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How does everybody feel about being loved? Do you feel that you don't deserve it? I don't feel that I do but I also don't understand love that much because of my abuse; I have a strange view on what love is......
 

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the_pup_dog_ellie said:
i dont think i deserve to b loved and i dont understand y i am...

its hard for me to hear a guy say i love u and to realize that they do love me and theyre not saying just to have sex with me...does that make since?

It makes perfect sense, I haven't had a guy tell me they love me in that sense but I've got many friends who keep affirming that they love me and will continue to support me - I just don't always understand why they love me.
 
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I feel i dont deserve love either and when i tell people about it like my fam, or friends they think its silly or like i shouldnt think like that put they dont understand.. it hurts alot.. i wish i had ppl around me who truly understood.. ugh..
 
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:sigh: I dont feel loved. I dont like to feel 'loved' one of my abusers always said I am doing this because I love you - sorta messes with your understanding of love.

:( At the same time I have a deep longing for something - maybe it is for what love should be - it hurts bad and I spend much time trying to ease it. Last night I had decided I was leaving everything in my life but some small thing is holding me here so I am praying and holding on as I can.

:cry: Marri
 
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Rosa Mystica said:
I was abused as a child, and I have a hard time feeling loved. I often feel like I don't deserve love, but rather, to be abused and mistreated the way my father abused and mistreated me.

I understand that feeling!!! I don't feel like I deserve love, I mean I know I do but sometimes I'm just not so sure
 
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