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How do you feel about being single?

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It's always rather amusing, in an irritating sort of way, when people suggest a "potential" person for you to date whom they don't even know. All they know is that he is alive and of the appropriate sex.

Happened to me the other day, when one of my women friends suddenly said, "OH! How about So-and-So?" And I'm like, "Gee, aside from the fact that I've known him for seven years, find him a bit strange and that he doesn't seem too interested in Christianity/faith , I don't know. Why, is there a reason you think we'd be a good match?" And she said, "Well, no, I don't even know him, but I just thought of him."

 
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You implied that I'm sitting on my thumbs until I find a guy...
 
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You implied that I'm sitting on my thumbs until I find a guy...
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I implied no such thing. Please don't read into words in such a manner. It's just very dangerous and impolite to tell someone what they're thinking or what they're doing or what they're implying because that's akin to reading someone's mind and/or what's in their heart. God knows that my words were spoken with love to encourage, not to tear down.

Once again -- i hope you have a nice day!!!! God Bless
 
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Then what is this:

To say such things will be more worthwhile when you have a family is an excuse.
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supposed to mean?

You say I'm making an excuse but an excuse for what exactly?
 
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Chris the reason why people are getting offended here is that you are directing your posts at precise people by the use of quotes, and you even said quite precisely you didn't think i was ready for a relationship if my feelings were as i described them... If that's not assuming things then i don't know what is.
Once again, God does not reward people with a relationship for achieving a certain state of hapiness on their own. I know you don't mean wrong but if that's a couple of us offended on the thread maybe, just maybe, you should rethink your wording...
 
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This will probably cause some major some foot scuffing, snorts, grunts, flack and nail scratching but I'm going to say it anyways. . .

I think it's hard for women being created as a helper to men and created out of man's rib, ontop of that the curse of the fall for women's desire to be for man. It's like there is this innate desire whether you want it or not, to be that helpmate for a man. Whereas, man was first created in God's image and lacked nothing other than the fact that God saw that it was not "good" for man to be alone. So man was better off with woman. But atleast they don't have to walk around as a missing rib. It seems they enjoy their independance more other than missing the lack of a rib every once and a while. Whereas woman, being created for the company of man and out of him, have a really hard time filling that desire to be whole and one, even with Jesus. Believe me, I've tried.

Would you rather be a rib walking around looking for a body or a body walking around looking for a rib?

(I'm not saying that men and women and Jew and greek are not equal in God's eyes nor am I saying that women have no other purpose than to serve men, nor am I saying that women are nothing without men, nor that they are simply a piece of meat (hence a rib ) Either you get my point, or you don't.

Like I said, I'm sure people will give me heck about this but whatever, this isnt just based on my experience but on that of many others around me.
 
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wow...deading some of this stuff....amazing.

In highschool, yea, I was criticized for being single, some people thought I was gay. (I was homeschooled, but was also part of the HIghschool Golf team, so...still got to hear it). But I had made a vow not to date before I was 18, wound up not dating until I was 21. LOL

But ostricized as being single after highschool? Never happened. A few people were surprised I never dated, but they accepted it when I stated my reasons, and didn't bring it up again. Never was an issue.

Now, being single having dated once in the past now...
HARD AS CAN BE. Before I dated I had always known I'd get married at some point. Wanted a wife and kids...but wasn't an issue for me. But having been in a relationship...everything just clicked how God truly did intend for men and women to be together.

And that makes it hard now. I'm just recently reached the point where I feel I can date again. As my last relationship brought things to my attention that I needed to deal with. And I think I have done so now...so...now just trying to find a godly woman I feel is compatable with me. Which is hard sometimes.
 
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I am usually very contented being single; I do get lonely sometimes but I don't think that being married necessarily cures that. Once in a while I get to feeling sorry for myself or I worry about what other people think about my being single, but I get over it pretty quickly. I would like to get married someday, but I'm willing to wait as long as it takes to find the right person. If I never do meet that person, I'm OK--I have a great family, good friends, a wonderful church family, I'm financially secure, own a home, have a rewarding career, and have the freedom to pursue my own interests and hobbies as I see fit. I would like to have children someday; I would definitely consider adoption when the time is right--even if I do marry and have kids of my own, it would be great to adopt as well.
 
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I used to be that guy that always wanted to have a girlfriend, but since my breakup two years ago, and fast forward to the present, I am happy these days being single. I do have female prospects, but unfortunately they are not Christian and so, not an option for me, she is beautiful though. *sigh* right now I am happy working on my career, and I want to help people who are down and out about life and bring them to Christ. It's been an incredible time in my life so far seeing God literally at work moment by moment.
 
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Well, i as well hated the way i became single. it wasnt until i really gave my life to Christ that i understood that God wants it to just be me and Him right now...through He and I, i have truely felt love for the first time at the age of 26. The love that i feel for God is the love i want wrapped in flesh..aka..my husband that GOd gives me...from my experience i was basing love on Movies, what my friends had, my parents...now knowing what true Holy Love feels like i will not settle for less than what i deserve. Now i know my body is precious, now i know a wife's role in the home..now i know what God expects of me and now i have the tools to make a marriage work. dont let singleness be taken as a horrible thing, it is a time to truely commune with Christ and get to know him in an intimate way!
 
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Who am I to decide what season of life I should or shouldn't be in? God made me? Doesnt he know best? Being single can be hard at times but so can being married, so can being widowed, so can being divorced, so can having children, so can becoming a missionary, so can numerous other stages of life. On days when it gets really hard, God is still in control even if it doesnt feel like it. . . . right?
 
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I want to thank everyone who posted a reply so far. It is amazing to see how others feel and I really feel it's important that single people realize that someone somewhere is going through or feeling the same things. I met with the pastor in charge of classes at the church and I really feel that God has something that is so important that he wants to reveal to the single women not only of my church but across the world. I'm just a small piece of the puzzle. Please keep the posts coming. Oh and one more question to add in I'm not sure if I asked this. What are some of the lies you feel you are told as a single person? Not only from other people but also from Satan. Thanks and God Bless!
 
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I think Satan lies to some people and convinces them that God "owes" them a spouse because He supposedly "put" the desire for marriage in their hearts. I don't know how something God "put" into anyone's heart could cause them to be bitter and angry at God.
 
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Markus6 said:
Any boyfriend apart from the right one. I hope one day you find a guy who's more of an outboard motor.
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Perhaps I will someday, but if not that is OK. I definitely don't expect to meet anyone like that soon.
 
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I don't think God owes anyone anything. But I do have a desire to be a spouse and have a spouse. I do believe that God gives certian desires and takes certian desires away in our lives, but just because I'm still single I'm not bitter at God nor am I angry at Him. I do often wonder what He's doing, but I think that's all a part of learning to trust Him. Some people desire marriage more than others, and some people struggle with singleness more than others. some people are totally ok with singleness. I think it's ok to realize that our own struggles aren't better or more holy than anyone else's weather our struggle is singleness or not.
 
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