I hope others do not find this thread too morbid, but I am curious how other posters feel about their method of being laid to rest? Do you want a traditional burial in a casket or do you prefer cremation? Ashes scattered in the forest? Or something more unique like donating your body to science?
As for me I am one who is very squeamish about death. I abhor the idea of my body decomposing in a dark coffin buried six feet underground. I'd prefer my body cremated as soon as possible. I wouldn't mind burying the cremated remains in the ground with a tombstone on top. That is what my grandfather did. I remember at his funeral being shocked when I saw a little cube instead of a large coffin. I thought they somehow stuff his entire body in that little box. My eyes were wide open when I first saw it and publicly said aloud "how'd they fit him in there?" I was like eight and everyone and the funeral starting erupting in laughter.
Apparently he had the same disgust for the decomposing process as I do. His was is the most appealing for me. My father expressed the same wishes. Although I can respect people who donate their bodies to science, I just cannot stomach the idea for myself. I do not want my loved ones to see my dead body on display either. I want their last memories of me to be as of an animated body, not a lifeless corpse.
My worst fear in life is burning... it's kind of funny as I've had this fear of being burned since childhood, before I ever experienced a burn, so I've no idea where the fear came from but as much as I'm afraid of heights (I can't so much as climb to the second rung of a ladder), I am afraid of fire.
So fire is what God has put in my path - a lot in life! I've been through two house fires that were both total loses, plus I contracted a rare disease when I was 30 (and that has no cure) where the nerves in my legs don't work right and it feels like my legs are on fire 24/7.. (CRPS)
So, I've had to face and deal with this worst fear my whole life, which doesn't actually make it better... lol.
Therefore, I've also never wanted to be cremated. Do NOT want to awaken from a coma in an oven! Lol... I'd far rather suffocate.
So my first desire is to be buried, but as time wears on in life I realise that's not really the affordable option, so I figure I'll end up needing to be cremated anyway.
My husband has said he knows my fear of it and will do whatever it takes to get me buried instead of cremated, but I hate the thought of him being in financial straights over my stupid fears, so I've requested he go ahead and cremate me.
It really sucks burial is so expensive... but it is what it is..
My ashes will be kept in an urn, and my urn placed on the mountain on my husbands land with some small memorial..