How do you Release anger ?

Macchiato · Sep 8, 2024

Tonight is a bit hard for me but I realize I'm carrying alot of anger, sadness, depression and fear. I feel myself being a bit bitter as well.

I feel anger and sadness come up alot.
Is there a way to spiritually release this bc I just don't want to carry this with me.

How do I let this go?

All Becomes New · Sep 8, 2024

You should think about calming yourself down, not "releasing your anger."

One strategy I would recommend is to think about your anger level on a scale of 1-10 where 1 is not angry at all and 10 is absolutely infuriated. Then when you have gaged your anger, think about what it would take to drop it down one level. So if you are at an 8 what do you need to do to get it down to a 7. And when you are at a 7 how do you drop it to a 6 and so on until you are not angry anymore.

Hazelelponi · Sep 8, 2024

Macchiato said:
Tonight is a bit hard for me but I realize I'm carrying alot of anger, sadness, depression and fear. I feel myself being a bit bitter as well.

I feel anger and sadness come up alot.
Is there a way to spiritually release this bc I just don't want to carry this with me.

How do I let this go?

I clean.

A large part of anger is adrenaline so I use that for housework, generally deep cleaning. Helps me to attack dirt with a scrub brush soap and hot water.

Then once the energy is spent I can read Scripture, pray, ask forgiveness, and heal emotionally from any pain.

If it helps it generally takes me about 3 days to work through everything when I'm upset enough to start deep cleaning. It's not just a few minutes and you feel better... It's kind of a process to deal.

JohnB445 · Sep 8, 2024

Macchiato said:
Tonight is a bit hard for me but I realize I'm carrying alot of anger, sadness, depression and fear. I feel myself being a bit bitter as well.

I feel anger and sadness come up alot.
Is there a way to spiritually release this bc I just don't want to carry this with me.

How do I let this go?

With time the anger may fade away on it's own.
Its important not to think about the trigger that angers you, or it will fuel it
Trying to distract the mind away from the source of anger, can help such as focusing on a hobby

Ask God to help you be able to forgive if the source of anger was caused by person or group. Forgiveness can help you let go, as bottling up anger isn't a good feeling to have, forgiveness can help ease that.

Unqualified · Sep 9, 2024

Take it captive, pray about it, beat a pillow, shout when alone in car, understand it, put it away, be angry and do not sin. Write or talk about it, better not to unleash it on kids or parents. Anger can hurt someone and make matters worse. I wish I could just blow up and then forget it, but others around you may take it to heart. My anger has always been destructive, I can never get away with it. Someone gets hurt. I backfires. Innocent seeming but the tongue can start a big fire.

timf · Sep 9, 2024

How do I let this go?

Often anger, frustration, and disappointment are a result of a conflict between what we expect and what actually happens. Any particular incident that causes hurt, especially if encountered suddenly, usually dissipates with time. Those incidents that become recurrent such as a betrayal, the memory of which triggers an emotional hurt all over again, can be dealt with by considering that what someone said or did, they were going to do and what was "wrong" was our expectation. If we use logic, we may begin to diffuse anger by attempting to improve our perception.

If we ask ourselves what we could have seen that would have prepared us to discern the unanticipated outcome, we can also learn to make such detection in the future which can help avoid future anger.

com7fy8 · Sep 9, 2024

Look to God, trust God to get rid of it. And then submit to God and what He has you doing. And get His correction of your character so anger can't get the better of you.

Macchiato said:
Tonight is a bit hard for me but I realize I'm carrying alot of anger, sadness, depression and fear. I feel myself being a bit bitter as well.

I think of this > are you sharing with Jesus people who are encouraging you? While we share as family with God's people, this can help us to have love with others who care for us so we are not getting bitter. And these people can help us to forgive wrong people who don't know how to love.

"Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you." (Ephesians 4:31-32)

"So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath; for the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God." (James 1:19-20)

That anger does not produce what is right; so do not trust what it has you thinking, feeling, and wanting!! But get into loving as family with God's people so you can discover how love takes care of things. Notice how James calls us "my beloved brethren", here. He knows how we need deep correction of very wrong stuff, but he is not condemning us but has hope for us as his brothers and sisters . . . for all that is possible with God in us > love "hopes all things" (in 1 Corinthians 13:7). So, you do well to have this hope for others in caring prayer for others, too; and by loving others in prayer this can help you get stronger with your attention in the right place . . . not where anger and bitterness and depression would highjack your attention.

Macchiato said:
I feel anger and sadness come up alot.
Is there a way to spiritually release this bc I just don't want to carry this with me.

How do I let this go?

Jesus is our way.

"'Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.'" (Matthew 11:28-29)

So, we all need to do what you need to do. We trust you to God for all He desires to share with you.

turkle · Sep 10, 2024

Anger is the result of not getting what you want. It's helpful to identify the thing you want and figure out either how to get it, or let it go. If you can do something about it, then do so. If you can't, then understand that and focus on the things you CAN do. Then thank God for the things you do have and submit to His wisdom, and trust that He will show you the way.

synger · Sep 10, 2024

I think you are wise to want to "release" anger. There can be a fine line between analyzing your emotions (which can actually feed them and make them worse) and recognizing your emotions and letting them go.
I find that journaling helps me identify why I'm angry (what I'm not getting that I want, as Turkle said up-thread), but I try not to dwell upon it. Rather, I then pray that God helps me give up that need, or get over that feeling of anger, or figure out how to get that need met in a different way, or reassess whether that need is really a need... or is likely more a "want".

I guess the goal for me is to see the anger as a symptom, like pain is a symptom of some injury. It is not something in and of itself to dwell upon (which only tends to make it worse in my experience) but rather something that helps me understand my own emotions better, so I can better deal with whatever it is that's making me angry in a more helpful, healthy way.
Sometimes that means discipline and denial. Sometimes that mean acceptance and humility. Sometimes that means a change in internal perceptions. It always means prayer for good guidance.

eleos1954 · Sep 10, 2024

Macchiato said:
Tonight is a bit hard for me but I realize I'm carrying alot of anger, sadness, depression and fear. I feel myself being a bit bitter as well.

I feel anger and sadness come up alot.
Is there a way to spiritually release this bc I just don't want to carry this with me.

How do I let this go?

Anger, sadness, depression and fear serves NO good purpose. Give it to the Lord through prayer and don't take it back. Keep praying and it will lessen and possibly go away entirely ... it can take some time ... it depends on how deep rooted these emotions are.

Rule your emotions or they will rule you. God will most certainly help you with this.

T.i.m.o.t.h.y. · Sep 10, 2024

Macchiato said:
Tonight is a bit hard for me but I realize I'm carrying alot of anger, sadness, depression and fear. I feel myself being a bit bitter as well.

I feel anger and sadness come up alot.
Is there a way to spiritually release this bc I just don't want to carry this with me.

How do I let this go?

I have found that forgiving the person that triggered anger is an effective way to be rid of that emotional baggage.

Those who love God's law have great peace and nothing offends them.

Hazelelponi · Sep 10, 2024

T.i.m.o.t.h.y. said:
Those who love God's law have great peace and nothing offends them.

Actually that verse is Psalm 119:165 And your using literally the only translation that uses the word "offend" instead of "stumble". In modern English it gives the wrong understanding of the verse.

"Great peace have those who love your law; nothing can make them stumble."

Not stumbling (in faith) is different than nothing can make you feel offended.

Jesus Himself felt offense, and displayed righteous indignation - which is anger in English.

synger · Sep 10, 2024

T.i.m.o.t.h.y. said:
I have found that forgiving the person that triggered anger is an effective way to be rid of that emotional baggage.

Those who love God's law have great peace and nothing offends them.

Whether it's "nothing offends them" or "nothing makes them stumble" I agree that forgiving the person can alleviate the baggage. It's not easy. I've found that when I pray for someone with whom I am angry, it's not so much that they change as that God changes me. He gives me that attitude adjustment I need. Often I don't even realize until I've been praying for someone for a long time that the anger I used to have has eased away. God is good.

T.i.m.o.t.h.y. · Sep 10, 2024

Hazelelponi said:
Actually that verse is Psalm 119:165 And your using literally the only translation that uses the word "offend" instead of "stumble". In modern English it gives the wrong understanding of the verse.

"Great peace have those who love your law; nothing can make them stumble."

Not stumbling (in faith) is different than nothing can make you feel offended.

Jesus Himself felt offense, and displayed righteous indignation - which is anger in English.

The Strong's Exhaustive concordance at the biblehub lists "offence" among the meaning of the Hebrew word Kashal that most bible versions translate to stumble or stumbling block or fall. But "stumble" is not a direct opposite of peace. So I chose the optional "offence".

The word "stumble" is referring to those who don't love God's law, ie, unbelievers. As describing those whom Paul preached to toward the end of Acts but didn't accept the gospel.
But the word "offence" would refer to those who do love God's word- such as your example of Jesus.

Checking religious images available for Ps.119:165, there are many that use the word "offend" rather than the word "stumble". They are using "offense" in connection with depicted believers who love God's law.

You said that there is only one translation that uses the word offend. There are actually six I've found of Modern English Bibles that have the word "offend" The Ampl.Classic. And the King James, 2000 KJ, American KJ. Plus two older Bibles that have "offended, offende" are the less Modern- Bishop 1568 and Coverdale of 1535.

I read several different Bible versions and use Biblehub, Gateway, and BlueLetterBible for comparison of many of their Bible versions.

You have your valid reasons for using "Stumble", I have my valid reasons for using "Offense" or variations of that word.

AWorkInProgress · Sep 11, 2024

Macchiato said:
Tonight is a bit hard for me but I realize I'm carrying alot of anger, sadness, depression and fear. I feel myself being a bit bitter as well.

I feel anger and sadness come up alot.
Is there a way to spiritually release this bc I just don't want to carry this with me.

How do I let this go?

For everyone it's different. Sleep, gaming, and most recent I discovered the gym with my angry music. On the emotional side, being sincere and brutally honest how I feel about what I am trying to process. Talking it out with the Lord and trying... to pray as well to help me discover what is making me angry.

For perspective, the Lord created my heart and mind, everything inside of me is an open scroll he can read with no problems. If anyone understands what I am going thru and how to navigate out of my darkness it's him. Even when I disagree with his decisions. The whole "lean not on your own understanding" thing.

Macchiato · Sep 11, 2024

turkle said:
Anger is the result of not getting what you want. It's helpful to identify the thing you want and figure out either how to get it, or let it go. If you can do something about it, then do so. If you can't, then understand that and focus on the things you CAN do. Then thank God for the things you do have and submit to His wisdom, and trust that He will show you the way.

What I'm mad about is out of my control so I definitely need acceptance in this area. It's just hard.

Macchiato · Sep 11, 2024

eleos1954 said:
Anger, sadness, depression and fear serves NO good purpose. Give it to the Lord through prayer and don't take it back. Keep praying and it will lessen and possibly go away entirely ... it can take some time ... it depends on how deep rooted these emotions are.

Rule your emotions or they will rule you. God will most certainly help you with this.

I'm gonna keep praying about it.

Solo81 · Sep 12, 2024

Macchiato said:
Tonight is a bit hard for me but I realize I'm carrying alot of anger, sadness, depression and fear. I feel myself being a bit bitter as well.

I feel anger and sadness come up alot.
Is there a way to spiritually release this bc I just don't want to carry this with me.

How do I let this go?

What is causing the anger and sadness? There's little point in treating the symptoms without addressing the root cause. I'm not asking you to share with everyone here but more for your own consideration.

Write in a journal what your problems, issues and grievances are.
Go for a long walk.
Beat up a pillow or swing a bat or kick the anger into a soccer ball.
Talk to Jesus about it. Pour out whatever you're feeling at His feet. He'll always listen to you.

NBB · Sep 12, 2024

The bible says the Holy spirit is conforter and guide, by conforting pretty much it could mean also discharging bad emotions,
you may need to get filled with the Holy spirit, to having him closer to you, this is real, the bad doctrine of people 'getting filled at believing' does a lot of damage, it prevents people of knowing God better and closer.

The disciples had their pentecost, and other people in the bible too, we also need our day when we get filled,
I am seeking to be filled again after some lows in my life, for me this is pretty much the meaning of life itself, to have God like that.

2PhiloVoid · Sep 12, 2024

Macchiato said:
Tonight is a bit hard for me but I realize I'm carrying alot of anger, sadness, depression and fear. I feel myself being a bit bitter as well.

I feel anger and sadness come up alot.
Is there a way to spiritually release this bc I just don't want to carry this with me.

How do I let this go?

I'm not sure, sister Macchiato. When I find out how, I'll let you know. In the mean time, I'm mulling the Serenity Prayer over in my mind, hoping that I can soon figure out how to "accept" the seemingly immovable and frustrating parts of my reality.

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