Here are some of the common mistakes your kind make when addressing these difficult issues.
Christians often claim that "God is love." Just a cursory reading of the bible is enough to suggest otherwise. In fact, the god character often exhibits classic rage behavior, and base emotions. And ironically, you're right, it's not necessary the god love everyone the same. Clearly, it does not.
Here's a better analogy. You love humans so much, you feel a need to create them, flaws and all. Then you realize you don't like your flawed creation, and arbitrarily choose to protect certain children, and condemn to death the others. It's not the humans fault they were created this way. The creator should have known better.
Which most reasonable people should find appalling. Stoning your teenage daughter because she was raped, because her soul needs saving is a bit excessive, don't you think?
Here's another flaw in the way your kind thinks, an omnipotent being could, if it really cared, as you claim it does, decree all souls are saved. Personally, if I had the option to save all my kids from a burning fire, I would. But that's just me, and I consider my morals to be higher than those in the bible.