Me and my girlfriend are getting pretty close now, and I just wanted to know... how far is too far?
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If it leads you to sexual thought, then it has gone too far. If it gets you sexually aroused, then it has gone too far. If it leads to a desire to go further, it has gone too far.
gengwall said:If it leads you to sexual thought, then it has gone too far. If it gets you sexually aroused, then it has gone too far. If it leads to a desire to go further, it has gone too far.
The safest practice is to have a very toned down physical relationship while continuing to build on the emotional and spiritual relationship. The physical gets in the way of the real relationship building because it puts the cart before the horse. Physical intimacy in marriage strengthens and cements the emotional bonds that have been built. But being physical outside of marriage prevents those bonds from forming. And getting married for purely physical reasons is a disaster wating to happen.
Hey! There is a lot of things that are not good for the relationship. For example rubbing and continual touching is not good. Kissing is a hard one i dont not belive theres anything wrong with it as long as you dont get a sexual stimulation. For many years i thought it was all ok mostly everything and i was very wrong. Even if it doesnt seem bad it make you think things all the time that are not good to run through your mind constantly but a way to be safe is anything that is sexually stimulated try to stay away from i know my best friend is past two years in his relationship and they decided to stop kissing(hard to do) but they know its for the better kiss on the cheek is fine and even just a kiss but making out does past the line think about it and decideDominicano731 said:Me and my girlfriend are getting pretty close now, and we've agreed that we wont ever have pre-marital sex no matter what, simply because it is a sin, and we are both christian.
But as there are other semi-sexual things that we sometimes do, and we dont know if that is a sin or not. Im talking about .. maybe sensual kisses on the stomach/neck/legs, etc. We really dont want to bring the problem out to our relatives or pastors, so I thought it would be a great idea to ask here.
How far is too far when expressing intimacy? Is kissing a sin? Is feeling, or rubbing on each other a sin? I doubt it, but I'd still like to know to be sure. The last thing I'd like is to be sinning in a relationship.
And just to make things clear, In no way am I reffering to oral sex, since its a controversial subject as to where its sinful or no, and we'd rather stick to the safe side.
Many Thanks to anyone helping me out with question.