First let me say that I have never had a bf and I have always been content with that. But I don't know what the future holds and I am becoming more aware that I could meet somebody soon. I am starting college this year and that is where a lot of couples meet. I am not looking for a bf. I have big hopes and dreams career wise, but I want to be realistic and open to the possibility. Therefore, I want to be fully convinced about my standards. I am wondering how far is too far to go physically with a bf/gf. I am more looking for stories from people who are already married, maybe, who did/did not kiss, etc. before their wedding and whether or not they regret it. Since I am a girl, I don't really know how men think about this and whether or not kissing would cause them lust more..? So just any help or advice would be awesome. Thanks guys.
You're wise to set your standards now, BEFORE you start dating. Once you've got a crush on someone, hormones go all batty, and your thinking and reasoning can get very fuzzy! That is not the time to try and set boundaries, so kudos for thinking about it now!
I don't think you should look too much to other people to find out what YOU believe about boundaries. You need to ask yourself this question, and you need to ask God. There IS no cut-and-dry "this is what Christians should do" answer, because the Bible doesn't say specifically what to do or not do when it comes to things like hugs and kisses while you're courting/dating.
Some couples choose not to touch at all until their wedding. Some choose not to kiss. Some restrict their kisses to quick pecks and nothing more. Some go full-on make out, sucking face but refrain from intercourse. And everything in between.
You need to decide what YOU want to be able to say about yourself and your behaviors when you're standing at the altar before God. And then stick with it, no matter what! Temptation WILL come; it's a question of when, not if. You've never had a boyfriend, so it's hard to know if you're going to be someone who's very passionate and has trouble putting on the brakes, per se, or will you be someone who isn't very touchy-feely and will have more natural self control. The former type of person (IMHO) will probably need more strict standards, since it's easier for them to get swept up in a passionate moment and go too far.
Pray about this, think about this, take your time with it.