Why do you have to create the separation? The ideas can coexist. We choose to accept the gift of God that is salvation because we have been presented the gospel and God opens our hearts, as is the case with Lydia in Acts, and then we choose what we want...
The question between us, is
"does God open certain person's hearts so they CAN believe", or
"does He open their hearts THROUGH belief?"
You perceive that Jn6:45 & 65 are saying that
"God gives them to Jesus so that they CAN believe". Let's read a couple verses, and see what you think of their meaning
together:
"I manifested Thy name to the men whom Thou gavest Me out of the world; Thine they WERE, and Thou gavest them to Me." Jn17:6
"You believe in God, believe also in Me." Jn14:1
"How do you say 'show us the Father'? ...He who has seen ME, has seen the Father. Do you not believe that I am in the Father, and the Father is in Me?" Jn14:9-10
Do you see how the idea of
"given-to-Jesus and THEN they believe", is ruined? They belonged to God (believed/followed God), and THEN (through that belief) were given to Jesus. Because
believing in God is the same as believing in Jesus, and vice-versa.
"If God were your Father, then you would love Me; for I have come from God..." Jn8:42
Believing-in-God,
is the exact same concept as believing-in-Jesus. They are given to Jesus THROUGH their belief.
Jn8:42 is identically the same as Jn5:46-47:
"If you believed Moses, then you would believe Me --- for He wrote of Me. But if you WILL not believe Moses, how will you believe My words?" Believing in God (following the Father, belonging to Him) --- is completely voluntary. It is THROUGH that belief-in-God that they are given to Jesus --- because Jesus is God-sent, therefore true believers in the Father
also believe in Jesus.
Let's look at Lydia:
"A certain woman named Lydia, ...a worshipper of God, was listening; and the Lord opened her heart to respond to the things spoken by Paul." Acts16:14-16
Luke, what happened with Lydia? God opened her heart
so she COULD believe in God and Jesus??? No! She "was a WORSHIPPER of God" ---
it was through her belief in God that her heart was opened to Jesus!
You can search Scripture all you want, and you will not find the idea of "regeneration consequents in belief". And that is the most foundational requirement of "Predestined-Election". Belief is completely voluntary, and
belief consequents in regeneration.
And this fully explains why Jesus was rebuking so many for
willfully NOT believing. It completely explains Jn5:39-47, and fits perfectly with the berating in Matt11:21-24. Why would Jesus say (essentially)
"It will go better for Tyre and Sydon and even Sodom, than for YOU; you have seen miracles but REFUSE to believe --- if THEY had seen what YOU have seen, THEY would have BELIEVED." That fits "predestination" not one bit; but it fits what I've been saying completely.
Doesn't it?
Regeneration is through the RECEIVED Spirit, and the Spirit is received by BELIEF (in Jesus). Have you ever been able to refute Titus 3:5-6, first alone, and then in conjunction with Acts10:35 (11:17)? Regeneration is through the POURED-THROUGH-BELIEF Spirit; the Spirit is POURED after belief. Pretty "iron-clad", isn't it?