Okay so I was reading Philippians 2:14 Do all things without murmurings and disputings: And as God is my witness I do my best to stay away from disputes but I have a terrible time with murmuring ie complaining. And I really don't think that God is going say well done you got it half right, so any advice how to get a more thankful spirit, and to complain a whole lot less? I mean I make the Children of Israel complaining in the Wilderness look like choir boys.
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How do I not complain?
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I have a feeling I need to spend time with these words.
I have no problem with being thankful. I take time thru the day to say thanks be thankful my life and the many good things that are going on around it.
Some people think I complain sometimes. The comments I make that they respond to in my mind are just observations of what is happening around me quite often as a result of an action I've taken. Like I bought a stock and it went down in value.
Disputes. Now I love a good discussion. I doesn't get mad at the others, or even insult them because they don't believe my point of view. These talks seem healthy to me. Now I can see if a talk leads to people separating and therefore not talking to each other. But I know that I've never separated myself from anyone or even looked down on them because they believed differently than I do about some topic.
I have no problem with being thankful. I take time thru the day to say thanks be thankful my life and the many good things that are going on around it.
Some people think I complain sometimes. The comments I make that they respond to in my mind are just observations of what is happening around me quite often as a result of an action I've taken. Like I bought a stock and it went down in value.
Disputes. Now I love a good discussion. I doesn't get mad at the others, or even insult them because they don't believe my point of view. These talks seem healthy to me. Now I can see if a talk leads to people separating and therefore not talking to each other. But I know that I've never separated myself from anyone or even looked down on them because they believed differently than I do about some topic.
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Will I wouldn't call that disputing as much as dicussing differences of opinion and I like what Solomon wrote on that. Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friends. Proverbs 27:17
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I was thinking about this in a different way. I was going to ask the question here "What do I deserve?" I have a SIL who gets all indignant if you don't treat her with respect...but she doesn't live a life that earns respect. I have heard people here say they "deserve a good spouse"...(can't honestly say I haven't thought it at times too) but honestly, do we?
What do we really "deserve"? Nothing but hell. Everything else is a gift. If we look at life that way, how can we complain or grumble.
I am working on this attitude adjustment. The best I can do right now is that although much of my life sucks (or is lacking in the areas I value), over all, I am very blessed (and mean that with my whole heart.)
What do we really "deserve"? Nothing but hell. Everything else is a gift. If we look at life that way, how can we complain or grumble.
I am working on this attitude adjustment. The best I can do right now is that although much of my life sucks (or is lacking in the areas I value), over all, I am very blessed (and mean that with my whole heart.)
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A lot of life is just coping with things. That is not fair but it seems to often be what we are given.
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Blackribbon that is honestly a wonderful answer
. I will have to keep that in mind. Thanks for your great testimony.
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For me, I do alot of different things and yet sometimes I still find myself complaining.
There have been times where I have forced myself to say "Thank you Lord for my flat tire (or whatever crisis just happened) even though I don't FEEL like thanking the Lord I do it anyway.
Sometimes when I find myself grumbling, I am reminded of someone else that has it far worse than I do. While I might be grumbling about my dryer not heating correctly or whatever, my friend has CANCER and all those parents at Sandy Hook, just lost their KIDS! So when I am able to put it in perspective, I see that my little (or big) troubles aren't very big in the grand scheme of things.
Also I do not know God's plan but I do believe nothing happens by chance so while God doesn't cause everything to happen, He does allow tragedy and brokenness to happen in our lives to fulfill His greater purpose and I have to remember that too.
And lastly I will just tell the Lord, "Lord I don't know why this happened, and I can't do anything to change it, I need YOUR help because only You can change the situation or my attitude toward it. Thank you Lord that I can put my trust in You.
There have been times where I have forced myself to say "Thank you Lord for my flat tire (or whatever crisis just happened) even though I don't FEEL like thanking the Lord I do it anyway.
Sometimes when I find myself grumbling, I am reminded of someone else that has it far worse than I do. While I might be grumbling about my dryer not heating correctly or whatever, my friend has CANCER and all those parents at Sandy Hook, just lost their KIDS! So when I am able to put it in perspective, I see that my little (or big) troubles aren't very big in the grand scheme of things.
Also I do not know God's plan but I do believe nothing happens by chance so while God doesn't cause everything to happen, He does allow tragedy and brokenness to happen in our lives to fulfill His greater purpose and I have to remember that too.
And lastly I will just tell the Lord, "Lord I don't know why this happened, and I can't do anything to change it, I need YOUR help because only You can change the situation or my attitude toward it. Thank you Lord that I can put my trust in You.
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