How does a man know when he's in love and what signs does he give off?

[proverbswisdom]

At what point in the relationship do men fall in love usually? and how do they know it's happened like what do they use to determine that it's happened? Just curious...

 

[InnocenceCannon]

All these views and noone has answered your question...?

There is no solid answer a guy can give you. It's completely different from man to man.

For example, I've never been in love. But I've had very deep crushes on women that other men would call "being in love". Different men have different ideas of how much you have to adore someone before it's actually "true" love.

For me personally, there is no set point at which I'd fall in love. It could happen before I've even talked to the woman or after 4 years of friendship (I've experienced severe crushes in both of these ways). I'd know it'd had happened when I find a woman who is the answer to all of my weaknesses and I have the God given feeling that I never want to not be by their side. This hasn't happened yet for me.

Your best bet is to not worry about it and let it happen.

 

[Puptart]

It's different for everyone. You just take it one day at a time.. eventually you'll figure it out. This may seem vague, but honestly there is no solid answer to your question. You may as well ask us "what is love" -- we can't answer. Sure, people will try.. and they'll all fall short, because it's different for everyone.

 

[CareyGreen]

Pup is right... no definite answer to this question. But... if you are walking closely with the LORD, He will guide you faithfully. You should not rely only on "feelings" of love but also on the things the LORD shows you about the person you are considering. Are you both striving after the LORD? Are both of you growing in your love for God and people? Is there a regularity to your study and prayer times? Are you each eager to obey His will first and foremost? Love grows out from God - the source of love. Make sure He's in the center before you move ahead to other things.



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[gracefulone1980]

I agree that it is different for every person. My answer is always, you just know! My husband says the same thing. He just knew.

 

[A2597]

Hmm...
The moment I knew I'd take a bullet, or a beating, or give up my life, to keep her from harm.

 

[InnerPhyre]

I knew I was going to marry my wife about 5 minutes into our first date. I don't know if that equals "love at first sight" but I knew I never wanted any other woman for as long as I lived. I suppose it really sunk in that "yes I love this woman" when she was in a tremendous amount of physical pain and while I was driving her to the hospital, all I could think was that I wished that I could be the one in pain instead of her.

Remember that love is not a fuzzy warm feeling. Feelings like that come and go. Love is giving up yourself for someone.

 

[J0hnSm1th]

Simple enough. He would ask himself what he feels when he thinks of her. Does he long to spend time with her? Does the thought of spending a life together bring a sense of joy? Does he get excited by the thought of doing something to make her happy? If yes to all these then hes in love.

Note that these are "in love" not the choice "to love". The second is essential throughout a long successful marriage. I'd argue that the first is essential before a couple choses to become married.

 

[iambren]

Fasting, prayer, counsel, intuition, time. These are your friends. Do not slacken and frustrate your bride-to-be. Nor do you foolheartedly jump into marriage in the sin of presumption.

 

[CounselorForChrist]

Yeah its different for everyone. I was nieve at first with the three women in my past. For all of them I knew instantly. So upon meeting my current fiance I told myself "No thinking you will marry her instantly!". I even prayed about it and had others pray for me about it. And yet about 3 days into talking with her I just knew we were going to marry. It was a overwhelming feeling of peace and contentness. Unlike any other feeling I've felt.