Well if everyone else can answer this without writing a novella, I figure I must be able to, too! *thinks*...
now.. how to do that?
Dh and I grew up strongly devout, sold-out Catholics. Catholic schools, lifelong service in the church (I sang in my mother's choir when I was but a wee lil 4 yo and DH was of course an active guy in his church), confirmation, protestant friends to whom we argued the RC position on everything under the sun, we were both very active during our college years, I lived for one college-year in our student center and was a peer-minister (part of the campus ministry team), lead music on Sundays, on and on and on. Dh went to Medjugorje with his mom a year or so before we married. Both from strong Catholic families. I spent years visitng convents, staying for short and extended visits, actively discerning a religious vocation in everything from the most austere cloistered order in the USA to active-in-the-community Fransiscan and other orders, all through my high-school and college years.
When we married, we moved far from our families and sought a Catholic community -- we were active in a few, actually, as musical talent is usually welcome/needed and I spent a lot of time practicing and at masses with the university group, training up leaders. (my point here is that we continued being very active).
FF... we had a few children and they were extremely inquisitive and asked questions that would make a theologian pale

. We taught them, and taught them, and they absorbed and questioned more and learned... and we eventually enrolled our eldest (4 at the time) into two different preschools -- the Catholic one 3 days/wk and the LCMS one the other 2 days/wk. Though we -- and he -- loved the teachers in both schools, we -- and he -- found he learned so much more about Jesus, the Bible, prayer, how to live life daily as a lover of Jesus... at the Lutheran preschool. We decided that LCMS teaching was close
enough to Catholic teaching that we could accept him going there, but we taught him the peculiarly Catholic doctrines ourselves. We continued, from that year on, to enroll our children in the LCMS preschool, and to this day, all of our children have spent at least one year in that preschool... our second-youngest is enrolled now.
Well... by the time our eldest went off to public Kindergarten, we had been convicted enough that the Catholic church flew in the face of Scripture with so many of her doctrines... so we were church-hunting. At the same time, our eldest was so grieved inside at how Jesus/God/anything Christian is kept out of the schools -- he wanted to come home for school. By the end of his first-grade year, we were ready... and homeschooling is really what opened the door to us growing and growing, and coming to the place where we embraced the call of our Messiah into His faith, Messianic Judaism.
We've had an intensive journey all of these years... got seriously creamed by some very unchristian "christians", embraced and struggled and made it through a few more gentilized churches... staying up to 4 years in each and then moving along as God grew us along and convicted us of both doctrinal truth and error, and His Will for us to dig deeper and leave off more and more of the paganistic gentile church practices. We became Sabbath-keepers finally about 4 years ago, I think... just beginning with baby-steps and walking only as far as our Mashiach draws... we added a couple of feasts the next year... and a couple more the next year... on and on, just chewing and learning slowly.
We are in an area with no Jews whatsoever that I know of... no synagogues, nothing, for about 150 miles. No Messianics for about 4 hours or so. So, for now, we continue to observe Shabbat and the feasts at home and learn more, together, and we fellowship with the larger body of believers in a very nice non-denominational "Bible" church on the first day. Our church supports Chosen People Ministries, our pastor and his wife are encouragin of us and even accepting of my headscarf when I am gutsy enough to cover for service (which is a sticky thing for me and shouldn't be, but I often fear putting people off in this large church, possibly putting up barriers where there need be none). DH and I are voracious readers, our 14, 12 and 10 yo sons provide us a lot of impetus to continue delving in as well, and we have awesome discussions

so for now... this has wroked out all right for us... but I am so longing to have a community to really embrace, to help us in our efforts to rear Messianic sons and daughters who see faith and worship and live life from a Messianic Jewish understanding.
Waiting on Yeshua to move us somewhere where we can find such a thing... and for now, we just carry on
(I wonder why I can't seem to write without rambling even when I TRY!)