I used to get so anxious with social situations. especially if i'm with people i don't really close with. also with people i look up to, even if they are younger. I can't look into their eyes while talking, because if I did, I would feel so tensed. When I was in high school, I often went home with headache because I was so anxious at school.
But I wanted reeally bad to become "normal", being a nice and friendly person everybody likes. I tried many ways to learn to socialize. In some ways, maybe I was over doing it
. I joined everything I was interested in. Was in speedskating club, a volunteer in AIDS pervention campaign for teens, worked in event organizers. I dance with several teams and still dancing until now and join martial art group. The craziest thing I ever tried to overcome this social anxiety problem is being a radio announcer! (Got those headaches after working, I only work there for 6 months).
But I did so much progress now. still feeling anxious being with strangers, especially when I don't get enough sleep, but I can speak to them fluently and see their eyes.
those times really frustrating indeed. but looking back, I also learned so many things that will help me to stand on my own feet. besides learned how to maintain relationship with important people in my life, I'm good at dancing and can be proud of it, I know a little bit about so many jobs, it helps me adjusting myself in my working environment, so at least i can be focus on my job when i don't feel comfort with the people. focusing on what I do distracs me from my fear of people and really helps me to blend in too.
After all these time, the thing I learned in most difficult times is never give up, every effort has it's own value. give a chance to recover although it takes time, and try again. I believe God will not kill or mean to torture people for trying to live better. there must be gooness that He wants to give us with these things we are dealing with.
I wish you all a very good luck and pray for all of us. keep fighting!
ps : pardon my English, I'm 100% Indonesian
But I wanted reeally bad to become "normal", being a nice and friendly person everybody likes. I tried many ways to learn to socialize. In some ways, maybe I was over doing it
. I joined everything I was interested in. Was in speedskating club, a volunteer in AIDS pervention campaign for teens, worked in event organizers. I dance with several teams and still dancing until now and join martial art group. The craziest thing I ever tried to overcome this social anxiety problem is being a radio announcer! (Got those headaches after working, I only work there for 6 months). But I did so much progress now. still feeling anxious being with strangers, especially when I don't get enough sleep, but I can speak to them fluently and see their eyes.
those times really frustrating indeed. but looking back, I also learned so many things that will help me to stand on my own feet. besides learned how to maintain relationship with important people in my life, I'm good at dancing and can be proud of it
, I know a little bit about so many jobs, it helps me adjusting myself in my working environment, so at least i can be focus on my job when i don't feel comfort with the people. focusing on what I do distracs me from my fear of people and really helps me to blend in too.After all these time, the thing I learned in most difficult times is never give up, every effort has it's own value. give a chance to recover although it takes time, and try again. I believe God will not kill or mean to torture people for trying to live better. there must be gooness that He wants to give us with these things we are dealing with.
I wish you all a very good luck and pray for all of us. keep fighting!
ps : pardon my English, I'm 100% Indonesian
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