(Not exactly a moral/ethical question, but one concerning human interaction, so I guess I can put it here.)
Usually, I am quite interested in hearing other people´s opinions and learning about the way they construct their reality, but sometimes...
There´s a guy in my Badminton team who has figured it all out. Everything. So he´s holding endless lectures, explaining the world to everyone who hasn´t even asked. In a quite loud and intense voice and tone. Something I find hard to bear, anyway.
Now add to this that his interests, his purposes, his meanings, his life contents, his values, his longings and fears are so different than mine that there is hardly any common ground, and I would have a hard time even summoning up a minimal interest in his elaborations.
Usually, it´s not that much of a problem, because during training hours I concentrate on playing and training. However, it´s this time of the year when each and every community have their X-mas parties; when they suggest to go to a X-mas market together etc. etc.
I don´t find such socializing and small-talk events particularly attractive anyway, but most of the time I participate just so not to irritate people or endanger the team spirit.
However, the prospect of spending one entire night listening to the sermons of the above mentioned person makes me sick. I am aware that everyone is different, I am aware that I am an odd freak myself to many people, but sometimes the mis-match is so extreme....
Any thoughts or suggestions?
Usually, I am quite interested in hearing other people´s opinions and learning about the way they construct their reality, but sometimes...
There´s a guy in my Badminton team who has figured it all out. Everything. So he´s holding endless lectures, explaining the world to everyone who hasn´t even asked. In a quite loud and intense voice and tone. Something I find hard to bear, anyway.
Now add to this that his interests, his purposes, his meanings, his life contents, his values, his longings and fears are so different than mine that there is hardly any common ground, and I would have a hard time even summoning up a minimal interest in his elaborations.
Usually, it´s not that much of a problem, because during training hours I concentrate on playing and training. However, it´s this time of the year when each and every community have their X-mas parties; when they suggest to go to a X-mas market together etc. etc.
I don´t find such socializing and small-talk events particularly attractive anyway, but most of the time I participate just so not to irritate people or endanger the team spirit.
However, the prospect of spending one entire night listening to the sermons of the above mentioned person makes me sick. I am aware that everyone is different, I am aware that I am an odd freak myself to many people, but sometimes the mis-match is so extreme....
Any thoughts or suggestions?