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How do you choose a career path?

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My problem is that I like to do too many things. It hurts me because whenever I'm doing something I always wonder if I should be doing something else.... Sometimes I get frustrated with the job I'm doing at the moment and wish I had chosen a different field. When I switch to that field I then get frustrated over something stupid, and wish I was working back in the other one.

I have not gone to school because I don't want to use my hard earned money on a degree that in 10 minutes might make me change my mind.

How do you choose something in life and stick with it? Many people are born with natural talents (ball players, musicians, etc.) and love to do what they do each and every day. How do those of us with multiple loves/hobbies choose what they want to do without feeling regretful for not choosing something else?

I'm ready to blow my brains out because I waste so much time thinking about what I think I should want to do, rather than picking something and doing it!?
 

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I can relate because I am like that too. I can do so many different things. Generally a persons resume is in one area/field. Mine is in 3 or 4.

Ground yourself- meaning make a list of all the things you loved to do. In that list write why you think you would love doing that particular job.

I worked, also trained then at lunch time would teach anyone who wanted to learn sign language then get off of work and volunteered working with children in sports. And I was happy. It takes a while to figure out which job holds your interest. I wasn't really happy until I started my own non-profit and I still have to work too.

Be Blessed! Stay Blessed!

All The Glory Belongs To God!
 
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Confidence in what you do comes in time. If your good or like to do several things, then factor in your needs for time for yourself, money, and work availability. If your planing on having a family you obviously can't have a job that will keep you for 80 hours a week. Also look at pay, it may not mean much now, but look at where the salary caps are in the Fields you want to work in. Finally Job availability. This is important unless you know your willing to work at the same job for the same company for the rest of your life. Also in case you change jobs try to pick a career that will have shills that or can transfer to your second choice.

Don't give up keep trying and remember make a decision and follow thru with it because it will add to your personal confidence and over decision making ablity.
 
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Mate, don't know how old you are, but we all have been through that. I couldn't sort myself out by the time I was 22, so I joined the Army, and boy did that sort me out. Oh, that was the Aussie Army.

Mate, we all had to make different types of choices and decisions, and we stuff up, and from those stuff ups, we learn more lessons, and gain more experience.

I can tell that you are confused and in doubt, so have you shared this with your pastor or a Christian counsellor, because I can see there is also much hurt within your "soul"?

Be blessed in Jesus' Name.
 
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I asked God to give me a carreer. Two weeks later an opportunity came up. I almost turned it down because it was a trade that I knew absolutely nothing about. That was 1975 and I'm still at it. If anyone wants to do it this way, be prepared to have to step out of your box. That's the way God does it most of the time.
 
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My problem is that I like to do too many things. It hurts me because whenever I'm doing something I always wonder if I should be doing something else.... Sometimes I get frustrated with the job I'm doing at the moment and wish I had chosen a different field. When I switch to that field I then get frustrated over something stupid, and wish I was working back in the other one.

I have not gone to school because I don't want to use my hard earned money on a degree that in 10 minutes might make me change my mind.

How do you choose something in life and stick with it? Many people are born with natural talents (ball players, musicians, etc.) and love to do what they do each and every day. How do those of us with multiple loves/hobbies choose what they want to do without feeling regretful for not choosing something else?

I'm ready to blow my brains out because I waste so much time thinking about what I think I should want to do, rather than picking something and doing it!?

I don't know if you've thought of this, but you won't be stuck in one area working for the rest of your life. Try picking one that offers you a fair availability of jobs and/or one that offers you a more immediate payback period (i.e. the career that will give you the fastest return on your money spent on education) and then go back and study part-time the other degrees that interest you as time and finances permit. For example, you'd have a better chance of getting a job in finance or business than in astronomy.

I feel that I can relate to you to some degree in that I too am not certain as to what I should do and there are many things that I want to undertake. I'm that type of person that just wants to get to the destination and hates the 'in-between' period. I want to study psychology, law, and theology, but I'm currently studying commerce because I realise that it is more easier to get going in a career and start earning more money that I can then use to further my education part time in other fields that interest me.

As I get those other degrees, then I can consider changing my career accordingly as I don't want to be doing accounting for the rest of my life.

Ask God for guidance, but don't be afraid to step out in faith and start a degree. Sometimes circumstances just align up for a specific path and that may be God, or other times you may have a strong feeling (conviction) to do something, or you may just have to step out and do something.

Good luck with it all...
 
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you will just have to choose. That's life. Sometimes we can engage in other things around our chosen career as hobbies, lifelong interests etc. But when you do make a choice don't waste time and energy constantly revisiting whether of not you did the right thing. Remember too, we have eternity to try out all sorts of options.

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These days the average person has about 7 different career changes ... and that's just average! Gone are the days where people went into one area and stayed there until they retired.

I do relate to your frustration. I'm in a transitional point in my life, in two areas I like but not able to do both, yet loving both and not wanting to give up either. And another choice is to make a radical change which alters both. Very hard and very draining with the thinking! Sounds like that is where you are at as well.

I would ask you, what are you most passionate about? What makes you most excited when you get in your car to go to it? That is probably the area you should go into and if you change your mind down the track, so what? If you decide to study, a degree in any field opens a lot of doors. Changing track often just involves some extra study for a year or two additional to your degree.

It's good to have options though can be challenging to decide :) Ask God to close the doors he doesn't want you to go down.
 
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I'm exactly where you are. I have no idea what I really want to do, I've held many jobs but always wondering, what else is out there? I've had a good paying job I quit because I hated it, it was boring and unproductive, I went back to doing the job before and left after I had a food allergy, now I'm subbing, dont like that either but I know what I DON'T like at least! LOL.
I like to study many different things too from English,Criminal Justice, Marketing, Sociology, Psychology, and Communication.
Lately, I've just had to give it to God. I wanted to keep ahold of my life for myself but realized I was only fighting the "wind" and driving myelf crazy. I remember that God is not the author of confusion, so this wasn't His plan. I just stopped. I let God handle it and my husband and I have applied for a lovely opportunity.
I'm 22 as well, and hate college, I do not want to spend my money wasting it on trying to figure out what I want out of life. My advice to you would, 1) do temp jobs or something, find something you like 2) then go to school. That's what I plan on doing but God could change my mind.
Pray about your situation, lean not unto your own understanding. God's ways are not our ways. I've already posted something SO similar to yours, so wish you blessings and a peace about life.
 
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The one thing I don't like about giving my life to God and his decision, is that I feel like I'm giving up. I have always been extremely ambitious and hard working, so to me it's as if I'm throwing in the towel and saying "whatever". To me, that's not how life works. You want something bad enough and you work your butt off to get it. This is why I can't understand how I love too many different things. Normally I could just pick one... but when it comes to life it's a lot harder.
 
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When I wanted to start a new a job I would do it. If God opened the door I would jump right in. Everyone has to do something for money, Jesus was a carpenter, some of his disciples were fisher men, etc.

The only thing i would worry about is if u enjoy it. We are so overly blessed to live in such great nations, that we have the opportunity to really do any career path that we want.
 
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You need to choose something that you will enjoy and that it will allow you to change the world. Make a difference, whether its for making peoples lifes easier or helping the less fortunate with your career.

Ask God for guidance and he will give it to you. For my personal experienced i asked God to guide me and to open the doors for me and indeed he did. Now I'm at school with a full ride scholarship and plan to major in computer science. Odds of getting free education were little for me but a miracle happen. I believe because I am here to do great things. I have big plans not just for myself but for the whole world. Thats the problem with people today most dont think of doing something that will change the world its only about their life no one else. So stop thinking just about yourself and ask what you can do for your community or the whole world.
 
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I totally hear you, its really hard to know what the heck to do. I am rather at a loss myself. I am in retail, and know for sure that is NOT where I want to stay, so I am trying to get into something admin/reception type field. I feel like I am just taking a stab in the dark.
I think the thing to do is just prayerfully try and go forward. Just keep praying and telling God you aren't sure what to do, and to guide you. Its hard I know, it is when you aren't sure what the hey to do. For instance I am learning what I can about admin type work, am signed up to volunteer in admin type work, put out tons of resumes, but keep praying about it and just hope God will stop me if its not where He wants me to be.
 
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You mentioned there was 3 or 4 different things you'd like to do. Start looking for work in ALL those fields, apply to those you find interesting. Pray for God's will to be done in it and see where it takes ya.

Sometimes submitting to God's will takes you in a direction you never would have gone on your own.
 
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Also look at pay, it may not mean much now, but look at where the salary caps are in the Fields you want to work in. Finally Job availability.
People talk about careers as if they should be the end-all definition of who you are, the fulfillment of every dream. But the reality is, your bills need to get paid. You will always have expenses, so you should plan for how efficiently you can meet them.
I couldn't sort myself out by the time I was 22, so I joined the Army, and boy did that sort me out.
Good idea -- the military helps people with direction and training, because things simply need to get done. They provide the openings, and entrust you with more than you might entrust yourself.
You mentioned there was 3 or 4 different things you'd like to do. Start looking for work in ALL those fields, apply to those you find interesting. Pray for God's will to be done in it and see where it takes ya.
These days the average person has about 7 different career changes .
There's a good book that encourages people to set up their life with that in mind. It talks about putting your goals into the most sensible schedule, then trying them one by one.

I Could Do Anything If I Only Knew What It Was, by Barbara Sher


I'm like that too, and praying fervently for several years didn't get me a magical answer. God wanted me to learn other things through the decision -- how to make a decision, lol...how to risk and accept being wrong... how to move forward boldly... how to involve Him as a guide instead of dictator. He answered my prayers, but not in the way I wanted Him to. He used all things for the good of those who love Him. I had misunderstood what He wanted from me.

Ironically, once I placed myself in a large company where I could grow, God dropped great opportunities into my lap. You know that you have a great work ethic, so once you apply yourself to a challenge, you will do fine. Just place yourself somewhere that's not the perfect fit, and start moving forward. It might eventually become more "you" after you put your personal stamp on it.

You want something bad enough and you work your butt off to get it. This is why I can't understand how I love too many different things. Normally I could just pick one... but when it comes to life it's a lot harder.
Use your brain's sensibility to apply your determination. I wasted a lot of time trying things that I knew didn't make money, thinking I could rise above that reality, or that money didn't matter, or that if I worked really hard it would all add up. But instead I ended up with a lot of clutter and discouragement. Plan as if it were someone else's life. Step out of the personal aspects.

I was watching an entrepreneur show, and they pointed out how dangerous it can be to get too caught up in doing what you love. The people whose businesses succeeded were able to distance themselves enough from the product or service.

About training, what you're saying is sensible. To some extent. After a few years of working, you will find a cieling for how high employers will allow you to go without a degree. It would be worth taking one course at time, and some employers will even cover it. (Fewer these days.) Look into apprenticeship programs. Take courses that will build your skill and knowledge base up to the next thing you want to do. If you lose some credits because you change your mind, you will still know that the courses got you to a certain level of expertise.

Most people will suggest that you start education with required courses that will transfer anywhere. But in your situation, you are not sure you will complete the programs that require these courses. Use education for yourself. Find out what it takes to get the places you want to go, then work backwards. Use your brain to set up your life, not just to prove your knowledge. (That sounds insulting, but I just mean be proactive.)
 
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