How long should you primarily wait before getting engaged? My boyfriend and I have been talking about the possibility of getting engaged, but that wouldn't happen until around January or so. We will have been together for almost a year by that time.
-
Starting today August 7th, 2024, in order to post in the Married Couples, Courting Couples, or Singles forums, you will not be allowed to post if you have your Marital status designated as private. Announcements will be made in the respective forums as well but please note that if yours is currently listed as Private, you will need to submit a ticket in the Support Area to have yours changed.
-
CF has always been a site that welcomes people from different backgrounds and beliefs to participate in discussion and even debate. That is the nature of its ministry. In view of recent events emotions are running very high. We need to remind people of some basic principles in debating on this site. We need to be civil when we express differences in opinion. No personal attacks. Avoid you, your statements. Don't characterize an entire political party with comparisons to Fascism or Communism or other extreme movements that committed atrocities. CF is not the place for broad brush or blanket statements about groups and political parties. Put the broad brushes and blankets away when you come to CF, better yet, put them in the incinerator. Debate had no place for them. We need to remember that people that commit acts of violence represent themselves or a small extreme faction.
How long...
- Thread starter .Nevermore.
- Start date
K9_Trainer
Unusually unusual, absolutely unpredictable
- May 31, 2006
- 13,651
- 947
- Faith
- Pantheist
- Marital Status
- In Relationship
- Politics
- US-Others
You should wait until you are ready. Whether that is in a year, or in 3 years, the amount of time doesn't matter. If you are not ready to marry, you shouldn't get married.
Upvote
0
NiobiumTragedy
Glorious Tragedy
^This.
Everyone is different. Different maturity, different situations, different goals. What matters is whether or not you're truly ready. Can you handle it financially? Can you handle it spiritually and mentally? These are the questions you need to ask yourselves.
Upvote
0
Puptart
Live, Laugh, Love.. and adopt a dog :)
- May 14, 2012
- 948
- 101
- Faith
- Muslim
- Marital Status
- Married
- Politics
- CA-NDP
Precisely.
My husband proposed at 6 months and we were talking about the possibility of marriage only 3 months in. We were married 6 months after the proposal (together for 1 year total) and we've been together for 5 happy years so far. It's not about how long you wait.. it's about just being ready.
Upvote
0
technofox
Newbie
Puptart said:
I second this.
I dated 4 months, proposed and married 6 months later. I thought we were ready; however, I regret not waiting, because I ended up divorced. I would recommend at least 1 year of dating before getting married, because people may behave differently during certain seasons. It seems most people I have known to have successful marriages dated at least a year or more before marriage. Of course marriage is like stocks there are no guarantees.
Upvote
0
That is all relative to the couple and circumstances. There are many considerations that go beyond the feelings that you have for each other and are more practical in nature, such as financial aspects, careers, missionary work, etc. The important thing is to be 100% sure before taking the plunge. Some some this happens after a few weeks, for others it can take years. There is no general "right" or "wrong" length of time. There is only what is right for you as a couple.
God bless
JR
God bless
JR
Upvote
0
My wife and I had our first conversation in February of 1999. I proposed on July 20th. We married on December 18th of that same year.
By March, though, we were spending a lot of time together. I took her to dinner every night. We went to church services together and talked together for hours and hours.
The main thing was we both perceived it was the Lord's will for us to marry, and He showed this to us. I was confident that it was the Lord's will when I proposed.
There is no rule for how long it should take. I'd say long enough to know that this person would be a godly spouse, to know that your personalities are a match, that your goals, dreams, and calling can work together. And also, to square everything away with parents and any other relatives that will be involved (e.g. kids if they exist.)
Especially for the man, but also for the woman, pray, pray pray and give the Lord a chance to stop you from making the decision. If you feel like you don't have peace with the Lord if you marry, then don't.
By March, though, we were spending a lot of time together. I took her to dinner every night. We went to church services together and talked together for hours and hours.
The main thing was we both perceived it was the Lord's will for us to marry, and He showed this to us. I was confident that it was the Lord's will when I proposed.
There is no rule for how long it should take. I'd say long enough to know that this person would be a godly spouse, to know that your personalities are a match, that your goals, dreams, and calling can work together. And also, to square everything away with parents and any other relatives that will be involved (e.g. kids if they exist.)
Especially for the man, but also for the woman, pray, pray pray and give the Lord a chance to stop you from making the decision. If you feel like you don't have peace with the Lord if you marry, then don't.
Upvote
0
Similar threads
