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fadedglory

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with BPD?

when something 'bad' happens, i tend to just blow it out of proportion. sometimes it is really bad, other times it's not that bad.

after some time looking back, i feel silly for making such a big deal out of things. then other times i think about it and it makes me upset.

i just wish i could let things go. i wish i wouldn't let little things get to me.
 

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I know what you're saying. I blow things out of proportion myself. Almost like I don't have the proper scales to way what is necessary to deal with and what needs to be left behind me.
I try to use scripture to decide what truely is important and what is to be left alone.
 
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with BPD?

when something 'bad' happens, i tend to just blow it out of proportion. sometimes it is really bad, other times it's not that bad.

after some time looking back, i feel silly for making such a big deal out of things. then other times i think about it and it makes me upset.

i just wish i cold let things go. i wish i wouldn't let little things get to me.


The only thing that has made me be able to cope with this aspect of our disorder is medication. Our overractive sensitivity to our emotions is along the same lines as a panic attack and anxiety medications have really curbed this embarrassing behavior.

I know in the past I have been so dramatic over stupid things that I was embarrassed to the point that I spent a long time trying to come up with some excuse for my behavior just so I could be seen and hold my head up high.

Think of a burn victim. Just a slight breeze can put them in complete agony while it doesnt even affect others at all. This is an example of our emotional reaction to things. There is a major difference between intelligence and emotional intelligence. How frustrating it has been for me to know that my behavior is bizarre and uncalled for logically but that my emotions had different plans.

People dont know that I have BPD. I tell everyone that I have an anxiety disorder. BPD could be classified in this way so its not a lie but the reason I tell people that I have an anxiety disorder is that these dramatic blown out of proportion things are a reaction caused by anxiety thus the reason that medications for anxiety are sometimes helpful.

Hope this helps....
 
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My husband told me that he thinks I am bi-polar. From the posts on this forum I think he may be right. I had no idea this was what I had for a long time. I am glad I can finally put a name on my problem.

Bipolar or BPD?
BPD is borderline personality disorder what this forum is about. Often similer in some respects one common difference is BPD will often get hyper when depressed and tend to go up and down more frequently. I don't know if that makes sence maybe someone else can clarify.
 
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I try to think about what is happening with a situation before actually reacting first. Unfortunately it does not always work that way. Everyone is different in how they react. I have found that reading the bible or talking to someone close to me works good, or I meditate and pray for guidance. I hope you get some way to cope either from someone here or figure it out for yourself. I will be praying for you. Brian
 
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