How do you envision married life?

[covenantwmn]

I would like to be a housewife, take care of things at home, maybe garden some, cook, etc. Make a really nice, serene home that is a refuge for my husband, a place he will always want to be. We will go to concerts, out to eat, movies. And Sundays will be spent quietly, church and then whatever we want. Of course, all the usual stuff, love and respect, etc., lol. But I meant the practical stuff. Give details people.
in Him, Leslie

 

[Sketcher]

Not realistically.

 

[Irascible]

Make a really nice, serene home that is a refuge for my husband, a place he will always want to be.

With that kind of attitude you should have a dozen guys lined up.

Don't forget dancing. I mean of course real dancing, not gyrating solo to a spastic beat. Snuggling on the couch (rainy days!) and talking about nothing is fun too. Yeah, it's a chic thing. But chic stuff is fun too. And then of course there's guy stuff.

 

[purekat]

I always picture marriage as equal rolls. Future husband and I share chores and responsibilities.

 

[covenantwmn]

Hey Irascible, back atcha! Liked your description too. God bless.
in Him, Leslie

 

[nhzname]

I guess my 'hopeful future' put it nicely ... "We are there for each other in ways that will completely fullfill our every need. Together we will make the most awesome team to do the Lord's work. I will lead in areas meant for me and you will be my assistant. You will lead in areas meant for you and I will assist you. At any time we can fill in for one another as needed. How cool is that."

Outside of that, I foresee a happy home where we both contribute to daily chores and responsibilities, with lots of room for compromise and growth. But umm, it sounds like he's the morning cook and I'm the evening.

 

[Blank123]

I'm somewhat of a traditionalist I guess.

I love the idea of being the one who'll stay home and take care of the house and the kids while my husband is the breadwinner. Only God knows if that is even a realistic idea though I guess

 

[Irascible]

I love the idea of being the one who'll stay home and take care of the house and the kids while my husband is the breadwinner. Only God knows if that is even a realistic idea

YES it is!!! If that's what you want then pursue it with a vengeance. There's no better way to raise kids.

I'm going to sound like a nut. But these kinds of posts get me all google-eyed. I'm somewhat new to the forum. I haven't seen so many traditional women in one place even in church. Traditionalism so... (Dare I say it?)... sexy!

Seriously though, I'm not a psychotic perv - just a little excited is all. I need to get out more.

 

[Keri]

These are my "plans" though plans always change... If this is not what God wants for me then I accept it His will.

I would like to finish school and start on my career. I would then like to get married and spend a good amount of time with my husband and no children.. yet...

I want to spend a good 3-5 years getting to know my husband and enjoy spending time with him only. Then I would like to have children. I would like to stay home and raise kids and have my husband work. I want to be submissive to my husband in all regards and in turn I know that he will love me. I seek the Lord's will in the marriage and would like to of course, raise my children in the church and hopefully be able to send them to a Christian private school.

Anyway, that's my hopes and dreams. I do want God's will though.

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

I really want my marriage to be like that movie Mr. and Mrs. Smith.

 

[Derringforth]

I'm also with little_tigress-traditional all the way! I want to stay home and cook and clean and take care of/homeschool kids. I also always liked the idea of homesteading...maybe that, too! while he earns the money. I have a huge servant's heart, and one of my deepest longings is to be able to serve the man I marry in every way possible

 

[~HopeFloats~]

I would like to think it is a 50% 50 % Journey.. I expect to put as much in to our House Life as my Husband does..

I do not expect to be at home.. although would not pass up the chance.. just now adays that does not happen much..

I look forward to having a Deep relationship of Daily Devotions and Prayer time something i have never had in a relationship..

I look forward to attending Church and just being someones somebody special..

I try to not have much expectations for the whole thing as they will change.. i just want a God Centred Marriage

 

[Niels]

Lately it has become difficult for me to think of these things, perhaps because they may never be shared, even if I do attempt to realize my part on my own. Anyway, here goes...


Fast forward 35 years:

- I'm working on something in the garage (building an airplane, restoring a Camaro etc.), and she's complaining that I should spend that time with her instead! But it's not like we don't do things together...

- We are regular church goers.

- We have mutually respectful philosophical and political discussions.

- We live near the edge of town, in a house that we both designed (While I'd like to do the bulk of it, I'll certainly encourage her to contribute).

- Every so often, we still do bicycle touring as a couple.

- We go dancing, to concerts etc.

- Much of the time we're like two hermits (well, homebodies) living together.

- We've supported each other through various degrees and/or certifications (or maybe just independent learning instead... as we may well be of modest means, and we're both somewhat 'low key' in that regard.)

- We're either both artistic, or at the very least she respects my creative side.

- Our kids were home-schooled.

- I buy her flowers at unexpected times.

- We have several pets.

- We share some kind of musical project, if even only by ourselves, with neighbors, or with small group at our Church.

 

[~HopeFloats~]

I really want my marriage to be like that movie Mr. and Mrs. Smith.

 

[Moluku]

Married life...good question. Love for my husband to be in the minstry, pastor's wife meself I suppose. A teacher maybe, since I love kids. We live in a small town, but close enough to the city where we can travel when we want. A small cozy home and car, no particulars here. We'll spend time reading, watching movies, talking, writing, contemplating what the Lord has done in our lives. Kids, yeah, at somepoint when we're ready. Life after kids, I want to stay at home with my kids as they grow up. Married life isn't perfect, but will be close enough since I'll be with the one I love. Ooooooh, and we have to have random things around the house like marshmallow shooters, fondu pot, and silly string.

 

[covenantwmn]

Ooooooh, and we have to have random things around the house like marshmallow shooters, fondu pot, and silly string.

That's my girl! It's that "never growing up thing", it's inherited!
in Him, Leslie

 

[eatenbylocusts]

I have a good job on the day shift that could be a livesaver if my future h ever had job problems, so I would always want to work some. Not to mention excellent health benefits for the whole family. If I was to have more kids (running out of time here) I would take the full amount of family leave available before going back part-time or even just per diem. I picture us sharing work around the house, working together in the yard on our days off. Family dinners together, the whole family curled up on the couch reading a story, the Bible, or watching a video on the weekend. Helping eachother, praying for eachother, giving eachother a neck massage after a long day.... These are a few of my favorite things.

 

[_becca]

[font=&quot]I never thought of my self as a traditionalist and I used to think about things in the whole equal partnership 50/50 way.

But God is reshaping my heart, I don't think about things the same way anymore and I don't think about this stuff all that often but it is in God's hands and I have absolutely no clue if I will ever get married but hey heeeey I like it that wayyyy

But if I did I would want to be the role of the woman, I'm still learning what that is of course but I would want to help his dreams become reality[/font]

10A good woman is hard to find, and worth far more than diamonds.

11Her husband trusts her without reserve,

and never has reason to regret it.

12Never spiteful, she treats him generously

all her life long.

13She shops around for the best yarns and cottons,

and enjoys knitting and sewing.

14She's like a trading ship that sails to faraway places

and brings back exotic surprises.

15She's up before dawn, preparing breakfast

for her family and organizing her day.

16She looks over a field and buys it,

then, with money she's put aside, plants a garden.

17First thing in the morning, she dresses for work,

rolls up her sleeves, eager to get started.

18She senses the worth of her work,

is in no hurry to call it quits for the day.

19She's skilled in the crafts of home and hearth,

diligent in homemaking.

20She's quick to assist anyone in need,

reaches out to help the poor.

21She doesn't worry about her family when it snows;

their winter clothes are all mended and ready to wear.

22She makes her own clothing,

and dresses in colorful linens and silks.

23Her husband is greatly respected

when he deliberates with the city fathers.

24She designs gowns and sells them,

brings the sweaters she knits to the dress shops.

25Her clothes are well-made and elegant,

and she always faces tomorrow with a smile.

26When she speaks she has something worthwhile to say,

and she always says it kindly.

27She keeps an eye on everyone in her household,

and keeps them all busy and productive.

28Her children respect and bless her;

her husband joins in with words of praise:

29"Many women have done wonderful things,

but you've outclassed them all!"

30Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades.

The woman to be admired and praised

is the woman who lives in the Fear-of-GOD.

31Give her everything she deserves!

Festoon her life with praises!


Proverbs 31:10-31 MSG


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[awashinlove]

Ah, gotta love the Message. "Festoon," he he he.

Not realistically.

I'd have to say this describes a fair deal where I am.

I really don't like to envision those inevitable rougher times, which is just one area that has me committed to singlehood for growth. I picture just in general a lot of love, laughter, affection, support, and encouragement, and being able to completely be myself and have someone meet me there (and vice versa), whether feeling like a goofy idiot or more quiet and reflective. Then there're also clearer visions of working together on mission trips, treasuring the responsibility of rearing any children our home is blessed with, and enjoying like interests; I'd really like to share my love for animal rehabilitation and to have someone not scrunch up their nose when a vegetarian meal is served.

There's a whole lot more I could say about the film in my head on this subject, but dwelling here doesn't help me much.

 

[NicelyAged]

This forum needs an honest thread on what marriage is really like.