How do you introduce him/her?

[bumblebee62331]

I hate saying "boyfriend". It's such a stupid word. My partner is my partner. We've been together for long enough to be more than just boyfriend and girlfriend. When I introduce him, I usually just say his name because it's obvious we are together. Sometimes I'll say "my boyfriend" but not often.

 

[Timyone]

i say hi, this is.... (entre name here not saying who they are

 

[Timyone]

im totally not into the use of the word partner
this is my partner

 

[Timyone]

No offence to anyone but for be term "partner" comes across as either their sexual partner, or their gay partner.

But that just me...

man i really do sorta wonder some times when partner is used, unless there is a male or female tence, all my gay freinds say partner :S

 

[bumblebee62331]

No offence to anyone but for be term "partner" comes across as either their sexual partner, or their gay partner.

But that just me...

Really? I haven't noticed.
And it doesn't offend me. Gay partner or straight partner, they're both partners.

 

[PastorJer]

Within the next three months as my fiancee

 

[The Princess Bride]

Well...by the time I introduce him in person, people are like..."YOU must be John!" before I can even say anythin!

 

[Emmaleuk]

Hello this is *insert name here*.... I think most people know who he is lol! Although he met my church for the first time on Sunday so I did make a point of telling the people that didn't know...and then my Pastor decided to announce it just in case anyone DIDN'T know!!

 

[Digit]

Heyas,

I always just introduced my girlfriend like, "This is my girlfriend, Rebecca."

That was that. No one blinked oddly or did a double-take. I think it may be how you are trying to say it, it's almost like you are drawing attention to two seperate things.

This is X.
X is my boyfriend.

Just say, "This is my boyfriend, X". Alternatively, I always remember the hierachy of how my girlfriend became known.

At first, it was just me talking and occasionally mentioned 'a girlfriend' to people.
Then after a while I started mentioning her more, and everntually I would say, "... my girlfriend, her name is Rebecca by the way, ..."
And then finally, I could just call her Rebecca, because everyone knew who she was already.

Bonus get!

Digit

 

[sunshinejennii]

I hate saying "boyfriend". It's such a stupid word. My partner is my partner. We've been together for long enough to be more than just boyfriend and girlfriend. When I introduce him, I usually just say his name because it's obvious we are together. Sometimes I'll say "my boyfriend" but not often.

hmm..maybe the connetations are different, but if someone refers to their partner in conversation here, you think "oh I didn't know they were gay" and those couples who are heterosexual and use this terminology are a little older. Having said that I agree "boyfriend" is such a horrible word. I know just say "this is matthew" because people know I have a boyfriend and we're clearly together, but for the few people I know won't know I now jokingly say, "this is my young man, Matthew"

 

[PastorJer]

finally as my fiancee!

 

[Stolic]

Congratulations PastorJer!

Just to throw my hat into this discussion.....what about this is x, he's my suitor......or this is x, he's my courter

hmmmmm...... or perhaps this is my betrothed, what do you think?

Seriously though, I have the same dilemma, it has been nearly three months since I have been dating " the other day I described him as my friend who is a boy" couldn't bring myself to say boyfriend as it feels kind of juvenile to me, and not being a teenager, I don't want to give the impression of trying to be one again!

(That's just my feeling by the way, not knocking anybody who feels ok using that term).

 

[TransformedByGrace]

If someone introduces me to someone that they are with, who is of the opposite sex, if they don't define their relationship (eg brother, cousin, boyfriend, friend...) I find myself wondering about it for a decent amount of time, so if it was me I'd give him some kind of recognition.

If you don't like words like boyfriend, partner, significant other, etc.... make light of it when you introduce him. Say he's your "better half", or if you think you can get away with it, your "guy".

You'll find something that fits just right. I usually just say my boyfriend....

I agree. There is no harm in saying "this is my boyfriend, X", unless you forget his name and actually try replacing it with the letter X.
If he holds a special place in your heart, let him know that in front of other people, even more so if it takes some sacrifice from you, feeling uncomfortable.
I've learned 3 important things about relationships since I got married:
1. Communicate more than thought humanly possible.
2. You will almost always have to do something embarrassing each and every day for each other. You WILL someday have to buy tampons for her, in front of a store full of people.
3. Don't eat her ice cream.

 

[Stolic]

Transformed - re: your point about the ice -cream think you just got a loud from all the ladies!

 

[TransformedByGrace]

Transformed - re: your point about the ice -cream think you just got a loud from all the ladies!

Stolic, you and my wife should start a seminar. hehe

 

[barefeetonholyground]

I agree. There is no harm in saying "this is my boyfriend, X", unless you forget his name and actually try replacing it with the letter X.
If he holds a special place in your heart, let him know that in front of other people, even more so if it takes some sacrifice from you, feeling uncomfortable.
I've learned 3 important things about relationships since I got married:
1. Communicate more than thought humanly possible.
2. You will almost always have to do something embarrassing each and every day for each other. You WILL someday have to buy tampons for her, in front of a store full of people.
3. Don't eat her ice cream.

No. Never touch her ice cream. Ever.