find myself having to yell just to be heard over their noise. I always thought it was terrible to see parents yelling at their kids all the time, but now I know why!
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andiesmama
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We only have one, and as I know my limitations....we've decided to stop with one child & be thankful for the blessing that God has given us.
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Number 5 is due in Sept. Right now, I think that we'll be finished after this one. Of course, that could change, but I doubt it.
I came from a family of three kids and wouldn't recommend that. It's too easy to play two against the other one. Hopefully with 5 that won't be a problem.
I came from a family of three kids and wouldn't recommend that. It's too easy to play two against the other one. Hopefully with 5 that won't be a problem.
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I wouldn't want an odd number of kids, my husband was the oldest of 3 and always felt left out as a child. I was the youngest of two and we played together until we both got old enough to go our sperate ways.
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Beth1231
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My husband will rarely "put his foot down" on a topic, but when it came to how many children we wanted he said "Not three!" and that was that. Sure, we talked it about it more than that afterwards, but basically, he talked me up from my wanting "two or three" to wanting four and I think I'm okay with that. I think we will make terrific parents in a year or so (right now, we are just enjoying being newlyweds).
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I have one who died, two who I gave up for adoption. We have 4 right now-- and God willing we will have more.....
I don't know- I want as many as God wants for us...
My kids get along really well, particularly for living in a two bedroom house with one bathroom! However, we live out in the country, so there are no other kids to play with. It's kind of a do or die situation-- they kind of have to like each other....
I don't know- I want as many as God wants for us...
My kids get along really well, particularly for living in a two bedroom house with one bathroom! However, we live out in the country, so there are no other kids to play with. It's kind of a do or die situation-- they kind of have to like each other....
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I was young and really, really too selfish and immature to be able to give my whole self as a mother. Now that I have children of my own- I know for certain it was the right thing to do-- I never would have mafe the sacrifices necessary-- I was still too wounded and to broken to offer the unconditional love a mommy needs to offer....Leanna said:
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sammipher
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Well when we were first conceiving I said I would love to have five...I love my daughter dearly and would not trade her for anything in the world...but, right now she may be an only child..lol...ask me again in five years..
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Yes, well you have a newborn. I told my husband after I came home from the hospital that I was never having any more babies. I had the worst birth and pain after birth ever. After a while though I fell more and more in love with my son... and things went back to normal and I wanted more kids. Hehe.
Edit to add: Not that I didn't love him from before he was even born, but I find each month he gets to be more and more fun and more of a delight to my heart and I remember the pain lasted a lot less than the joy.
Edit to add: Not that I didn't love him from before he was even born, but I find each month he gets to be more and more fun and more of a delight to my heart and I remember the pain lasted a lot less than the joy.
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I have 2 Dean aged 9 and Marisa aged 5(their photos are in the gallery under the title my son)I am in two minds to have anymore.I would like to have at least 4 so only another two to go!
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