How do you deal with lust?

[Alvis]

A question for serious and mature christians only:

How do you deal with lust?
What are some things you can do or take that reduce lust?
Are there any specific prayers that you use or techniques to reduce lust for others?
Is surgery or hormonal replacement therapy a good idea to help combat lust?
Should I talk to my doctor about this and see what they say?

Any tips or advice on how to deal with lust or to reduce or remove it is welcomed.

 

[kez1001]

Get Married and ask Go to give to a partner that Love you and is loyal and always wants to make love spontaneously... the bible says it's better to marry than to burn..(apostle Paul said that)

If you don't want to get married you have to have a close and deep walk with God and those thought's will subside and you will stop lusting.

 

[Alvis]

Get Married and ask Go to give to a partner that Love you and is loyal and always wants to make love spontaneously... the bible says it's better to marry than to burn..(apostle Paul said that)

If you don't want to get married you have to have a close and deep walk with God and those thought's will subside and you will stop lusting.

What if you are not presently engaged to someone to get married?

 

[Bobby64]

Let's see... Well, I've suffered from depression for a while, and my antidepressants have suppressed my libido, so I must confess this hasn't been much of an issue for me lately. But here are a few tips:
- Accountability. If you have to answer to someone asking you if you've given in to lust lately, you're less likely to give in. (X3watch is a program that lets someone know whenever you try looking up kinky stuff online.)
- Use parental control settings to filter out naughty websites.
- Whenever you start feeling lustful desires, direct your thoughts and activities elsewhere IMMEDIATELY. Do not wait. Do not entertain them "just a little."
- Remember that sexual attraction isn't a sin and shouldn't be "removed." It's misguided sexual attraction you need to deal with.
- XXXchurch.com offers a variety of resources.

As for some of your comments, I don't know about seeking medical attention for lust. A Christian psychologist could probably help you deal with dirty thoughts, but I don't think getting surgery to destroy your libido is the best way to go about things (especially if you might get married someday). But I don't know much about your own situation, so I can't say much about it.

 

[Alvis]

Let's see... Well, I've suffered from depression for a while, and my antidepressants have suppressed my libido, so I must confess this hasn't been much of an issue for me lately. But here are a few tips:
- Accountability. If you have to answer to someone asking you if you've given in to lust lately, you're less likely to give in. (X3watch is a program that lets someone know whenever you try looking up kinky stuff online.)
- Use parental control settings to filter out naughty websites.
- Whenever you start feeling lustful desires, direct your thoughts and activities elsewhere IMMEDIATELY. Do not wait. Do not entertain them "just a little."
- Remember that sexual attraction isn't a sin and shouldn't be "removed." It's misguided sexual attraction you need to deal with.
- XXXchurch.com offers a variety of resources.

As for some of your comments, I don't know about seeking medical attention for lust. A Christian psychologist could probably help you deal with dirty thoughts, but I don't think getting surgery to destroy your libido is the best way to go about things (especially if you might get married someday). But I don't know much about your own situation, so I can't say much about it.

I've heard SSRI's are good for lowering it, too. I could look into that.

Can you define "misguided sexual attraction" for me? What does that mean exactly?

 

[Bobby64]

Can you define "misguided sexual attraction" for me? What does that mean exactly?

Basically, sexually yearning for someone other than a spouse. Obviously, that makes it more difficult for us single people to deal with lust.

 

[Alvis]

Basically, sexually yearning for someone other than a spouse. Obviously, that makes it more difficult for us single people to deal with lust.

Ok, that is what I was referring to.

So, how do you deal with that? Doing anything you listed does not help in regards to every day life and certainly not to any type of relationship with someone you're not married to yet. So what do you do?

 

[Rubiks]

A question for serious and mature christians only:

How do you deal with lust?

I usually find some fun activities to do

What are some things you can do or take that reduce lust?

pray

Are there any specific prayers that you use or techniques to reduce lust for others?

nothing specific

Is surgery or hormonal replacement therapy a good idea to help combat lust?

No. That seems way too extreme

Should I talk to my doctor about this and see what they say?

Try to talk to a christian doctor

Any tips or advice on how to deal with lust or to reduce or remove it is welcomed.

.

 

[Alvis]

I don't know of any "christian" doctors. I've never asked my GP about his religious beliefs, as it is none of my business for one. I know he would give me medication to reduce my drive if I asked or told him I was depressed.

 

[Max Shade]

I find that being married and having a really happy sex life, pretty much ended it. Yeah, happily married does it nicely. It is Biblical too, healthy, and fun.

 

[Alvis]

I find that being married and having a really happy sex life, pretty much ended it. Yeah, happily married does it nicely. It is Biblical too, healthy, and fun.

Assuming they like sex and you're actually attracted to them, yes.

But what if you're not married?

 

[Max Shade]

What if you are not presently engaged to someone to get married?

I'd say, divert that energy into finding miss right.

 

[Alvis]

I'd say, divert that energy into finding miss right.

What about once you meet her? You're going to lust then. Unless you mean to go for somebody you find deliberately unattractive? Then what do you do if you marry someone you don't find attractive? You're damned either way.

 

[Max Shade]

What about once you meet her? You're going to lust then. Unless you mean to go for somebody you find deliberately unattractive? Then what do you do if you marry someone you don't find attractive? You're damned either way.

Once you meet her . . . . I'll have to think on that . . . .

Definitely not someone you find unattractive. Someone you'd find attractive no matter what, someone so awesome that no matter what naked supermodel (just for example) was dangled in front of you, you'd be like "she's hot and all, but without having my wife's long list of highly desirable attributes.. . . meh." That is where I am brother & let me tell you it is liberating. I am beyond temptation, I am not plagued by lust like so many men. If it isn't my wife, I am just not interested, she is that perfectly suited to me. I am not saying there aren't more physically attractive women, but they wouldn't suit me in my battle scar covered self, with those peculiar aches that are unique to old warriors. I am saying that we have enough common interests, likes, and ideas that there is endless grounds for conversation and the "good things" in life we perceive as best, we share. There is no drudgery, no manipulation, no games, jealousy, or any of those other things that tear relationships. If I can find it, others can too. Too often people settle and they shouldn't. They should take finding that uniquely perfect spouse seriously, because it is just so very good once you find them.

I said I'd need to think on it & ya know. . . . I waited more than 20 years for my perfect spouse, impatiently. The costs of my impatience have been high. My advice would be, embrace the patience. That 20 year interval should be a cautionary tale.

 

[Alvis]

Once you meet her . . . . I'll have to think on that . . . .

Definitely not someone you find unattractive. Someone you'd find attractive no matter what, someone so awesome that no matter what naked supermodel (just for example) was dangled in front of you, you'd be like "she's hot and all, but without having my wife's long list of highly desirable attributes.. . . meh." That is where I am brother & let me tell you it is liberating. I am beyond temptation, I am not plagued by lust like so many men. If it isn't my wife, I am just not interested, she is that perfectly suited to me. I am not saying there aren't more physically attractive women, but they wouldn't suit me in my battle scar covered self, with those peculiar aches that are unique to old warriors. I am saying that we have enough common interests, likes, and ideas that there is endless grounds for conversation and the "good things" in life we perceive as best, we share. There is no drudgery, no manipulation, no games, jealousy, or any of those other things that tear relationships. If I can find it, others can too. Too often people settle and they shouldn't. They should take finding that uniquely perfect spouse seriously, because it is just so very good once you find them.

I said I'd need to think on it & ya know. . . . I waited more than 20 years for my perfect spouse, impatiently. The costs of my impatience have been high. My advice would be, embrace the patience. That 20 year interval should be a cautionary tale.

That's great, but what do you do as a single person? That is my question, since that is where I'm at.

I haven't yet found that switch that magically turns off desire until you decide to be legally married. I've considered chemical castration but that may be irreversible. Then I may have a problem, if I ever did meet anyone good. So what do I do?

 

[SwordofPeace]

That's great, but what do you do as a single person? That is my question, since that is where I'm at.

I haven't yet found that switch that magically turns off desire until you decide to be legally married. I've considered chemical castration but that may be irreversible. Then I may have a problem, if I ever did meet anyone good. So what do I do?

do a search for 'chastity belt' on google shopping.

they have chastity locks for men.

 

[Alvis]

do a search for 'chastity belt' on google shopping.

they have chastity locks for men.

Thanks.

I think I'll just do what I want and have sex with my girlfriend. She's game and believes in God too.

ib4notatruechristian

 

[Autumnleaf]

Assuming they like sex and you're actually attracted to them, yes.

But what if you're not married?

St. Paul said its better to get married than to burn!

So go get married. Marry a girl you like who likes you. Oh, and don't expect God to send one over to you with a pizza. Finding a woman to marry is like a video game fedex quest without many clues.

 

[Alvis]

St. Paul said its better to get married than to burn!

So go get married. Marry a girl you like who likes you. Oh, and don't expect God to send one over to you with a pizza. Finding a woman to marry is like a video game fedex quest without many clues.

I'll get married when I'm ready, after we're ready to, not before, and not just so we can have sex. That will be happening long before.

 

[trulyconverted]

A question for serious and mature christians only:

How do you deal with lust?
What are some things you can do or take that reduce lust?
Are there any specific prayers that you use or techniques to reduce lust for others?
Is surgery or hormonal replacement therapy a good idea to help combat lust?
Should I talk to my doctor about this and see what they say?

Any tips or advice on how to deal with lust or to reduce or remove it is welcomed.

The bible says FLEE from lust because you can't fight it. So run as far away from it and as fast as you can.

And if you keep reading the bible, listening to Christian messages, or good Christian music, or listen to audio bible, and keep listening... constantly. That can replace the lustful thoughts. You got to be diligent though. It's difficult. Don't forget to ask the Lord to help you.

It will be an uphill battle but little by little everyday the fight becomes easier and easier. Until eventually... victory!