How do you date

[orangeness365]

my guess is you could find someone through christianmingle.com, or by volunteering. Basically, once you live a life like you want the other person to be doing, you'll find you have something in common with them. If you want to find someone godly, do something that you think a godly person would be doing and meet someone there. Try volunteering at a soup kitchen and see if you meet anyone your age there, and just talk to them, see if you have anything in common with them. Even if you don't meet anyone you want to date you're still helping other people out and building a resume for jobs and making God happy. It's weird to me how so many Christians in America want to be with someone that's a serious Christian, but then they go to bars or parties with illegal drugs or doing illegal activities or egging other people's houses to be cool to find them there. Like, if the person you're serious about wouldn't be doing that, why are you trying to find them there?

 

[SnowyMacie]

Hmm interesting. I've never used an online dating site. I'm hesitant, I don't know if God would want me to use one. Thoughts or experiences?

The only experience in online dating I have is Tinder.

 

[redblue22]

dating while egging? I never thought of that.

 

[orangeness365]

dating while egging? I never thought of that.

didn't you know? it's all the rage!

but it is something to do together isn't it? Some people have twisted fantasies. You never know. That may be somebody else's ideal date.

 

[hawkeyelovejs]

I don't date. If I get to know someone casually and like who they are and they like me, then we can take it to the next level. No pressure there like with dating.

This. Friendship first and let a relationship naturally progress. Actual dating, in my experience, has been a waste of time.

 

[Jupiter Drops]

As a christian woman, im 23 years old. Im having trouble figuring out how to date and in what way is the most appropriate? where should i go to look or should i just wait?

Step 1: Be his friend.
Step 2: Ask him out when you feel that it's time.

(If you get rejected, follow the next steps.)

Step 3: If you got rejected, forget about him and move on.
Step 4: Rinse, lather, repeat.

 

[hawkeyelovejs]

Step 1: Be his friend.
Step 2: Ask him out when you feel that it's time.

(If you get rejected, follow the next steps.)

Step 3: If you got rejected, forget about him and move on.
Step 4: Rinse, lather, repeat.

^^Like!

 

[CCHIPSS]

That 23-25 age gap is the most dangerous age gap for single ladies. They get so desperate and vulnerable during those fill years.

So before anything else let me say this. DO NOT be desperate and vulnerable.

Else you will risk losing a lot more than you will gain. I have heard of real life cases.

Let me say one more thing. NEVER let a guy know that you are home alone. Any guy it doesn't matter. You have no idea how dangerous that is. And never let him enter your house/apartment. It doesn't matter if he say he needs to toilet or he needs water. Once again I know real life cases.

 

[youngthomas]

That 23-25 age gap is the most dangerous age gap for single ladies. They get so desperate and vulnerable during those fill years.

So before anything else let me say this. DO NOT be desperate and vulnerable.

Else you will risk losing a lot more than you will gain. I have heard of real life cases.

Let me say one more thing. NEVER let a guy know that you are home alone. Any guy it doesn't matter. You have no idea how dangerous that is. And never let him enter your house/apartment. It doesn't matter if he say he needs to toilet or he needs water. Once again I know real life cases.

I get the need to be cautious. But really? Never let a guy you are dating into your apartment? Seems a bit of a strict rule. Not all guys are creepers. But, I can understand the motto better to be safe than sorry. I'm sure it's a valid suggestion.

 

[keith99]

I get the need to be cautious. But really? Never let a guy you are dating into your apartment? Seems a bit of a strict rule. Not all guys are creepers. But, I can understand the motto better to be safe than sorry. I'm sure it's a valid suggestion.

Never let a guy in your apartment? Idiocy. It is the stupidity of ignoring the flip side of the coin. Guys learn some caution too. If you had been dating someone for 6 months and they still are concerned about letting you in their apartment you are going to things are not quite right.

And it is worthless safety wise, at least if you ever ride in their car. If the guy is a axe murderer that is all the chance he will need. Or a walk on the beach after a dinner at Gladstones.

Not going inside for a nightcap is far different from never inside.

EDIT: Oh and if getting in his car is now out, let's not forget that he is just as dangerous walking you to your car. So that is out too. So always drive separate cars. Of course if you walk back to your car alone there is the danger of being mugged in the parking lot. So no dates that end after dark.

 

[keith99]

This. Friendship first and let a relationship naturally progress. Actual dating, in my experience, has been a waste of time.

My personal ideal is knowing someone as part of yuor social set first. Seeing them as part of the group, seeing how they treat others and how they act in a non-dating , actually in a non boy/girl setting at all, before even becoming the kind of friends where something more could grow.

An ideal, not something one should limit them-self to, but something one should recognize the value of.

 

[vanillaicecream]

As a christian woman, im 23 years old. Im having trouble figuring out how to date and in what way is the most appropriate? where should i go to look or should i just wait?

We're in the same age, and we have the same questions. Haha

Anyway, a wise person gave me an advise a few days ago. He said "Pray for him then look for him."

 

[anewman1993]

We're in the same age, and we have the same questions. Haha

Anyway, a wise person gave me an advise a few days ago. He said "Pray for him then look for him."

Lol, I'm a guy, but sometimes I feel BAD about praying for a wife (i'm 21). But then I remember this verse.

In luke 11

5 Then Jesus said to them, “Suppose you have a friend, and you go to him at midnight and say, ‘Friend, lend me three loaves of bread; 6 a friend of mine on a journey has come to me, and I have no food to offer him.’ 7 And suppose the one inside answers, ‘Don’t bother me. The door is already locked, and my children and I are in bed. I can’t get up and give you anything.’ 8 I tell you, even though he will not get up and give you the bread because of friendship, yet because of your shameless audacity he will surely get up and give you as much as you need.
9 “So I say to you: Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. 10 For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.

Apparently, god WANTS us to bug him, who knew.

 

[hawkeyelovejs]

Lol, I'm a guy, but sometimes I feel BAD about praying for a wife (i'm 21). But then I remember this verse.

In luke 11



Apparently, god WANTS us to bug him, who knew.

Why would you feel bad praying for a wife?

Also, regarding another poster's comments about not letting a guy into your house or letting him know you're home alone etc., perhaps you shouldn't do that type of stuff if you're just getting to know one another, but eventually it's going to seem odd and cause problems. If you're going to be in a relationship with someone, you have to be able to trust them to make it work. If you can't trust them, you shouldn't be in the relationship.

 

[AztecSDSU]

That 23-25 age gap is the most dangerous age gap for single ladies. They get so desperate and vulnerable during those fill years.

So before anything else let me say this. DO NOT be desperate and vulnerable.

Else you will risk losing a lot more than you will gain. I have heard of real life cases.

Let me say one more thing. NEVER let a guy know that you are home alone. Any guy it doesn't matter. You have no idea how dangerous that is. And never let him enter your house/apartment. It doesn't matter if he say he needs to toilet or he needs water. Once again I know real life cases.

Yes, all men are trying to rape you. That's really a good lesson to impart, be rabidly paranoid everyone is out to get you at all times, does wonders for the social life.

 

[vanillaicecream]

Lol, I'm a guy, but sometimes I feel BAD about praying for a wife (i'm 21). But then I remember this verse.

In luke 11



Apparently, god WANTS us to bug him, who knew.

Why would you feel bad praying for her?

I think it's pretty sweet and nice. 😘
Like you're praying for her health, her finances and family.

 

[anewman1993]

Why would you feel bad praying for a wife?

Also, regarding another poster's comments about not letting a guy into your house or letting him know you're home alone etc., perhaps you shouldn't do that type of stuff if you're just getting to know one another, but eventually it's going to seem odd and cause problems. If you're going to be in a relationship with someone, you have to be able to trust them to make it work. If you can't trust them, you shouldn't be in the relationship.

Why would you feel bad praying for her?

I think it's pretty sweet and nice. 😘
Like you're praying for her health, her finances and family.

Its not that I feel bad praying for her, its the fact I feel like I'm ALWAYS praying about it, and pleading with him to bring us together soon

 

[throughchristimchanged]

As a christian woman, im 23 years old. Im having trouble figuring out how to date and in what way is the most appropriate? where should i go to look or should i just wait?

why are you trying to date.?

 

[Niels]

Friends first is ideal. Even if we barely know each other when I ask her out, I view it as more akin to friendship than to pairing up. At least at first. Depending on how well we click, I adjust my expectations accordingly.

 

[hawkeyelovejs]

Its not that I feel bad praying for her, its the fact I feel like I'm ALWAYS praying about it, and pleading with him to bring us together soon

Haha...I do that, too. So frequently that I often use the line: "Okay, God, you know what I would like, and I'm just going to pray to you one more time and ask for this, and if the answer is no I'll accept that and I won't ask again."

Lies, all lies lol.