I share with them the story of my life and how my faith has helped me..
The problem with there is that almost everyone can give an account of something that has helped them, be it Christianity, Islam, meditation, diet, exercise, communing with or escaping from nature, pets, sex, abstinence fron sex, yodeling, ad infinitum. The atheist isn't saying that the Christian faith isn't beneficial, he's saying that
it isn't true. Arguing that you found that Christianity makes you happy means nothing, a few good friends and a bottle of Laphroaig may do that. The atheist is arguing that
God doesn't exist, for good or ill.
And for good or ill, my response to atheism is to laugh it to scorn. The idea that the universe is simply a vast collection of particles and energies that came from nowhere is, on its face, absurd.
In the beginning, there was nothing. The universe didn't exist. Then there was a singularity. The singularity wasn't anywhere, because there wasn't yet anywhere for it to be. How the singularity came to be is unknown, it simply happened. Then, for some unknown reason, the singularity exploded in The Big Bang, creating the universe and everything in it. How all that universe stuff that wasn't anywhere came to be there is unknown, but it is an article of faith in the atheist religion. Following the Big Bang, all the random particles and energies that constituted the universe began to organize themselves into more and more complex forms. Why this would have happened is unknown, but it is an article of faith in the atheist religion. Over trillions of years, the random coalescense of universe stuff had organized itself into stars, which organized themselves into galaxies, threw off planets, collected their planets around themselves, and formed solar systems. All these wheels within wheels arranged themselves in such a way that they moved within and around each other with clockwork precision. How all this could have takem place by sheer happenstance is unknown, but it is an article of faith in the atheist religion.
Once the mechanism had sufficiently "evolved" (i.e., accidentally fallen into place), it began to grow ever more complex. Roaming particles formed themselves into more and more complex structures, creating amino acids and crude proteins. Some of these proteins, when stimulated by random energies, and in the presense of certain other randomly formed chemical environments, became self-replicating, and began forming themselves into ever more complex organisms. These organisms, in the presense of the necessary particles and energies, "evolved" into increasingly complex forms, ultimately becoming plants and animals. How this may have happened is unknown, but it is an article of faith in the atheist religion.
In the course, of another few quintillian years, the original primitive lifeforms had evolved into Higher Animals. These animals randomly acquired properties that affected their immediate environment, with results that either caused or prevented the animals from producing copies of themselves. The ones that produced copies did so. and the copies also produced copies. The copies of copies did the same, adapting, or failing to adapt, to their ambient environment as then did so. So these packets of random particles and energies made more, and better, packets of particles and energies, each generation becoming increasingly more complex and increasingly more improbable, until they culminated in the Great Apes, and from there to Human Beings.
All the lower lower animals are variations on a theme - programmable boxes that create more programmable boxes for as long as the environment supports them, at which point the more capable ones move around until they hit an evironment that doesn't kill them, or they die. They are "smart" clusters of particles and energies. The next higher animals have more advanced programability, and can "learn" by storing different responses to different stimuli. So the dog may find and store the observation that if it sits down when it hears a specific sound it will receive food. In the end, it's still a collection of particles and energies collected at random and groiuped into a form we call "dog".
Human beings are simply the most advanced programmable units of energy and matter. Their computing power is such that they can store a great deal of data about their surrounding that allows them to adapt to a wide variety of environments. They're capable of a great many amazing tricks. But in the end, they are still masses of randomly collected particles and energies. Everything they do, everything they say, everything they know, everything they believe, everything they don't believe,
All that you touch and all that you see
All that you taste, all you feel And all that you love and all that you hate
All you distrust, all you save And all that you give and all that you deal
And all that you buy, beg, borrow, or steal And all you create and all you destroy
And all that you do and all that you say (apologies to Pink Floyd) are simply responses to stimuli.
We are our environment. There is no such thing as objectivity, there is no such thing as a disinterested observer. We are phenomena, and just as much products of our environment as any other phenomenon. To say "I am right and you are wrong" is meaningless, neither of us is anything at all, save a bunch of charged particles. There is no God, but then again there is no "you" either. The idea that you're "talking" with "someone else" is jabberwocky. The idea that you know anything at all is an illusion. A=A is a meaningless as ramalamadingdong. Everything, everything, is the product of random chance. If you believe that humans are, or can be, objective observers of the universe, then you are accepting a myth, a myth that would have you believe that you have ever had, or will have, a single thought that didn't result from the ambient temperature, or how much sleep you had, or what you had to eat or drink, the phase of the moon, or what sox you put on this morning. You are a mechanism, with as much Free Will as an office doorknob.
Athiests, of course, are really no such thing. They make humanity, or themselves, into their own deities. The believe they stand apart from the universe, objective and untouched, and able to pronounce on matters of Truth and falsehood, Right and Wrong, as gods in their own realm. If fact, it; their wretched religiuon was true, they'd be trapped inside their own skulls, in a solipsistic universe, populated only by themselves and the ghosts of their imagination. Atheism is, in fact, the only self-refuting religion.