How important is physical attraction?

[Tinkerbell33]

It's of some import, but not as much as ethical values, personality or intelligence.

yeah I agree

 

[mina]

It's important but not the most important thing. I don't have one set thing that i look to as the only acceptable form of physical qualities that i find attractive. I find many things attractive. Some people you just won't have chemistry with no matter if you think they are physically attractive or not.

 

[SonicBOOM]

it has less to do with how the person looks and more to do with what we see as attractrive... and there's nothing wrong with that. I know guys who seek a girl soley on their inner beauty because nothing else draws them to girls. It all depends on what hits our senses and draws us to people. Personally? I find short girls attractive, and thats not something everyone would agree with. We're very strange like that.... we all have a diffrent oppionion on what beauty is.

 

[Beauty4Ashes]

I recognize an intital physical attraction based purely on looks. But that changes based on what I think of a person's personality. Its almost like someone can make themselves look 50% better looking or 50% uglier based on how they treat me and others.

I think its pretty subconcious really. Psycoanaylse that!

I agree with this

 

[CoachR64]

I am a visual person. I learn visually and kinestheticly. I find physical beauty/attraction to be an important thing.

However, as I mature, I find that my idea of physical beauty has changed over time as well. Girls I would have never found attractive 6-7 years ago, I now find very appealing.

Coach

 

[Beauty4Ashes]

That's actually a 2 way street. Christian girls aren't exactly what men would readily categorize as "hot" looking.

Where are the Jessica Alba's and Halle Berry's of the Christian realm? I haven't seen one yet.

sorry, someone must have been standing in my way.


*rolls eyes

 

[Trashionista]

I think its somewhat important.

I'm never going to date a blond. I'm just not attracted to them. Put two equally attractive males - one dark, one fair - and I can guarantee, I'll probably find the brunette more attractive.

I don't think there's anything wrong with being attracted to certain qualities and choosing not to date people you're not physically attracted to. Yes, attraction can grow through personality, but I believe there has to be some physical attraction.

Providing I'm not being unnessecarily mean to any blond suitors, I don't really see the issue. Looks are somewhat important, though personality is more so.

 

[puddleoffaith]

I love blondes...lol. I think God created us to all have certain likes and dislikes when it comes to physical attractiveness. Thus, I think sometimes it can enhance the overall relationship between two people because it's so unique to each person. It's a good thing that we all look different and have different preferences in a mate. If God didn't want us to take that part of each other into account, than he would have made us all clones. Fortunately, it is a part of all of us-our physical being.

 

[AceHero]

For me, physical attraction usually comes after emotional attraction. I mean it's not like I don't recognize that people are attractive -- but recognizing that doesn't mean I want to kiss them or anything or that I feel particularly drawn to them. I usually don't feel drawn to someone unless there is some emotional (as in admiration, respect, fondness, etc) attraction first. That being said, I do recognize that there are certainly people I just could not be physically attracted to (ever) and I see no point in pursuing a relationship with anyone I can't find attractive.

I recognize an intital physical attraction based purely on looks. But that changes based on what I think of a person's personality. Its almost like someone can make themselves look 50% better looking or 50% uglier based on how they treat me and others.

That's exactly the way I am. In college, I'm surrounding by hundreds of girls, many of them good-looking, but they seem to get even more attractive when I find they're Christian and share the same kind of standards I have. There's this one girl I initially found to be alright looking, but when I found out she was a really strong Christian, she became even prettier.

I've always read that it was more important for a guy then for a girl...but I'm sure there are many exceptions to that rule. We also learned this in psyc class.

Anyways, I would say there are many other factors much more important. I would say attractiveness accounts towards overall datability as a quiz would to a final grade. Their relationship with God would be the exam.

Yeah, I pretty much cross a girl off my list if she isn't a Christian, and to a similar extent, if she doesn't share my strong standards and values.

I don't see why I'd marry someone that I wouldn't want to have kids with, so she has to be physically attractive.

Agreed. If I'm not initially physically attracted to a girl, I'm not going to pursue her.

That's actually a 2 way street. Christian girls aren't exactly what men would readily categorize as "hot" looking.

Where are the Jessica Alba's and Halle Berry's of the Christian realm? I haven't seen one yet.

That is the worst stereotype I have ever heard! And hurtful too!

Sheesh. "Christian girls are homely and reserved and can't look "hot" for fear of being labeled "vain"."

Christian girls aren't hot... what a crock...

*huff*

Yeah, where are you living? I see plenty where I'm at!

I think its somewhat important.

I'm never going to date a blond. I'm just not attracted to them. Put two equally attractive males - one dark, one fair - and I can guarantee, I'll probably find the brunette more attractive.

I don't think there's anything wrong with being attracted to certain qualities and choosing not to date people you're not physically attracted to. Yes, attraction can grow through personality, but I believe there has to be some physical attraction.

Providing I'm not being unnessecarily mean to any blond suitors, I don't really see the issue. Looks are somewhat important, though personality is more so.

To me I'm not really physically attracted to certain types of attributes, but rather just things in general, i.e. curvy, slender girls, not necessarily just blondes or brunettes. I'm just not that strict in what I like.

 

[RefinedByFire]

sorry, someone must have been standing in my way.


*rolls eyes

LOL. I like that.

 

[Luther073082]

That's exactly the way I am. In college, I'm surrounding by hundreds of girls, many of them good-looking, but they seem to get even more attractive when I find they're Christian and share the same kind of standards I have. There's this one girl I initially found to be alright looking, but when I found out she was a really strong Christian, she became even prettier.

I miss college

 

[Niels]

It might be difficult to date a woman who has a radically different body type than what I grew up around. Although it's no guarantee that I will find them attractive, I do prefer the women I date to be in similar shape (at least in the same ballpark) as the women in my family.

 

[Luther073082]

It might be difficult to date a woman who has a radically different body type than what I grew up around. Although it's no guarantee that I will find them attractive, I do prefer the women I date to be in similar shape (at least in the same ballpark) as the women in my family.

I really tend to feel like women of any body type can be attractive.

Although my perfect woman has like a super model's body with Carrie Underwood's head.

But I don't expect perfection out of anyone. I'd be totally cool with Carrie Underwood's Head attached to Carrie Underwood's body. Especially if its attached to Carrie Underwood's money. In fact there are no words to describe how happy I would be with that.

LOL

 

[Niels]

I really tend to feel like women of any body type can be attractive.

Although my perfect woman has like a super model's body with Carrie Underwood's head.

But I don't expect perfection out of anyone.

40/400 rule? Man, I wish I could do that.

I believe that any woman can be beautiful... but that doesn't necessarily mean every type is romantically appealing to me. Anyway, my type includes a lot of women that most would consider "average"... or at least what average used to be. I'm a sucker for the "girl next door". Especially when the girl next door looks like Cheryl Burke.

 

[Luther073082]

40/400 rule? Man, I wish I could do that.

I believe that any woman can be beautiful... but that doesn't necessarily mean every type is romantically appealing to me. Anyway, my type includes a lot of women that most would consider "average"... or at least what average used to be. I'm a sucker for the "girl next door". Especially when the girl next door looks like Cheryl Burke.

No the 40/400 typically applies to what I find attractive and its true about 95% of the time if a girl is under 40 and under 400 pounds I find them attractive.

And no you don't want that to be true because honestly, its a lot easier to fall to lust when almost everyone is attractive to you.

 

[Zephyralder]

No the 40/400 typically applies to what I find attractive and its true about 95% of the time if a girl is under 40 and under 400 pounds I find them attractive.

And no you don't want that to be true because honestly, its a lot easier to fall to lust when almost everyone is attractive to you.

Haha, I bet.

Personally I must admit that when I first see somebody there's like a built-in "attractiveness-meter" that starts the calculation, but there have been cases where I get to know a girl more and find out the different things we have in common and I can vouch that that made a difference in their level of "attractiveness."

 

[Mikeb85]

Is physical attraction really that important in selecting a mate?

The reason I ask is that I find I often get along with women who I don't necessarily find that "hot" physically. Don't get me wrong, they are not bad. Not physically repulsive or anything.

But the ones who are the most attractive physically (or should I say, my "type") I don't usually get along with face to face as well.

Can anyone relate to what I am saying?

Physical attraction is important, but how someone carries themselves and takes care of themselves has alot to do with their outlook and priorities in life.

For me personally, I do alot of outdoor sports - skiing, backpacking, hiking, weight lifting - and I'm definitely looking for a girl who enjoys living an active, fun lifestyle. Needless to say, these activities require a certain level of fitness, and I'm definitely attracted to girls who are physically fit, healthy and enjoy being active. Theres no way I could deal with a girl who sits on the couch all day...

As for the usual stereotypes of beauty, I'm just attracted to girls who are physically fit, and cute. And of course personality makes a girl very attractive too...

 

[JPPT1974]

It is important to some degree
But it is what is on the inside that
Is important as you need to act
More like beautiful on the inside as
That goes a long way.

 

[LonelyTraveler]

Physical attraction is of no importance to me. It's just a waste of time and effort if she's just gonna treat me like garbage if she suspects that I'm somewhat attracted to her.

 

[JPPT1974]

Physical attraction is of no importance to me. It's just a waste of time and effort if she's just gonna treat me like garbage if she suspects that I'm somewhat attracted to her.

Good point as I feel that way as well!