we believe through Grace .
And you take Philip1:29 to mean "It has been
few-selectively-monergistically-chosen to believe and suffer". But the "granted", includes Jn6:40: "His will is that all who see Jesus
and believe may have eternal life."
Grace is the provision; belief is the realization. Belief is not the provision (to us by God); belief is the will that freely receives God's grace. It is not "it is grace that instills belief", but rather "we believe through Jesus' sacrifice
that all who believe should not perish but have eternal life".
and then you will realize that God has chosen you before the world began...
The idea of "chosen in Him before the world began" (Eph1:4), harmonizes with
Jesus being predestined, and whosoever believes becomes one of the chosen-for-salvation (through Jesus' predestined-sacrifice). This is the only meaning I can see in Matt22:2-14; all were called, but only those who received, became the chosen. "Many are called but few are chosen" --- in context, reflects NOTHING of determination by the King, but EVERYTHING of determination by the invitees.
you were not seeking Him , you were seeking self...
Then why does it say "If you SEEK Me, you will FIND Me,
when you search with all your heart"?
and it was By Grace that you were saved , through faith .
But you really
mean, "By grace that you were saved,
through grace" --- don't you?
just try and carefully examine your background , see the guiding hand of God ,,, see God at work even when you were far away , lost , and blind , and dead in trespasses and sins ............
I was "dead in my trespasses", and He "made me alive" (Eph2:5); when I was "smitten in conscience" (Acts2:37), when my "faith came from hearing the Gospel" (Rm10:17); my faith also came from "reading the Scriptures" (2Pet3:15). So "while I was dead in my sins, He made me alive,
THROUGH MY FAITH!" (Eph2:5-8)
To every one who is reprobate, who "sees the Gospel as foolishness", nevertheless God is "well pleased to save those who believe THROUGH the foolishness". (1Cor1:18-21)
It is belief that receives Christ, that changes the message from "foolish" to "power"; it is belief that causes salvation, not the other way around. It is unbelief that causes condemnation --- willfull, rebellious, unbelief.
"You search the Scriptures, thinking in them you have eternal life; but they speak of Me and you are UNWILLING to come to Me that you may have life. HOW can you believe, WHEN you seek one another's glory rather than glory from the one and only God? Do not think that I will accuse you; the one who accuses you is Moses, in whom you (say you have) set your hope. But Moses wrote of Me; if you do not believe Moses' words, how will you believe My words?" Jn5:39-47