I know that BPD's get really upset when being ignored (this information is what I read), how do you react?
I pray that I die when I am ignored.
I pray that I die when I am ignored.
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How do you handle being ignored?
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I used to act out with attention seeking behaviors. Now that I am single, divorced actually, and my kids are all grown and live away, I get my attention by doing things for others.
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Interesting you bring up "ignored". I hear that often from my wife. Help me understand why you feel you are being ignored. Is it because the other person is deliberately going out of their way to avoid you, unconsciously or consciously because of your behavior, or is more of a perception of yours: That the other person is just doing other things and because that person is not giving you 110% of their attention you feel ignored? You see, I am doing things all the time for my wife, but I dont think she see this, and then feels ignored.
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Speaking for myself, and my training on the subject of BPD, most borderlines, myself included, suffer from an extreme fear of abandonment, and are extremely sensitive to perceived rejection. Slight instances of ignoring me, used to trigger my abandonment fears, which would set off my acting out.
Most of it was perception on my part, and there was little my husband, or therapist could do to reassure me, and make me feel whole. Healing through therapy and growing in the Lord has helped me.
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Hi there my dear sweet brother Trish is SOOOOO RIGHT. See for me, like sister Trish, I have a HUGE fear of rejection. And when I feel that someone is not talking to me I feel that they are adandoming me and it makes me mad at myself, wishing I was dead and just "acting out" with out thinking.
for me I just started therapy. (VERY SADLY I have 12 sessions left for the state to pay for).
Thank you my dear sweet loving sister Trish for explaining this, it is like you took the words right out of my mouth.
God bless you both.
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Just out of interest Petal have you been "officially" (so to speak) diagnosed with BPD or do you just suspect you have it because of your symptoms?
I just suspect it,(I put a blush icon cause this sort of thing is what my only friends dad, who is a doctor, is so against self diagnosis) I asked my doctor the VERY first day I met her and she said as far as she can see I don't have BPD, but the way I act out when I am ignored sounds like I do. I have definatly been diagnost with depression, low self esteme, anxienty, OCD and panic disorder, that was from several doctors.
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It's the same with me. My counsellor told me I don't have it but I definitely find it hard to handle rejection and being ignored and often get very angry and tend to take my anger out on others not by being violent but by shouting and storming off etc. I think the trick is to remember that people, even friends, will let you down at times(just as you'll let them down at times) but God will never let you down as His love is the only perfect love their is. Also knowing we have a solid identity in Christ which is something I feel I really need to work on.
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