How do I stop caring about women constantly?

[OldWiseGuy]

LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL

Yeah the same candy store you used to have fun in once upon a time!

But - maybe the service from church has pumped me!

Before I was still thinking about the trauma of my previous 'relationship' and thinking of her at times - but, Sir, I DESERVE WAY BETTER!

Bring home a lady that my mother can be SO PROUD OF knowing she is a believer and a woman with great spirit! Long term thinking!

Anyway - look - I feel a good spirit inside me right now!

Will be having a long chat with God tonight! I need advice!

I advise that you take a long cold shower.

 

[bèlla]

I want a Christian non-feminist woman, attractive, with traditional values and one that does NOT hold high value to "worldy" accomplishments.

Non-feminist attractive women are in high demand. Most men are seeking the same. You have a lot of competition. Christian and secular.

 

[J Daniel]

I advise that you take a long cold shower.

My Spirit ain't advising me that Sir!

 

[Romans 8]

Non-feminist attractive women are in high demand. Most men are seeking the same. You have a lot of competition. Christian and secular.

Yes. They tend to marry younger, with men whom are brought up with the similar values, and stay married.

 

[bèlla]

Yes. They tend to marry younger, with men whom are brought up with the similar values, and stay married.

Some marry younger. Others don’t. I’ve known a lot.

 

[Romans 8]

Some marry younger. Others don’t. I’ve known a lot.

So there's still hope?

 

[bèlla]

So there's still hope?

If you get out of the way. ;-)

Marriage is a vocation. But that doesn’t mean its your lone mission. There are things God desires to accomplish through you and the union. Understanding your purpose is pivotal. You’ll make a wiser choice.

Consider the woman you’re seeking and the rarity of those qualities in today’s culture. Do you think that’s for you alone? Probably not!

Get on His page. How could the Kingdom benefit from the godly woman you desire and its complement? He doesn’t always call us to what’s comfortable or familiar.

My love of headship didn’t prevent Him from calling me to entrepreneurship. He knew I’d be good at it and willing to stick my neck out. He knew I’d feel comfortable hopping on a stage discussing my marriage and admitting he’s in charge. We need godly examples in our midst and the world.

The woman whose mission complements your own will fit in ways others don’t. She will be your biggest cheerleader and support your work. But don’t underestimate what He might seek. You may miss your blessing because it didn’t arrive in the guise you expected.

 

[bèlla]

So, should I speak to the Bishop and ask about her in that way?

Or should I speak to her mother?

Cos I would love to invite her and her mother over for dinner one day with my relatives too (that would be awesome!)

Right now you’re unsettled and bouncing here and there. Allow things to calm first. When you’re on an even keel your conversation will change. You’ll project the peace you carry within.

That’s reassuring for a woman and her family. Get to know her at church activities and build up to invitations elsewhere. There’s no need to rush.

 

[Romans 8]

Marriage is a vocation. But that doesn’t mean its your lone mission. There are things God desires to accomplish through you and the union. Understanding your purpose is pivotal. You’ll make a wiser choice.

Consider the woman you’re seeking and the rarity of those qualities in today’s culture. Do you think that’s for you alone? Probably not!

Get on His page. How could the Kingdom benefit from the godly woman you desire and its complement? He doesn’t always call us to what’s comfortable or familiar.

My love of headship didn’t prevent Him from calling me to entrepreneurship. He knew I’d be good at it and willing to stick my neck out. He knew I’d feel comfortable hopping on a stage discussing my marriage and admitting he’s in charge. We need godly examples in our midst and the world.

The woman whose mission complements your own will fit in ways others don’t. She will be your biggest cheerleader and support your work. But don’t underestimate what He might seek. You may miss your blessing because it didn’t arrive in the guise you expected.

Wise words my dear. "Seek God first and all things shall be added unto you." This is where I've been pointing towards. I don't know what God has planned for me. In the next 5 years I could end up half way across the world spreading the word of the Gospel. It may be that I meet my wife there. It may be that I never marry. But you're right. Like the ending of Casablanca but in a Godly sense, His purpose for our marriages are for His benefit, not so much ours.

Thank you for that. One of the best posts I've read on the matter. God Bless you!

 

[OldWiseGuy]

My Spirit ain't advising me that Sir!

Which one?

 

[J Daniel]

Right now you’re unsettled and bouncing here and there. Allow things to calm first. When you’re on an even keel your conversation will change. You’ll project the peace you carry within.

That’s reassuring for a woman and her family. Get to know her at church activities and build up to invitations elsewhere. There’s no need to rush.

I agree with what you said.

I have been to a few church activities; never seen her at any. She is just a Sunday woman.

But I will break ice when the feeling is right - but I have such an interest in her! I do.

But I will just be chilled and let nature take its course.

 

[J Daniel]

Which one?

The women that you rejected - what were their names?

 

[OldWiseGuy]

The women that you rejected - what were their names?

Why do you ask?

 

[J Daniel]

Why do you ask?

Cos I think their names were: Jennifer and Maria.

 

[OldWiseGuy]

Cos I think their names were: Jennifer and Maria.

Nope.

 

[J Daniel]

Nope.

Take care!

 

[S.O.J.I.A.]

I think many people misunderstand what chasing women actually means. It's not running up to every girl on the street asking them for their number. It's more like trying to find a needle in a haystack. Interviewing people you meet to find out what makes them tick. See of there's chemistry. See if they're compatible.

Personally, I'm not interested in what society deems a 10. I want a Christian non-feminist woman, attractive, with traditional values and one that does NOT hold high value to "worldy" accomplishments. I don't wish for a corporate queen or running 5 businesses and training for the annual triathlon, dragon boat racing, or, name your time wasting event here.

no one made any of the claims you have put forth in this post. you're approaching this thread utterly confused.

fall back..

 

[bèlla]

Wise words my dear. "Seek God first and all things shall be added unto you." This is where I've been pointing towards. I don't know what God has planned for me. In the next 5 years I could end up half way across the world spreading the word of the Gospel. It may be that I meet my wife there. It may be that I never marry. But you're right. Like the ending of Casablanca but in a Godly sense, His purpose for our marriages are for His benefit, not so much ours.

Thank you for that. One of the best posts I've read on the matter. God Bless you!

Thank you for the compliment. I’m happy to help. I’ve been walking this out myself and He’s opened many doors on my behalf. It’s exciting to see my purpose unfolding and the lives I’ve touched en route.

If I relied on my understanding I’d be married by now! But forsaking His mission is not an option and He’s rewarded my faithfulness many times over.

Our mandate for making disciples isn’t limited to ordinary places. He needs ambassadors in every echelon of society. And willing men and women who’ll answer His call.

May Adonai order your steps and bring you the one He prepared as your beloved helpmeet. God bless!

 

[bèlla]

I have been to a few church activities; never seen her at any. She is just a Sunday woman.

She may have a demanding schedule that makes it difficult to attend. Stay focused. You’ll be noticed. Women don’t miss much. ;-)

But I will just be chilled and let nature take its course.

Chill is attractive and a little exciting. You look forward to the dialogues and their company. Anticipation builds over time. Intrigue is good. Fawning, not so much.

 

[J Daniel]

She may have a demanding schedule that makes it difficult to attend. Stay focused. You’ll be noticed. Women don’t miss much. ;-)

Yeah - well women don't miss much (if they like that person anyway )

Chill is attractive and a little exciting. You look forward to the dialogues and their company. Anticipation builds over time. Intrigue is good. Fawning, not so much.

OH AGREE! Anticipation and mystery is quite a mix cos you wonder! It is exciting! Don't get me wrong!

I still remember it, like yesterday, holding her hand in prayer and hugging her afterwards #HeartSwoons! She had such a feminine aura about her. Really nice hands! Takes pride in herself! The type of lady I would want to take by the waist with one hand - and hold her hand with the other .
I will know when the moment is right to speak to her - when we just happen to be next to one another or when we all greet one another whatever it might be - I will know when things are right.

Yeah: life!