How important should looks be?

[Kol]

Instead of just bumping my testimony to the front and vanishing again, I figured I'd start a new thread which should have lots of hits.

How important should physical looks be to a relationship? Should only the woman be concerned with her looks and the guy allowed to develop a beer gut? Research shows that more attractive people live longer lives, are happier in general, get preferential treatment in society, and...well, they're just better than people like me or you. So does it really matter?

 

[Malf]

How can one be so shallow. As if the looks of a dear woman should mean anything to a man of God.

Tell me, would you disown your own child if they did not meet your physical requirements. No! Amen! Then why would you reject a female of this earth for the same reason?

 

[KeenanParkerII]

Just like anything else, looks don't have to take priority, and neither should they be disregarded. (At least that's how I feel.) Honestly, there must be at least some physical attraction present between two married people.

There is a difference between a healthy physical attraction and temptation. On a personal level we all know which it is.. at least us guys. Over a long period of time physical attraction takes the back burner anyways.

If a girl is single, I get along with her, feel good around her, and find her attractive, I know that's healthy. We are men and women ya know! It's a beautiful thing!!

I hope all married people stay attracted to each other forever.

 

[Breakaway_republic]

Truth is, outward looks are VERY decieving... and worthless. A girl [in my case, since i'm a guy] could look really beautiful, but on the inside be UUUUUUUUUGLY! Also, the inverse can be applied.

THAT'S my story and I'm stickin' to it!

 

[Luther073082]

You should be attracted to her at first. But don't expect or worry about being knock dead attracted to her. Some attraction will be plenty at first.

I found that as I got closer emotionally with my fiancee, the more physically attracted to her I became.

Melissa was pretty when I first met her, but I wouldn't have labeled her, "most beautiful woman in the world". But as I've become closer to her, I've labeled her that, because that to me is what she is to me.

I wouldn't put too much time worrying about it. If you are attracted to her at first, and you become emotionally closer to her, she'll grow much more attractive to you as time wears on.

However I would not recommend dating a girl that you just arn't attracted to. Its bad for both you and her.

 

[FireLily]

I think looks are important. Keeping oneself up (to me) indicates that you care for your outward body and want it to remain/look healthy. As far as attractiveness goes, I think it is safe to say everyone is not Halle Berry. I don't think you should write off everyone who's not drop - dead gorgeous, but don't just settle for ANYTHING either.

 

[Isambard]

Looks are very important. It demonstrates the person is willing to take care of themself, and has the will to do it.

 

[smacarena]

I'd say no, but then I wouldn't be living in the real world. But it is just one component of a relationship.

 

[airmancarrasco]

I think its important to attract one another. It really depends on your style/level of physical attraction. For some its watevers and to others its a big deal. Me personally I care about how I look. I take good care of my body which leads to a healthy life style. However I have meet lots of girls who are pretty hot and just suck personality wise...wuz up with that? Not all of them are like that though.

 

[Spirit_Star]

Certainly one wants to be somewhat physical attracted to their spouse or significant other. However I think good personality is much more important. There are people who are physical good looking on the outside but may have a really bad personality. Then there are people who may not have been blessed with extreme good looks but have a very good personality and their beauty on the inside outshines their mundane outer appearance looks.

I have heard of situations where someone falls in love with someone whom when they meet they weren’t physical attracted to them much if at all but after getting to know the person they fell for them.

In the end beauty is truly in the eye of the beholder. We are all beautiful in the eyes of God.

 

[CrystalBrooke]

Personality counts more than anything...BUT, I wouldn't go through life with someone I wasn't attracted to. I think looks are fairly important, but you can't judge a person based on looks alone. I've known many men and women who were very attractive people but were so nasty and rude to people that they became ugly to me. Same goes for people who I've found unattractive, you get to know them, they're good people and they start to look better...at least they do to me.

 

[Thunder Peel]

I hope looks aren't that important, otherwise I'm in trouble.

 

[raz!]

i think theres a difference between like ''not being vain'' and ''letting yourself go''

when i was getting deeper into my relationship with Christ I decided I would work on my need to 'look good'. i was never vain, but i did worry about my looks.
its no good having outter beauty, if you are ugly inside, and indeed people may judge you on your looks initially, but long lasting friendships go on your inner beauty.


true, i wouldnt go out of the house without washing, dressing in dirty clothes etc...but i wouldnt be consumed with the mirror either.


and with partners, it is the physical look that first draws you in, but a relationship is based on how well you get on with that person. and its true, their beauty does grow the more you fall in love with them.


so....i dont think looks are very important in comparison to personality, however, i think the way a person presents themselves reflects their personality

 

[thegenerel]

i would say that there is no doubt its the first thing that attracts me to a girl, but that is because i havent spoken to her yet!

i believe there has to be a physical attraction for a relationship to take off. Then we begin learn everything else that is special/amazing/unique about that other person.

now, i do not judge a person on how God crafted their appearance, but i can get an idea of the person by how they take care of themselves. if you dont care about yourself, how can you care about me?

BUT, i dont care how good looking a person is if they have a repulsive personality/character. if you reek of narcissism/arrogance/etc i wont even bother. such as many celebrities - they seem so self absorbed that they lose any attractiveness.

also, i think some level of imperfection makes a girl attractive. as if she was actually a human being and has not been able to glide through life!

 

[SuperPhil]

I figured I'd start a new thread which should have lots of hits.

Huh? You get paid per hit or something?

 

[xDenax]

Should only the woman be concerned with her looks and the guy allowed to develop a beer gut?

Well I can't speak for every woman but I personally care about the way my husband looks. I think he's very cute..have since I first saw him. I wouldn't want him to gain weight and he knows that. It's just not my personal preference.

 

[Klesk]

I think looks tell a lot about a person. I think most people have the potential to be very attractive if they simply take care of themselves. Usually when I see someone that I perceive as unattractive, its because to me it looks like they spend little to no time even trying; and often I see that as a sign of the person being lazy, which is a definite turn-off

 

[Andrew Sneddon]

Aside from looking good for other people your body is a gift and personally I think that you should try and look after what you've been given, you will also (providing you get the balence right) live a more productive and enjoyable life. As for being in a relationship if I had a wife I would be pretty [wash my mouth][wash my mouth][wash my mouth][wash my mouth]ed if one day she just stopped caring about her personal apearence and health and started eating rubbish because she is damaging her and the relationship.

And i'm not going to go out with someone I'm not attracted to cause there is no point.

 

[WhiteWillow]

My goodness. I think personality is the thing.

 

[Riddik7]

your body is a temple is it not? So take care of it. But don't judge people based on their looks, and don't make looks more important than friends, family, life, and faith.

And in regards to tats and piercings... yes our body is a temple so whats wrong with decorating it? (sorry just had to throw that in...)