How do you respectfully approach a lady who is a stranger?

[J Daniel]

Hey! First of all just to say starting on Sunday I will be working on church volunteering! So I am buzzing about that! (just a start!) but it is great cos will build on multiple levels!

Okay - when I say wanting to speak to 'beautiful' women - okay.............women make the world an amazing place - there are times where my heart aches when I am not speaking to somebody who appears open and 'attractive' of the opposite sex. Cos, we are relational people.

You never know that woman you speak to could be a believer or needs encouragement and you end up talking and something builds..........but my thing is being silent is no good either...........

I speak to everybody - I can speak to old man - old woman etc etc when you said *IF YOU CAN'T LOVE THE BEGGAR IN THE WAY CHRIST DID - HOW CAN YOU LOVE YOUR SPOUSE LIKE THE BIBLE TELLS US* and that has stayed with me! When I see and old man I have love for them! Cos I do think JESUS NOT BOTHERED ABOUT AESTHETICS OF A WOMAN of course not! Jesus is about the person's soul!

However, Jesus' purpose on earth was not to be married to a woman and have a family his was to change the world and create the salvation gospel for everybody.

Now times I wish wanting a marriage (in future) not my goal and it is just serving - but my thing is why can't I do both simultaneously? (for the right person I mean).

Cos I still need to climb the mountain to get the blessing I desire too.

Now, that BEGGAR saying you told me - really stuck with me cos when you show love to somebody like that - that makes you a VERY appealing person to the world! And as you said build as a Christian.

I am FAR FROM PERFECT! I have said in my prayers to Lord *I AM WRETCHED TO THE CORE!!!!!!* I am on a journey (truth is this is life long).

I need to be baptised and start things rolling indeed!

There are more things I wanna say but I will leave that a lil later cos I don't want to write my own Bible for you to read in response!

Sorry about your husband! Your heart very much in right place!

You are sort of a player if you are only wanting to talk to "beautiful" women. Your purpose is showing.

I talk to people everywhere. In the grocery store line, walking in crowds, etc. I might mention that I think their outfit is lovely (because I do), I might admire a baby, .... I don't know exactly, because it comes out naturally. You can admire the weather...complain about the line (I'd think they could hire more cashiers...)...etc. Don't stand too close. Don't make too much eye contact or you will appear to be flirting. Smile. And be willing to talk to a different person if someone else responds. Just be friendly.

(And I am more Mama Ribbon...the blackribbon is the color of melanoma awareness, the cancer that took my husband and best friend, and the heart is because I will always love him. )

 

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I am FAR FROM PERFECT! I have said in my prayers to Lord *I AM WRETCHED TO THE CORE!!!!!!* I am on a journey (truth is this is life long).

Who called you wretched? This is the thing, bro..We're not defined by what we do in this thing; but we're identified by whose we are. And God said we're either the righteousness of God by faith or still dead in our sins. It's all in the mind. And as far as the womens are concerned, most of them that's worth their salt want a man that's confident in who they are and how they demonstrate themselves. I'd keep an air of mystery if it were me. That's a God type trait. Let them ask questions and if they're interested, they'll be drawn. So far, you've put your business out here like it's a modern day picture show. But that really doesn't concern me, however. The part that I quoted in your post is the reason why i wanted to reply. That's going to be the key not only in your personal pursuit for a woman but most importantly your faith walk.

 

[J Daniel]

I called myself wretched - only in the sense of I am not pure and sinless - but for the mercy of Christ.

I think everyone is attracted to mystic!

Who called you wretched? This is the thing, bro..We're not defined by what we do in this thing; but we're identified by whose we are. And God said we're either the righteousness of God by faith or still dead in our sins. It's all in the mind. And as far as the womens are concerned, most of them that's worth their salt want a man that's confident in who they are and how they demonstrate themselves. I'd keep an air of mystery if it were me. That's a God type trait. Let them ask questions and if they're interested, they'll be drawn. So far, you've put your business out here like it's a modern day picture show. But that really doesn't concern me, however. The part that I quoted in your post is the reason why i wanted to reply. That's going to be the key not only in your personal pursuit for a woman but most importantly your faith walk.

 

[bèlla]

Talking to attractive people doesn’t make anyone a player. Playing with others’ feelings and juggling them like balls does. It’s intentional.

 

[bèlla]

The issue is way after the fact of breaking up there are personal and professional knock on affects! That really sucks but yeah....

Perhaps a time of quiet is in order. That is helpful when the mind is churning and won’t slow down.

No class today. I can spend the week attending to things at home. And I’m chewing on virtues. I want to fix my thought on other things.

Enjoy the service.

 

[kittysbecute]

blind post

Smile and say hello.

Possibly start a conversation.

 

[blackribbon]

If you are talking to everyone, talk to the women you find attractive the exact same way. But I suggest that you don't date for a little while until you get over the last woman and you get your priorities straight and feel strong in Christ.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to get married and have a family. I did it and it was a good thing. However, by your own admission, you have said you need to get your mind back on track and heal.

I am happy that you found a volunteer experience. I know the more my own son does, the more happiness he finds. Even when he was simply on the parking team. It completes the soul to serve others. Regardless of the capacity.

 

[J Daniel]

1. Yes talk to all indeed. Of course.

2. I'm gonna be honest this morning and last night i was faith questioning a lil bit cos i am constantly taking Ls it seems since last woman. Didn't pray last night just went bed thinking hard. Thinking about what's next? Thinking about God's mentality towards us. Thinking about how people make excuses for God. Thinking about comments from Jay-Z (NO FAN!!!) but when he said he puts himself into the position of God so he knows only himself has the power to do well not relying on others etc etc and i really was questioning things.. Right now I'm just silent. ..and thinking.........cos i need a father to talk to. Not one that appears silent........when people almost give up......reached point.......look I'm just not feeling good......not cool.

3. Yeah hope volunteering helps.

If you are talking to everyone, talk to the women you find attractive the exact same way. But I suggest that you don't date for a little while until you get over the last woman and you get your priorities straight and feel strong in Christ.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to get married and have a family. I did it and it was a good thing. However, by your own admission, you have said you need to get your mind back on track and heal.

I am happy that you found a volunteer experience. I know the more my own son does, the more happiness he finds. Even when he was simply on the parking team. It completes the soul to serve others. Regardless of the capacity.

 

[J Daniel]

Service was good. Just can't wait for Friday for the 6 week break to start.

I'm just silent atm.

Perhaps a time of quiet is in order. That is helpful when the mind is churning and won’t slow down.

No class today. I can spend the week attending to things at home. And I’m chewing on virtues. I want to fix my thought on other things.

Enjoy the service.

 

[J Daniel]

AGREED!!!!!

Talking to attractive people doesn’t make anyone a player. Playing with others’ feelings and juggling them like balls does. It’s intentional.

 

[ReesePiece23]

If there's a meeting of the minds, I have nothing to worry about. It's what I look for, actually. I can't be attracted to someone without that. Looks alone won't do it.

So yeah, a lot of it is circumstantial as far as I go. I don't 'approach' because I don't crave it.

I'm weird

 

[ThisIsMe123]

I would be totally fine if a guy just approaches me out of the blue and says he likes me and would like to get to know me better and asks me if he can. I like men who dare to do so.

Wish more women thought like you

 

[blackribbon]

J Daniel,

I will be praying for you today. It is okay to be silent and just ask God to be with you when you don't know how to pray or what to pray about. Sometimes God talks to us best when we are silent. That is when we have time to listen.

 

[J Daniel]

I sincerely appreciate that!

I just keep thinking to the beggar analogy you made.....

J Daniel,

I will be praying for you today. It is okay to be silent and just ask God to be with you when you don't know how to pray or what to pray about. Sometimes God talks to us best when we are silent. That is when we have time to listen.